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DesFIP -> RE: Sharing (3/3/2008 5:02:20 PM)
Totally monogamous here. He can run with scissors but he doesn't share.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Sharing (3/3/2008 5:04:53 PM)
I am in an open poly relationship, so he can go off and have whatever fun he wants as can I, but it wouldn't be what you mean by sharing. We do both enjoy sharing eachother- basically pimping eachother out to others. It's a power buzz, it's a vicarious thrill, and it allows them to experience new things in new ways, which we both like. This is different from my previous Ms relationship in that he would often whore me out, in trade or in gift, and sometimes that would be hot and sometimes that would be boring or annoying.

sweetwenchie -> RE: Sharing (3/3/2008 5:07:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: daddyncherry quote: ORIGINAL: sweetwenchie personally i do not wish nor desire to be shared, and to date have not been with someone who feels differently than i do in that regard. Mind fucks about being shared can be fun, as long as it stays that... just a mind fuck. i think that, the whole mind fuck thing without any reality, would be a super hard limit for me. Eh, i love a damn good mind fuck. One of my many quirks i suppose. i could handle being shared at a play party in a non sexual "just beat the crap out of her "type of way, but being shared sexually... hell no! lol That would be my super hard limit. [;)] to each their own.

daddyncherry -> RE: Sharing (3/3/2008 5:08:20 PM)
Ty LA, i knew you'd have something good and on topic.....exactly the type of response i was hoping for (for the pro-sharing vein)

slaveluci -> RE: Sharing (3/3/2008 5:10:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: daddyncherry How many of you Dominants/Ms like to share your s types with others? Do you like to share them sexually? Or for Sm play only? What do you get out of it on a relationship level when you share them? On a sexual level? Do you like to share with alot of people or only a very select few? How does it impact your relationship positively/negatively? Do you like to do it in a swinging context or only with other BDSM minded people? s types? Same questions only from your point of view Master will only "share me" with other vanilla, sub or slave females. No other men. No female dominants. He shares me sexually and only with a few so far. It impacts us positively as it enhances an already wonderful sex life. What we both get out of it is a lot of fun and excitement and it's not only with other BDSM-minded people. I love being "shared" and would do it alot more if allowed[;)]..............luci

adoracat -> RE: Sharing (3/3/2008 5:11:04 PM)
Daddy and i are both polyamorous. i have a hubby, and one otherlove. Daddy allows me to be with the otherlove (who also is not local to me) and i am allowed some very limited play with him....roleplay, spankings. other than that, vanilla-ish sex is allowed with proper precautions. kitten

SirJohnMandevill -> RE: Sharing (3/3/2008 5:12:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff I don't share Jeff What Jeff said. I want monogamy.. I've had at least two subs tell me it's my "right" as a Dominant to have more than one girl. I figure if I have *ONE* that will please me, and I her, I'll be doin' just fine. Les (Purveyor of Fine, Handcrafted Kink)

Jeffff -> RE: Sharing (3/3/2008 5:12:46 PM)
I know people who share often and under a wide variety of conditions. Like anything else, if it works for them, I am cool with it. It's just not for me Jeff

MissMagnolia -> RE: Sharing (3/3/2008 5:15:42 PM)
Nah, I'm a greedy person too. What's mine is mine, so get your own.

daddyncherry -> RE: Sharing (3/3/2008 5:19:30 PM)
Whew! i was getting worried here, i was seeing almost entirely non-sharing people and was starting to wonder about myself and the possibilities for future play. (Because i don't really relate to the swinger people and was hoping there would be a goodly portion of BDSM people into sharing, gang bangs etc ) i must admit though i am surprised that there aren't more into sharing than have posted thus far.

BitaTruble -> RE: Sharing (3/3/2008 5:20:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: daddyncherry How many of you Dominants/Ms like to share your s types with others? He will share some of my talents or skills (cooking, cleaning, tax prep, helping someone move, etc.) as a service to friends. quote: Do you like to share them sexually? We are sexually monogamous. If we find someone to share our lives (we're not actually looking, but you know, if someone falls from the heavens and lands in our lap, we won't turn them away [:D]) we'll share sexually only within our own closed poly family. quote: Or for Sm play only? Yes, that we do and we do our best to minimize risk quite aware that we cannot, in fact, eliminate risk. quote: What do you get out of it on a relationship level when you share them? Mostly laughs, head space and good times or we wouldn't be doing it. quote: On a sexual level? N/A quote: Do you like to share with alot of people or only a very select few? I'm an equal opportunity sadist. [8D] I'd would top a lot more people if allowed. quote: How does it impact your relationship positively/negatively? No negative impact at all. On the positive side, engaging in SM with other people has exposed us to different techniques and/or ideas we may not have been able to find on our own. quote: Do you like to do it in a swinging context or only with other BDSM minded people? It's not a sexual thing with either one of us, strictly SM so it's always with others who enjoy SM as well. Celeste

