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RE: Self Chastity - 3/10/2008 2:28:09 PM   
colouredin


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ORIGINAL: Dmon

Well I won't explain myself to the haters except to say this. I am a sexually active man. A couple weeks without sex could really play hell on me. So now I said that. Except it, or just shove off, because you don't have anything useful to say.




seems like he is saying he NEEDS it, just sayin


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RE: Self Chastity - 3/10/2008 3:36:35 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Dmon
Well I won't explain myself to the haters except to say this. I am a sexually active man. A couple weeks without sex could really play hell on me. So now I said that. Except it, or just shove off, because you don't have anything useful to say.



i have a very active libido.  i am not able to see Daddy save for once a month for a few hours, IF that.

i am married, not to Daddy.  my husband has not touched me sexually, nor responded to any of my advances, in right at 18 months now.  yes, a year and a half.  he's still beautiful and desirable in my eyes, i have not changed physically in any manner that he would find distasteful.  but he has no desire for me.

a couple of weeks without sex will not kill an individual.  it might make you cranky till your body gets used to the lack of sex.  it might make your mind frustrated because your body is not getting the activity that you  have been used to.

i know, that sounds harsh.  but there are plenty of people who have chosen chastity and no longer allow their libido to run their day-to-day activities, no matter what their hormones wish to be happening.

if not allowing yourself to masturbate is something that you wish, more power to you.  however, its also something that is a normal healthy release, and that's fine too.

good luck with whatever you decide to do.

kitten

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RE: Self Chastity - 3/10/2008 9:28:21 PM   
SirMIkeSD


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Status: offline 		I suggest that you mail the key to a friend or someone and have them mail it back to you.  Or something like this, which would keep you from unlocking and playing with yourself.   There are several other ideas along the same lines, if you think about it I am sure you will come up with something.

Mike


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RE: Self Chastity - 3/11/2008 4:15:17 AM   
CdnExplorer


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Status: offline 		If you've got a good size freezer, you could freeze the key in the middle of an ice cream container or something larger. That way you don't have to trust the post office to not lose your key, and if the urge strikes you have a good 6 or 7 hours to wait before you can act on it...if not longer.

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RE: Self Chastity - 3/11/2008 5:47:31 AM   
TermsConditions


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Status: offline 		Seems like a possible chastity vs chastity fantasy dilema.

I have no practical experience but have a fantasy of "enforced" chastity and have considered how I might place access temporarily outside my control. I've come up with two strategies.

Place the key in a location that you do not have control over. For example, my office building is card-key access only between the hours of 6pm and 6am during the week and from 6pm Friday until 6am Monday on the weekends.. I have a card key but I could leave the card key in my office with the other key to be placed outsied my control. 

I have a private mailbox at a local "UPS Store." I could place the key in my mailbox and only have access during the hours of operation of the UPS store.

You could secrete a key at a public location with specific hours. Like magnetically placing the key beneath a stairwell in a public office building or mall (I would have several redundant keys placed if I did this.).

In addition, you  could stack these access methods. Say, the key to place one is in your office which you can't get to until 6am Monday but the place where the next key is only open on Tuesdays, etc.

All of the above is trumped by the need for emergency access which would also need to be thought out.



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RE: Self Chastity - 3/11/2008 5:52:41 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Have you read this?
http://www.amazon.com/Sex-Detox-Revitalize-Intimacy-Rejuvenate/dp/0061136077

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RE: Self Chastity - 3/12/2008 4:49:13 AM   
tomf22033


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Status: offline 		Dmon,

If you want to try a chastity device then go ahead. I've heard great things about the CB-6000, but note it does have drawbacks and limits (pull out, chaffing, etc). I've worn a CB-2000 and CB-3000 and from what I hear the CB6k is much better than these. If you're more serious then you'll need a "real" belt which can cost $600 or more and take several months to get as most of the companies make the custom. (this is the route I'm going now)

As others have said, mailing the keys, locking them in your office, freezing in ice, etc are ways of ensuring that you don't simply go unlock yourself. Of course the best thing is to find someone to hold the keys. I would recommend that before you do any though, that you do a little more research as you'll need time for your body to adjust. If you don't or haven't worn one for awhile, it can be rough. Believe me, I know as I went to wear my CB3k long term after not wearing it for about a year and rubbed REAL BAD.

As for the chastity, do yourself a favor and look at it like any other kink. Think about it, why you want to try it and then realize that you will have expectations, and things you like and dislike. Try not to set expectations that are too high nor too low. And just worry about enjoying yourself.

In my own case, I'm waiting on my new belt, and am quite excited. I have a growing relationship with a wonderful Domme who will be holding the keys, and I'm both excited and a little scared how she'll use the power over me. (But this is the point in my case) I've done "short" periods where I've been without an orgasm for a month, and it was intense. The orgasm after not cumming for a month was amazing, and something I think you'll enjoy if you can meet your goals. I'm personally looking to go longer, to see how I handle it and also for a more spiritual reason. (I want to explore deeper levels of energy in my body, and also go deeper into my submissive role)

Good luck and keep us posted.

Tom



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RE: Self Chastity - 3/12/2008 5:14:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		Send me the damm key. I will auction it off to one of the women on here. If I get no takers then I will throw it away it would be useless to you.

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RE: Self Chastity - 3/12/2008 5:24:29 AM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		Both my boys are in chastity, but neither has a device. They are simply not alowed to touch without permission. Consider it no longer yours to use freely, and find a friend who would understand your attempts who would act as your "permission giver". They dont need an actual connection to you, no details and no interest beyond that. It is all on you to keep to it, to not actually physically do anything you are not allowed to do. Quitting cold turkey as they say is always harder on a body than slowing down gradually. When I did this with Angel, he was a bit of a masturbation addict which was what prompted the chastity. He went from 2-3 times a day to twice a week, down to once a week, then once every other week... and most recently he has gone as much as 3 months without. It is far more successful when you regain the control over your body slowly rather than shocking your system. It will alow you to remind yourself YOU control IT and IT doesnt control YOU.
If you have any questions about what I had him do, feel free to PM me on the other side.

DV


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RE: Self Chastity - 3/12/2008 8:56:54 AM   
rubberpet


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Dmon

My life seems very built around sex and sexual release. 


Mine is, too.  I guess that's what happens because I'm owned by an insatiable, gothic, nympho goddess.  Oh well, I guess I have no choice but to endure the advances of a sex-crazed Mistress.  *sighs* 

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RE: Self Chastity - 3/12/2008 11:15:03 AM   
sweetwenchie


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Status: offline 		If you want relatively cheap and short term, why not put a rubber band around your parts and snap it if you get the urge to play with it or indulge in sexual gratification?  

i've been in self imposed celibacy for about a year, it is difficult, but it is a mental adjustment more than a physical one.  Use self control, cheapest form of chastity device you already possess, and in the end, will help far more with your goal of spiritual cleansing and rebuilding.

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RE: Self Chastity - 3/12/2008 5:24:07 PM   
vampchick88


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Status: offline 		I consider the wait to finially be with pet to be self chastity, it sucks and has been hard....I don't know how people can willingly do this. It may be the fact that I'm a nymph or the fact that I have a really sexy, attractive, rubber encased pet for the taking. In 11 days all chastity is off and I can't wait to ride the wild elmo.

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