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Can Women recognize a submissive male by sight? - 3/7/2008 5:16:01 AM   
patrick007


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Status: offline 		Have you ever had the experience of seeing someone walking down the street, or meeting a guy in a vanilla situation, and saying to yourself "Uh huh, I bet HE loves to...". Is there the equivalent of "gaydar" for Dominant women? Do you ever just know. Is it something you can describe, or is it just a feeling? Have you ever acted on that feeling? Have you met a guy in a vanilla situation, had the feeling, and then started pushing his buttons a little?
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RE: Can Women recognize a submissive male by sight? - 3/7/2008 5:17:59 AM   
colouredin


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Status: offline 		Im not a mistress, but the last nilla date i went on i kept making jokes like "dont do that or ill smack ya" and his reaction was "yeah well maybe i would like that" yeah he was a definate sub, he constantly needed me to tell him what to do, we only went out a few times when i broke it off i gave him a few D/s websites and grinned. 

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RE: Can Women recognize a submissive male by sight? - 3/7/2008 5:27:05 AM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		Ive met quite a few that strike me as submissive personalities.  I wuld never presume to guess what someone might love to do just becasue they are a sub, since my 2 boys are so very different. But, I have been in more vanilla situations where I have let the person I was with know I was dominant and let them take it where they wanted.

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RE: Can Women recognize a submissive male by sight? - 3/7/2008 5:31:12 AM   
BLKMADONA


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Status: offline 		Ive seen some males that u could just immediately tell something was "amiss". But like Dyurinal Vampire said, I try not to presume, altho the "incharge alpha males" aint foolin nobody!


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RE: Can Women recognize a submissive male by sight? - 3/7/2008 5:47:33 AM   
BlackPhx


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Status: offline 		Recognizing a submissive male is not hard to do. Recognizing one who is kinky without talking to them and getting clues is another story. Male or Female, predominantly Dominant and Submissive personalities are pretty easy to peg, but that is not the end all and be all of who they are and most don't wear their sexuality on their sleeve.

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RE: Can Women recognize a submissive male by sight? - 3/7/2008 5:49:13 AM   
chezzy52


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Status: offline 		I was speaking with this lady one nught some years ago back home over coffee.One thing led to another and then she came out with"ya know everyone in town thinks you and your best friend are gay".So i asked her if she thought the same and she said yes.So then i pretty much said to her...if you have 20 minutes to spare...lay down i have a story to tell you.Her comeback was what will that prove..you may be bi??So then it was i am not bi but i do lead an alternative lifestyle and just came out and said i am kinky as in tie me up as in wait..make that ....tie me beat me whip me make me write bad checks!!She laughed her ass off and from that point on never thought of me in that manner again.

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RE: Can Women recognize a submissive male by sight? - 3/7/2008 5:52:17 AM   
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Status: offline 		i wanted to wear a sign at one point, but i was told that i was unquestionably submissive.  look for the guy who holds the door open for everyone in the area walking into the convenience store.  if You have further question, ask the person to reach something for You, and read their face and listen to what they say as they hand it to You.

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RE: Can Women recognize a submissive male by sight? - 3/7/2008 6:06:44 AM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		I usually can tell by their actions, the way they hold their eyes, the tone of their voice. There is definiately a big difference from the alpha males. Goodness I love a submissive male  But how to tell if they are kinky? Thats harder to do unless they give hints or come right out and say it.

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RE: Can Women recognize a submissive male by sight? - 3/7/2008 6:31:55 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		As far as I've seen, ALMOST all men are submissive to, "The Golden Pussy".

Not saying all, but a greater percentile I've been around.


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RE: Can Women recognize a submissive male by sight? - 3/7/2008 7:00:24 AM   
chezzy52


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Status: offline 		LaTigresse..the pussy could be pewter and i'd still bow down to it.

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RE: Can Women recognize a submissive male by sight? - 3/7/2008 7:22:14 AM   
blckmlslv


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Status: offline 		I tend to look for chances to slightly lower my head and eyes.

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RE: Can Women recognize a submissive male by sight? - 3/7/2008 7:30:45 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		How do you hold your eyes to show that your a submissive. Im also soft spoken so does that make me submissive. I always hold doors open for people. I may have to rethink my orientation.

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RE: Can Women recognize a submissive male by sight? - 3/7/2008 7:32:51 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

As far as I've seen, ALMOST all men are submissive to, "The Golden Pussy".