Jeffff -> RE: Sharing (3/3/2008 5:24:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia Nah, I'm a greedy person too. What's mine is mine, so get your own. When I get to Aussieland........YOU will be Mine.....[:D] Jeff G'day

MissMagnolia -> RE: Sharing (3/3/2008 5:26:00 PM)
OOEERRR!!! That's the best offer I've had all day[sm=shake.gif][sm=tongue.gif][sm=lol.gif]

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Sharing (3/3/2008 5:27:01 PM)
Cherry chica remember you're on a bdsm board, not a poly board. You aren't even on the poly section of the board. In hetero bdsm, anything other than "core male dom/fem sub who can have another woman be involved" is pretty unique. Go to a poly board and ask how many of them routinely enjoy pain play with their sex and you'll probably get about the same response.

Jeffff -> RE: Sharing (3/3/2008 5:28:34 PM)
Thats an excellent point Jeff

daddyncherry -> RE: Sharing (3/3/2008 5:30:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross Cherry chica remember you're on a bdsm board, not a poly board. You aren't even on the poly section of the board. In hetero bdsm, anything other than "core male dom/fem sub who can have another woman be involved" is pretty unique. Go to a poly board and ask how many of them routinely enjoy pain play with their sex and you'll probably get about the same response. i was looking for a more general response which is why i didn't post in poly....they are poly so i know they share to some extent atleast within their own families....i was really interested in the community at large (such as it is on here).

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Sharing (3/3/2008 5:36:37 PM)
Well you're getting exactly the sort of response I'd expect from a hetero bdsm based community forum, and what you'll generally see at any such event or gathering.

daddyncherry -> RE: Sharing (3/3/2008 5:40:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross Well you're getting exactly the sort of response I'd expect from a hetero bdsm based community forum, and what you'll generally see at any such event or gathering. Which totally surprises me. Maybe you will know the answer to this....if it is not such a common thing why does it SEEM that sharing and gang bang, whoring out type stuff is so prevelant....like, i know its huge fantasy fodder for many but do you know why the reality seems to be that it is not as common as i might've thought?

TreasureKY -> RE: Sharing (3/3/2008 5:40:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: daddyncherry How many of you Dominants/Ms like to share your s types with others? ... s types? Same questions only from your point of view. Firm has been asked if he would ever share me... his answer was a definite "never". While I assumed that request was for sexual contact with me, as Firm is not a sadist and I am not a masochist, I doubt he would be interested in sharing me for S/M play, either. His mantra with regard to sharing me has been from the start, "Mine, mine, mine." [;)] You know... I really like that. It's not only because I have no interest in being shared, but because a great part of D/s that thrills me is belonging to him. His possessiveness and protectiveness of me serves to deepen my submission to him... not to mention just plain makes me warm and tingly all over. [:D]

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Sharing (3/3/2008 5:48:59 PM)
I think partly because the reality is that most bdsm people really ultimately just want a loving normal relationship that aligns with their gender stereotypical ideals and some measure of authority. Adding people into a relationship requires a completely different mindset/orientation- and plenty of people who are open to a RELATIONSHIP would not ever want just an hour to play with someone. There is also still a large sexist double standard in the hetero kink world- the "real" sluts are to be enjoyed for a few dates, but it's the solid mommy/virgins who men stick with. We can't have women too empowered in their sexuality, can we? Many doms are just not secure enough to allow it. And then there's the disease issue. In modern hetero bdsm, we're puritanical paranoiacs. I always say kinky people have the same issues with sex as swingers have with pain. We want our kink antiseptic, rosy fresh, squeaky clean. Anything really dirty and nasty is just ew gross bad dangerous (which is often amusing for those who understand the roots of modern kink). I remember being told at 22 that I'd end up dead in a gutter full of diseases because of my predilections- and this was before I started whoring. I don't want to sound superior here- it's all a matter of preference, personality and orientation. And sharing on all forms DOES exist in the hetero kink world- just not terribly often.

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