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RE: Terminology. - 3/6/2008 12:39:26 PM

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I prefer SUAP - Shut Up And Play.

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RE: Terminology. - 3/6/2008 1:01:12 PM

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Letsee if I can think of a few

STFU shut the fuck up
TTPB Take the pain bitch
YHLAG You hit like a girl
TIGTHYALMTM This is going to hurt you a lot more than me
QAAMA Question authority ask me anything

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MPG Miles per gallon

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RE: Terminology. - 3/6/2008 6:14:35 PM

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ORIGINAL: Tavian

I am a little bit confused by some of the terminology used here. "Topping from the botton", "Subbing from the top", etc.

Can we open up a little dialogue about some of this terminology? What is meant by the above two phases? I have an idea but I would like clarification as well as some other verbage which might be commonly used in the bdsm community.

I understand what it's like to speak in such a way as to not be understood by the general public. Being in the military, I know that we use a lot of jargon which would not be understood by most non-military types. Stuff like "I'm heading to the dfac to talk to my E-7 about a lost DR-8 and a couple of ANCDs"!

Thanks for your help.

Tavian

I was once exchanged....me to another Dom in exchange for his so-called slave to my Master. Now, it was obvious from the start that this Dom really liked me.....i am trying to not make this look like an eago trip but that was the case. Having a slave mindset and being an emotional masochist means that i am more habituated to the role of being used, emotionally distanced and in the position of SERVING my Master far far more even than receiving. Anyway this Dom wanted me, he wanted me to face fuck him, he wanted me to squirt into his mouth. Now if you'd have taken a picture physically therefore i would have been sitting on top of him. I didn't actually switch which would have meant i was being dominant BUT i was doing stuff to him at my pace, getting from him what i wanted. He was also bottoming from the top during that part of the scene as he was asking me to continue, in fact at one point begging me to. Bottoming from the top often goes with topping from the bottom when the activities switch but the underlying dynamic remains the same.

There was also a point at which i simply got off him and bent on all fours like a puppy dog still submissive style but it was without direction or command from him and yes i got a damn good ride. Neither of us switched. i rarely (once) am domianant with a man.
Thing is he really continued to want me, breaking protocol and demanding i see him. Got pushy and accused me of not being submissive. But then he isn't wasn't and never will be my Dom.

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RE: Terminology. - 3/6/2008 6:19:48 PM

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ORIGINAL: Foititis

It's quite simple really if you take 'topping from the bottom' as = x and 'bottoming from the top' as = y and F(x) = y, where x is all R/{0}, given that F(x) = 1/x and the limit as x ->0 is infinity....

OMG That is the Funniest thing I read all day and oddly enough the world makes a LOT more sence now.

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RE: Terminology. - 3/6/2008 6:21:44 PM

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ORIGINAL: Volcano

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ORIGINAL: colouredin
RACK -risk aware consentual kink
SCC -safe sane consentual

I prefer SUAP - Shut Up And Play.

One that I use because SSC and RACK are nearly worthless with thier false sence of security is

KWYADACTGDB

Know what you are doing and close the god damned blinds

I know you will never hear it chanted but it's my play ettiquite so if you come to my dungeon plan on using it.

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RE: Terminology. - 3/6/2008 6:22:33 PM

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ORIGINAL: Tavian

I am a little bit confused by some of the terminology used here. "Topping from the botton", "Subbing from the top", etc.

Can we open up a little dialogue about some of this terminology? What is meant by the above two phases? I have an idea but I would like clarification as well as some other verbage which might be commonly used in the bdsm community.

I understand what it's like to speak in such a way as to not be understood by the general public. Being in the military, I know that we use a lot of jargon which would not be understood by most non-military types. Stuff like "I'm heading to the dfac to talk to my E-7 about a lost DR-8 and a couple of ANCDs"!

Thanks for your help.

