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toddlefeet -> RE: Using Diapers in Bondage/Humiliation (12/2/2008 4:40:19 PM)
I wish to speak for a moment if I may? I am an AB I've been this way since I was little. . But I'm not currently "Active" in the "lifestyle" and havent been for some time,. I will say this. My best friend I live with? He's an AB and has his room as a full AB nursery? my room? is your normal run of the mill room, bed(hospital bed because of my illness I have to sleep propped up) bed side table and shelf where my vampire books, family photos and cable tv & DVR sits. Now, with saying that. I know tons of AB/DL's on other AB sites and see more female AB subs here on CM than males. I'm one of the few. Now..It seems to me there is a MASSIVE misconception. AB/DL. HAS nothing to do with real life children in any shape or form. In the AB/DL world. we are also dead set against this as well and make it well known that we are dead set aginst this. My ABism(When I'm active in it) Does not involve real children. I love kids. I was once a "Daddy" to a real baby till she was 5 & I found out she wasnt mine. this is another story I wont go into right now. Simply put boys & girls.. AB/DL. Does not..involve real life children and I am Dead set against it..period. this life style does not involve babies nor children even though alot of AB/DLs do use really Baby paraphenalia? Real life children are not involved. I love kids. esp babies. I really do but my love for children is sincere & totally harmless like anyone else.. They are not involved in any AB play, at all. I'm not an AB 24/7 I have adult things I have to do.. Wanting to be an AB 24/7 as nice as it may sound,. is not realisticly possible. Because of my lifestyle i dont go in chat room very much.. it seems to me "We" ABs here on CM are frowned upon and "Distanced." in the bdsm realm. I've experienced bashing from male doms in chat rooms and females doms asking me to leave chat because my life style allegedly has no place here. pfft wtf ever. But I'm not leaving CM. I refuse.I like it here. I've met two people from here, one I met face to face, we still stay in contact to this day. She's one of the most kindest and sweetest people I've been blessed to come to know. I hope my post has cleared a few things up. "The toddle"

Lockit -> RE: Using Diapers in Bondage/Humiliation (12/2/2008 4:50:58 PM)
I don't think that anyone confused the idea of who is into this and who is playing in this area. We are all adults here... whatever our kink is. Most of us just comment on the diaper thing in the ways we have because we changed enough of them at one time and don't have any desire to do it again. It is a short, maybe sarcastic answer that I give, but in no way am I confusing an adult with anything else. Because we are not into it doesn't mean we wish to limit anyone else or in some cases even consider our not being into it as a judgment of those who are. We are simply not into it. I don't believe I have ever heard anyone say... you are sick, you suck... go away you messy diapered pup! It just isn't a dynamic, kink or fetish that we want in our relationships or play. It may be less desired by many but so are many things. Like my rock fetish. Nobody understands it so much and I haven't found many who were as crazy as me into rocks... but it isn't a sexual thing and it isn't a kink... I just like friggin rocks... everywhere! Now, I don't feel the need to explain my rock thing... but I use it sometimes when people can't see that we are all the same... we all have something that might be a lil hard to find. Just finding a partner for that fetish life thing... can be difficult. Does a no thank you.. not into it... done enough of that... mean we are judging a kink? Or does it mean that we are just not into it? Some may judge it... but not all.

thishereboi -> RE: Using Diapers in Bondage/Humiliation (12/3/2008 5:43:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: bigbABygentleman I have a simple question. If you have no interest in it, then why are you condemming those that do? If you have no interest in the fetish or scene, isn't just a little strange that your reading and commenting on something you really have no knowledge of? I wouldn't proceed into a gay bar and try to convince the occupants of the bar that heterosexual sex is better, since I have no desire to be in a gay bar for one. Why would you come into a post that you have no desire to participate in, unless you're just into slamming other people's kinks? Every person on Collar Me isn't into pain and inflicting it. Not everyone loves men or women for their sexual preferences as an opposite. Not all women or men enjoy being dominated or the domineering one. Why in the world should we really care about you're not likeing our type of kink. You have absolutely no right whatsoever telling us that you don't enjoy it, since this post was for people that DO ENJOY IT, IMHO. I never understood that from people. You'll comment on what you don't like, but really it's none of your business! You see something that you either don't like or understand and you have to tell ALL that YOU don't like it. If you don't like it, DON'T READ IT! Just my .02 cents The OP said quote: ORIGINAL: MikeDL I'm respectfully wondering how taboo it is to use diapers in bondage and humiliation play? Coming from the ab/dl side of things its een my experience that most wear them because it's humiliating, and that being forced to use them or, "have an accident" while wearing them is the best/worst thing a domme can do. Do many of you mistresses use them, or am I totally off base here? Now if he didn't want to hear from people who were not into diaper play, he should have said so. He still would probibly get replies from both side because as Lockit pointed out, this is a PUBLIC forum, but then your rant would have made more a little more sense.

