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RE: What to do with a pouting slave? - 9/26/2005 2:35:37 PM

JohnWarren

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ORIGINAL: fastlane

Stop typing and move away from the computer slowly.....It's O.K. hon, I'm not taking sides and know how often I am wrong, so don't be so defensive. You spoke from your heart and people responded. I hope in the end you are satisfied with your own opinions and answers, not ours.

[Laughing wildly] Damn it, Fastlane, when you drop the "clown of the board" thing, you're pretty damned good. Now, stop it! You're confusing a poor old man.

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RE: What to do with a pouting slave? - 9/26/2005 2:53:32 PM

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Thank you very much JohnWarren.
I have my moments, but they are far and few inbetween.
The jester hat fits me comfortably and despite what my teachers told my parents about me, and the ass whippings that ensued, I've never taken it off.

Unless of course, I'm feeling really Kinky and completely Nekked

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RE: What to do with a pouting slave? - 9/26/2005 3:03:08 PM

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Clearly there is a disconnect in the stories told by these two people. The only people that know which is accurate, are the two in question.

I probably fit in the vast minority on this one, and really can't offer advice, other than saying what I would do were I the slave in question (apologies to myself for using "I" and "slave" in the same sentence).

I don't think I would talk it over. If the master's post was accurate, I would take whatever punishment was due, including being restrained and left at home. It it was not accurate, and aired on a public forum, I would probably restrain the master, and leave her at home on my way out the door forever.

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RE: What to do with a pouting slave? - 9/26/2005 3:26:23 PM

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And shouldn't that be the end of this story? Even if she was wrong, it's not classy to be bashing a former domme in the forums.

Think that this thread has become what other threads discuss. Yet another proving that they do not deserve a collar & why they are unworthy of consideration.

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RE: What to do with a pouting slave? - 9/27/2005 12:13:22 PM

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Thank you everyone for your advise. Everything is fixed and we are doing great now.

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RE: What to do with a pouting slave? - 6/24/2006 8:46:21 PM

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Hello, RR:

I am of the mind that, as you brought the original issue to the board and asked others for their opinions (which they kindly offered you), then it would only be good form for you to share how you came to resolve the issue raised in your original post.

Perhaps there can be education in your experience for others.

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RE: What to do with a pouting slave? - 6/24/2006 9:17:34 PM

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I think someone is used to being the center of attention and really doesn't like it when someone else gets some. If you can't suck it up and fake it at someone elses birthday party, you need to go back to kindergarden and learn some basic social skills.

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RE: What to do with a pouting slave? - 6/26/2006 12:54:10 PM

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In what universe do you live in where there is something wrong if the dominant is scared? Dominants are not allowed emotions? How on earth are they meant to govern and steward if the are expected to bottle up the one reliable thing human beings can count on to be a compass for navigationg the rocky and slippery terrain of the human psyche?

This dominant is reaching to thier peers for advice, when you ask for advice you need to give all the pertanant facts, being worried is pretty pertinant, because if they were happy about it, or felt nothing I doubt they would be here.

I f you choose to dom like an emotional robot well that to me is sad, because you are choosing purposly to miss out on the juciest bits of the incredible journey that is some one putting thier trust and love into your hands....but how does wanting them to conform to your black and white world veiw help them with solving what is a very grey area, requiring a multiple level of depth expertise and perspective....

Really lordandmaster, can you truthfully say you sont get scared?

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Something is wrong if YOU'RE scared.

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So, now I'm scared that my slave might do something like this again, and I'm wondering if a punishment is in store, or if I should just sit down and talk to her about this.

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RE: What to do with a pouting slave? - 6/26/2006 1:04:20 PM

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ur slave is not acting like a slave, maybe she needs some positive re-inforcement. If ever my slave would act so, would i have fun!!

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RE: What to do with a pouting slave? - 6/26/2006 1:16:31 PM

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This thread is 9 months old. Hopefully all the issues have been resolved by now.

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RE: What to do with a pouting slave? - 6/26/2006 2:21:42 PM

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Last time I checked a submissive could be just as "true" as any slave could. I there is actualy such a thing as a true anything.

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Is she a true "slave" or more of a submissive.

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RE: What to do with a pouting slave? - 6/26/2006 4:31:07 PM

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Not knowing all the dynamics and just taking the scenario at face value, if it was me I would expect Master to send me home and him catch a taxi home later...that would be the most effective punishment I could think of. (saying that from the perspective of a full time committed relationship).

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RE: What to do with a pouting slave? - 6/26/2006 5:03:07 PM

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I'm behind, but I still want to add my two cents.

I think sometimes some people are maybe drawn to submission because they are damn good at hiding their emotions 99% of the time, and one of the things they are looking for is being forced to feel, to not use the shortcuts they always use to paper over their emotions. However, when people just start to learn something, sometimes you suck at it. If one has been running away from one's emotions since middle school, then sometimes they come up in unpolished, inelegant ways. If someone has been using something (like alcohol, drugs, television or even is always extroverted to avoid introspection or always intellectual to avoid emotional) on a regular basis and just tries to stop that coping mechanism and is in a social situation, sometimes it feels like there's a chasm between oneself and the rest of humanity. (And I can point to 5,000 artistic examples from the last 35 years to show it is a common experience, at least in America, but it still feels like you are all alone and no one in the world could ever understand you or love you the way you are.) It isn't sophisticated, or polished or mature. But if things are profoundly moving in one area of the relationship, it can shift things so that you start to feel things you wouldn't let yourself feel until that point. And knowing you are feeling things in the wrong time and the wrong place and the wrong way, perhaps removing oneself from the situation so that one isn't a downer may be the most appropriate thing to do.

Haven't we all removed ourselves from social situations to swallow our sobs in a bathroom stall and then put on a happy face to the rest of the world? And if someone comes to talk to you, when you are having a dark night of the soul and has had a similar dark night, and can offer you a little acceptance in your flawed humanity it can be an amazing transformative experience. At least, that's what some of the best art of my lifetime would lead one to believe.

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