Tavian

Jargon is understood by those for whom it is intended.
Terminology within BDSM is largely made up from nifty sounding tidbits, and is often not agreed upon by people using the same term or doing the same thing. Witness the many threads on 'Old Guard', 'switches', 'SSC', 'true mastery/domination', and so on.

There can be a general consensus on a term for a while, and then a groundswell may appear of 'I don't believe in XYZ from the ABC, I prefer {insert whatever all the cool kids are saying now}...''.

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RE: Terminology. - 3/6/2008 6:30:08 PM

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GSOH....wtf??????

FCUK...which i still read as an invite

IDK......what my middle UM usually says when i ask what he wants for dinner

IDC...how i respond to a IDK

IDN...what my Um's dyslexic friend wanted for dinner

CWAD...chick with a dick....my sister's boyfriend

a CHI...my Master's current prefferred ethnicity

a DB....double bagger.......you know in case the first bag falls off.....

DOM.....dirty old man, which i think is outrageous don't you?

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RE: Terminology. - 3/7/2008 12:02:42 AM

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An appropriate abbreviation --

TL:DR
too long, didn't read

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RE: Terminology. - 3/7/2008 12:15:39 AM

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Steele...can i "borrow" that???

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RE: Terminology. - 3/7/2008 12:38:30 AM

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I hate abbreviations (or how are they called). IF you talk about communication, don't use them. Half of the planet doesn't know them!

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RE: Terminology. - 3/7/2008 12:47:54 AM

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While I agree with you Justme...if is helpful, especially as a novice, to understand what other people are trying to say. I for the most part prefer to speak in plain english..but there are some times when I may use an acronym for brevity's sake.

Tavian A. Montgomery

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RE: Terminology. - 3/7/2008 1:10:58 AM

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Nope. My favorite is ffs..... meaning for fuck's sake. Just makes Me chuckle.

To the OP: I can certainly understand why the.dark prefers the name change. I'll be polite and keep it at that.

Btw, there is a good glossary of terms found in BDSM 101. It's a book.

(Did that sound a bit bitchy? Wasn't necessarily intended.)

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RE: Terminology. - 3/7/2008 2:34:15 AM

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ORIGINAL: Tavian
if is helpful, especially as a novice, to understand what other people are trying to say.
Tavian A. Montgomery

that is exactly the reason not to use them, but just to say what they mean...and it would be much more clear for a novice.
Now you have to peek on Wiki all the time ;)

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RE: Terminology. - 3/7/2008 4:17:03 AM

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RE: Terminology. - 3/7/2008 4:57:13 AM

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Everything is subject to personal interpretation, even things like marriage and love and sex and honor and obey. That's why it's very important to have discussions with anyone you plan to get involved with and find out if you both agree to what is meant by things like, Dominant and submissive and limits and Total Power Exchange and Topping from the Bottom, etc.

Here's how i view the two terms you asked about, others will see them differently.

Topping from the Bottom:

(Since you're a military man) A PVT telling the CO how to run the company.

Accepting a ride with someone and then telling them how to drive.

Wanting someone to Dominate you, but only in the way that you say.

Bottoming from the Top:

A Co. Cdr. asking the PVT to take charge.

Being the driver's seat and asking your passenger to take the wheel.

Dominating someone and telling them to Dominate you.

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ORIGINAL: Tavian

I am a little bit confused by some of the terminology used here. "Topping from the botton", "Subbing from the top", etc.

Can we open up a little dialogue about some of this terminology? What is meant by the above two phases?

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RE: Terminology. - 3/7/2008 5:49:07 AM

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ORIGINAL: probablyknowme

Steele...can i "borrow" that???

kat

Feel free. It is a term that came out of a seriously retarded conversation on the NEED for SSC and RACK so I got tired of listening to the concepts and came up with KWYADACTGDB It stopped the discussion.

Take care

Steel

(By the way, I'm not Remmington there is no "E" at the end of Steel, Not that it bugs me I just like to correct it once and let it go after that. What's in a Name Right?)

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