Not saying all, but a greater percentile I've been around.



LT:
A horndawg does not a submissive make
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RE: Can Women recognize a submissive male by sight? - 3/7/2008 7:35:16 AM   
AtlantaMistress


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Status: offline 		I am only 5'1" - and I own 1 pair of sneakers, some flip flops, and MANY pairs of shoes/boots that have 3" - 5" heels. I will often catch a man checking out my stilettos, and I can then make eye contact, and then obviously look at the shoes as well and smile. That just opens the door...and I am not shy by any stretch, as well as a button pusher, so if I see a bit of an opening - I can usually kick the door down! Especially in an environment where you just would not have that kind of discussion with someone -  I love to make a sub squirm

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RE: Can Women recognize a submissive male by sight? - 3/7/2008 7:35:33 AM   
Aileen1968


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Status: offline 		I was in a mall at Christmas time and saw a very attractive twenty something year old woman shopping.  Walking behind her and holding all of her things was an equally attractive twenty something year old guy.  She had a shirt on that said...Boys are cute.  Every girl should own one.  That made me laugh whether or not they were truly a d/s couple or just out to have some fun with people.

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RE: Can Women recognize a submissive male by sight? - 3/7/2008 7:38:40 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		Aileen I lied about my age to her.

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RE: Can Women recognize a submissive male by sight? - 3/7/2008 7:39:00 AM   
AtlantaMistress


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

As far as I've seen, ALMOST all men are submissive to, "The Golden Pussy".

Not saying all, but a greater percentile I've been around.



quote:

ORIGINAL: chezzy52

LaTigresse..the pussy could be pewter and i'd still bow down to it.


BTW - I prefer to refer to mine as Plantinum


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RE: Can Women recognize a submissive male by sight? - 3/7/2008 7:39:58 AM   
HelenaHandbasket


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Status: offline 		Maybe not by =sight=....
Butt - there is 'sub-dar', or I'd have been arrested for a little impromte Domming of a cop - in public.
In front of his 3 buddies. All in uniform.

I've often known when people are submissive - and ready to submit. In the case of that cop? He didn't even know he was submissive. It was a total surprise to him.

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RE: Can Women recognize a submissive male by sight? - 3/7/2008 7:46:02 AM   
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ORIGINAL: atursvcMaam

look for the guy who holds the door open for everyone in the area walking into the convenience store.  if You have further question, ask the person to reach something for You, and read their face and listen to what they say as they hand it to You.


And here is me thinking i did this out of politeness  

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RE: Can Women recognize a submissive male by sight? - 3/7/2008 8:06:56 AM   
KindLadyGrey


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Status: offline 		I would have loved to see that, HelenaHandbasket!

I'm going to come down on the side of "No" on this one. Some of the most dominant men I know are soft spoken and hold doors. Some of the most alpha men I know are total lap kittens.

Given a few minutes to push and prod a person's tolerances for power exchange, I might be able to venture a guess. My favorite things that scream "I AM A SUBBIE PLEASE TIE ME UP AND SPANK ME!" are when boys volunteer things like "I don't really know what to do. I wish some one would just tell me" or "I am too lazy, sometimes I just need a kick in the ass." Usually this stuff is said in a totally non-D/s context, like a conversation about careers. In my experience, I have never heard a dominant man utter anything of the sort when he is talking to a woman. I'm sure it happens occasionally, but I bet not very often. Now, this doesn't mean those boys are kinky, but it often means they take direction well or at least feel appropriately guilty when they don't :P

Still, I'm falling on the "no" side of this question. I think people see what they want to see. Submissive men flock to a girlfriend of mine like those little dinosaurs in Jurrasic Park that jump all over people(and eat them! Nom nom nom nom. . .); she is 6 feet tall, vibrant, outspoken, and extremely confident. Also, she is one of the most submissive women I know. But the boys never see that because they are not looking for it. A lot of Dominant men, not alpha males in real life, avoid her because she intimidates them. It drives her totally nuts.

I'm a switch, so I am extremely amused at the way different types of men approach me at lifestyle events. If the topic of my D/s orientation comes up, I ask them to guess. Invariably, they always see what they want to see and choose whatever is complimentary to themselves. (Although the subbie guys often prevaricate and don't want to get it wrong. Ahhh, these boys. So silly sometimes.) Anyway, regardless of the answer I always tell them they are half right ;)

There's no way to tell on sight. Want to know if a man is submissive? Start bossing him around and see what he does.

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