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RE: Full Time Work & Taking Care of Master - 9/24/2005 6:43:20 PM

Rayne58

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Oh here is where I can probably get flamed like hell. I am trying to figure out in My mind... why do they not work? Is not part of being in control having the responsibility to provide for what is Yours? Am I confused? I can understand if a Man is disabled... or otherwise incapacitated, but are talking about Men who sit on the couch in their whitey tighties swilling cheap beer all day and belching orders when the sub returns from work? Surely not. Comments on Doms who will not work when they are able bodied?

They are not Doms they are wannabes and bludgers

Anyone who is able to should support themselves, or contribute to a household.

My Master would love to be healthy and have a job but instead is on a disability pension and has been for over 10 years. I would also love to work but instead I am on a pension as His full time carer.

I have money in my own name. If anything happens to Master I need to be able to have that to fall back on. It makes me shudder to hear about women, not necessarily subs or slaves, who have no money of their own. I feel it is a precursor to abuse, or can be. Who is able to leave a relationship if they have no access to support in the way of even a little bit of money?

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RE: Full Time Work & Taking Care of Master - 9/24/2005 7:25:45 PM

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Rayne,

Certainly, you situation is not the type I was talking about. RainGod had it right, as did you with the wannabes and bludgers. But the fact is that these jerks do exist, and typically they find someone who doesn't know any better, already has horribly low self esteem and believes that this idiot is the only one that would have them. So sad.

By "contributing", I am going to make an assumption that you didn't mean to infer than any "stay at home mom/housewife" is not contributing. I will choose to think that you certainly understand that their contribution is to take care of the home and the kids.

Bobbi,

I hear what you are saying about going crazy being home all day. On the other hand (that makes 3, but so what), wouldn't the idea of being able to work on YOUR schedule have its own appeal?

I'm not trying to "rock the boat" per se, personally, I am seriously sitting on the fence here. I absolutely LOVE what I do for a living, and I get great satisfaction out of the difference I am making in other's lives with my job. To be able to do it on the schedule that suited me best though, is very appealing. So is the idea of not having to think so hard every day at work.

The other thing Bobbi, maid service IS a wonderful thing! I know that you love your master/hubby dearly, but a little piece of eye candy cleaning your house couldn't be considered "bad" could it?

After all, it would certainly be better to watch than television.

Ok, ok, before everyone starts ranting and raving...lighthearted fun.

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RE: Full Time Work & Taking Care of Master - 9/24/2005 7:46:00 PM

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i'd go nuts staying home all day, regardless of whether or not i was with someone able to take care of the finances. i don't have any kids to take care of, and i'd hate to develop "soap-opera syndrome." At the same time, there are certain parts of my life that i don't want to give up, reading books, learning firedancing, even just occassional movies or time with friends, and it would be hard to be dependent on someone else for an "allowance" to pay for any of it.

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RE: Full Time Work & Taking Care of Master - 9/24/2005 9:52:58 PM

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i'd go nuts staying home all day, regardless of whether or not i was with someone able to take care of the finances. i don't have any kids to take care of, and i'd hate to develop "soap-opera syndrome." At the same time, there are certain parts of my life that i don't want to give up, reading books, learning firedancing, even just occassional movies or time with friends, and it would be hard to be dependent on someone else for an "allowance" to pay for any of it.

I have no children living with me, and I'd go insane if I had to sit and watch a soap opera. No... my days are quite busy, what with working out 2 hours a day (a requirement to help me lose weight), normal everyday maintenance of the house, piano lessons and practicing an hour a day, walking the dog, redecorating, building the new dungeon (we just moved here a year ago and recently stripped the walls down to the original stone), dealing with contractors, doing my nails (another requirement), landscaping the yard, dealing with the tenants at our old house, trying to find time to build a retail website for my catalog business, trying to find another live-in slave to help me with the housework, re-learning how to sew, Friday afternoon lunches with the girls and my activities with the local BDSM group... I need a clone just to get it all done! Add to that I just went back to work 2.5 days a week so I could have a little extra spending money, and I REALLY need a clone!

Nope... no soap opera bored housewife syndrome here. Don't have the time for it!

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RE: Full Time Work & Taking Care of Master - 9/24/2005 11:59:03 PM

Rayne58

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Rayne,

Certainly, you situation is not the type I was talking about. RainGod had it right, as did you with the wannabes and bludgers. But the fact is that these jerks do exist, and typically they find someone who doesn't know any better, already has horribly low self esteem and believes that this idiot is the only one that would have them. So sad.

By "contributing", I am going to make an assumption that you didn't mean to infer than any "stay at home mom/housewife" is not contributing. I will choose to think that you certainly understand that their contribution is to take care of the home and the kids.

Bobbi,

I hear what you are saying about going crazy being home all day. On the other hand (that makes 3, but so what), wouldn't the idea of being able to work on YOUR schedule have its own appeal?

I'm not trying to "rock the boat" per se, personally, I am seriously sitting on the fence here. I absolutely LOVE what I do for a living, and I get great satisfaction out of the difference I am making in other's lives with my job. To be able to do it on the schedule that suited me best though, is very appealing. So is the idea of not having to think so hard every day at work.

The other thing Bobbi, maid service IS a wonderful thing! I know that you love your master/hubby dearly, but a little piece of eye candy cleaning your house couldn't be considered "bad" could it? After all, it would certainly be better to watch than television.

Ok, ok, before everyone starts ranting and raving...lighthearted fun.

Sorry, I should have clarified what I meant by "contributing" but Master is ill again and brain not working so well at the moment.

You are right, of course someone who is staying at home looking after children or anyone who needs care is contributing. Running a household is hard work! A bit different from someone staying home who is mooching off someone else and not lifting a finger to do anything.

