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RE: Masochism and Self Harm - 4/14/2008 2:04:24 AM

MasterFireMaam

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It's the intent behind the actions that make it harmful, or not, to me. Inflicting pain, in an effort to mask, repress or supress emotion is negative in any form. Inflicting pain in a consenting way, especially if that leads to cathartic release, is positive...and often a spiritual thing.

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RE: Masochism and Self Harm - 4/14/2008 3:22:50 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

It's the intent behind the actions that make it harmful, or not, to me. Inflicting pain, in an effort to mask, repress or supress emotion is negative in any form. Inflicting pain in a consenting way, especially if that leads to cathartic release, is positive...and often a spiritual thing.

Master Fire

yes. THAT. i self-harm to ease emotional pain. this (for me) leads to me feeling worse after the initial release is over with, not only because i did it, but because i know Daddy will be disappointed in me. but when i tell him "i feel shaky, and upset, and am afraid to (insert whatever activity that could cause a cut) because i am afraid i will hurt myself," he tells me i'm a good obedient girl for telling him where my emotions are at that moment, and its enough to ease the need for hurt for a little while.

Daddy gives me pain because he loves me...and i take it because i love him. its reward to me, for trying hard NOT to hurt myself deliberately or accidentally, and always ends with him stroking my skin and telling me again that i'm his good girl for not hurting myself. and that brings me much more ease to my heart/soul than just taking my pain without permission.

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RE: Masochism and Self Harm - 4/14/2008 9:34:54 AM

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Everybody's experience is different. In my own life there has been a big difference between the two. When I was younger I tried to hurt myself (cutting, bruising), and it always came out of a place of self hatred, and a desire to release the emotional pressure that was pent up in me. For me masochism comes out of a place of fun and enjoyment and adventure. I recently did my first scene that left marks on me (bruises on my upper arms and chest), and I was surprised at the sense of pride and general cockyness they gave me. In the past when I had hurt myself, just looking at the marks would make me feel like I had failed and done something shamefull (even though I now am not ashamed of what I did- it got me through a rough patch alive, and that is good enough for me).

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