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RE: Full Time Work & Taking Care of Master - 9/25/2005 9:14:44 AM

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The other thing Bobbi, maid service IS a wonderful thing! I know that you love your master/hubby dearly, but a little piece of eye candy cleaning your house couldn't be considered "bad" could it? After all, it would certainly be better to watch than television.

Master has given me permission to find a "House Boy" to come to our house twice per month to provide domestic duties in exchange for a non-sex play scene. I've talked to some amazing wonderful guys (and some wankers). I've actually found that there are some male subs in our area that lead very busy lives and this works out very well for them. I consider this a win/win/win. The male sub gets a D/s session, I get a clean house, and Master gets more of my time.

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RE: Full Time Work & Taking Care of Master - 9/25/2005 7:30:32 PM

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The other thing Bobbi, maid service IS a wonderful thing! I know that you love your master/hubby dearly, but a little piece of eye candy cleaning your house couldn't be considered "bad" could it? After all, it would certainly be better to watch than television.

Master has given me permission to find a "House Boy" to come to our house twice per month to provide domestic duties in exchange for a non-sex play scene. I've talked to some amazing wonderful guys (and some wankers). I've actually found that there are some male subs in our area that lead very busy lives and this works out very well for them. I consider this a win/win/win. The male sub gets a D/s session, I get a clean house, and Master gets more of my time.

So....I have to ask. Do you get to have requirements for this "House Boy"? I mean there could be a perfectly capable 65 year old guy that can clean, do yard work, fix things, etc., but that is not likely to be the least bit interesting to watch (no offense to all of the older gentlemen). I really am just curious. Master gave you permission to find one, and I realize that he has the ultimate decision on who will be chosen, but are you allowed to make certain requirements about this person? What they will/must do, how they look, what they will wear/not wear?

Before anyone starts bashing me, you might look at my post on "weirdest turnons". Men fixing things and such is a biggie for me, and the idea of having a guy come to my house a couple of times a month just to clean and fix things is, well...such an exciting idea! Then I start thinking of some adorable young man with tons of muscles that has to do it naked...

Ok. I'll stop now. Bobbi, you lucky lady.

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RE: Full Time Work & Taking Care of Master - 9/26/2005 8:53:31 AM

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ORIGINAL: FLButtSlut

So....I have to ask. Do you get to have requirements for this "House Boy"? I mean there could be a perfectly capable 65 year old guy that can clean, do yard work, fix things, etc., but that is not likely to be the least bit interesting to watch (no offense to all of the older gentlemen). I really am just curious. Master gave you permission to find one, and I realize that he has the ultimate decision on who will be chosen, but are you allowed to make certain requirements about this person? What they will/must do, how they look, what they will wear/not wear?

He has left almost all of it up to me. His only requirement is that he has to met the submissive and vet him out. He wants this primarily for my safety. But, he and I have many of he same likes and dislikes regarding male submissives, so I'm sure he felt okay about giving that decision to me.

So, basically everything else is up to my desires. I put together a list of household chores that should add up to about an hour or two of work. Vacuuming the floors, washing the hard floors, cleaning the countertops and stove top, cleaning the bathrooms.

I like strong masculine submissives, so anyone into age play, sissy play or brats were out. I was surprised at how many absolutely ignored the parameters of what the relationship would be and started talking about their life as my slave. A large number were more interested what I would do to them, than they were in the dynamic.

I am talking to two that I'm very interested in. Both have their crap together and have their priorities straight. Both lead busy lives and have limited amounts of time to play, so this works out well for them. Both of them also have power to give up. One is 22 and is 43. I admit, they're both very easy to look at.

The idea of nude house boy is very tantalizing, but we'll see how that works.

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RE: Full Time Work & Taking Care of Master - 9/26/2005 11:28:55 AM

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Isn't it such a fun idea? Now, Bobbi, I know from your posts that you find your master to be quite the hottie himself, but it kind of like not admiring a ferrari just because you can't have it. You still appreciate those sharp lines.

Hell, if I had any idea of how to give one of these guys what they needed (so totally unable to top), I think I would be looking for one myself! I don't even think I would care what he looked like, just from looking at your list of chores. Those are all the ones I hate the most!

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RE: Full Time Work & Taking Care of Master - 9/26/2005 6:50:52 PM

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speaking as someone who has always worked, i would relish the opportunity to be a "stay-at-home" sub. i think between taking care of the house, being a taxi service to children and their cub scout meetings and ROTC events....not to mention being there for Master, i wouldn't have time to be bored. :)

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RE: Full Time Work & Taking Care of Master - 9/26/2005 7:10:50 PM

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How do other slaves who work full time find the energy to take care of their Master's every desire when they want it? I am about to start work full time and am concerned about being tired and wanting rest when I get home - after cooking and cleaning dishes of course.

No idea on what other's have said. I'm only responding to the original person asking the question. The answer is quite simple. You talk about your relationship and you compromise. I take care of two homes. I have a full time job...a part time one. Primary caregiver for an elderly man. I even have some time to have hobbies. It is all in how you manage your time and how well you compromise. My dom would tell you anyday how spoiled he also is. He merely understands my limitations.

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RE: Full Time Work & Taking Care of Master - 9/27/2005 3:09:45 AM

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Thanks to A/ll of Y/you that took the time to respond to my OP. i've had health issues over the last couple of years that deplete my energy - this is a major understatement! Fortunately, not all days are the same - some are better than others.

i am a new rt slave and wanted to get the general feel for opionions out there - i know we are human slaves, but slaves just the same. The title slave seems to add additional pressure to my depleted energy reserve at times. This is something i will have to work through.

Blessings and thanks again,

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