LadyPact -> RE: Using Diapers in Bondage/Humiliation (12/3/2008 6:36:27 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: bigbABygentleman I have a simple question. If you have no interest in it, then why are you condemming those that do? If you have no interest in the fetish or scene, isn't just a little strange that your reading and commenting on something you really have no knowledge of? I wouldn't proceed into a gay bar and try to convince the occupants of the bar that heterosexual sex is better, since I have no desire to be in a gay bar for one. Why would you come into a post that you have no desire to participate in, unless you're just into slamming other people's kinks? Every person on Collar Me isn't into pain and inflicting it. Not everyone loves men or women for their sexual preferences as an opposite. Not all women or men enjoy being dominated or the domineering one. Why in the world should we really care about you're not likeing our type of kink. You have absolutely no right whatsoever telling us that you don't enjoy it, since this post was for people that DO ENJOY IT, IMHO. I never understood that from people. You'll comment on what you don't like, but really it's none of your business! You see something that you either don't like or understand and you have to tell ALL that YOU don't like it. If you don't like it, DON'T READ IT! Just my .02 cents Actually, if you spent much time on this forum at all, you would find that a number of us comment on various things that we have no interest in for ourselves. Fairly often, we are asked if we like a certain type of play or if we enjoy a certain activity. Various yeahs or nays will come in response to a question of this type. Many will even go so far as to say why they responded the way they did, much like they have here. You are correct when you say that not everyone on this site is either a sadist or a masochist, or both. It's not a requirement for a BDSM site. In fact, there are no requirements other than those imposed by TOS. There are a couple of other letters in there, too. Personally, I'm not a big rope person. I probably wouldn't have a lot to say on a topic discussing rope. I'd certainly be out of place discussing shibari. At the same time, I don't start a conversation with rope enthusiasts who aren't sadist and attempt to get them to see the wonderful advantages of the sub's enjoyment of space through pain, rather than from binding. I'm not going to make attempts to convince someone who is strictly a rope bottom that they aren't seeing the advantages that letting Me use them as a pain slut could bring them. If the thread as written by the OP was intended only for those who enjoy AB/DL, it probably would have been a very short thread, only resurrected by the every once in a while that someone who does have the interest happened to use the search function to call it up. I'm not saying your kink isn't right for you, but you also have to accept when people say it's not for them.

GigglingGoddess -> RE: Using Diapers in Bondage/Humiliation (12/3/2008 2:11:16 PM)
I understand that people out there are into it, but nothing grosses me out more than the thought of my boyfriend in a diaper. Sure, it would be humiliating, but I'll stick to panties for that purpose. I refuse to engage in any play that involves excrement of any kind. Ew. Even if the diaper was not meant to be soiled, I can't stand the thought of incorporating something I associate with children into BDSM play. It's just creepy in my mind. But to each his own, I guess.

GigglingGoddess -> RE: Using Diapers in Bondage/Humiliation (12/3/2008 2:12:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lockit Like my rock fetish. Nobody understands it so much and I haven't found many who were as crazy as me into rocks... but it isn't a sexual thing and it isn't a kink... I just like friggin rocks... everywhere! Are you a geologist?[8D]

OttersSwim -> RE: Using Diapers in Bondage/Humiliation (12/3/2008 2:20:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lockit It may be less desired by many but so are many things. Like my rock fetish. Nobody understands it so much and I haven't found many who were as crazy as me into rocks... but it isn't a sexual thing and it isn't a kink... I just like friggin rocks... everywhere! Now, I don't feel the need to explain my rock thing... but I use it sometimes when people can't see that we are all the same... we all have something that might be a lil hard to find. Just finding a partner for that fetish life thing... can be difficult. You know Lockit, I found a rock the other day. It turned out to be Gneiss, but I took it for Granite. [:D]

Lockit -> RE: Using Diapers in Bondage/Humiliation (12/3/2008 3:18:42 PM)
LOL... I just like rocks. Mostly those you can actually find by a river somewhere, but the sparkly things that you have to pay big bucks for are nice too! Otter I have found rocks and thought... whoa... what is this? I have something special... but since I am not the sort to win lotto's or pots of gold or even a older, slighty bent submissive male... it always turned out to be some pretty fake... fools gold or something. Oh well... I can just be happy with my rocks, even every day ordinary ones. You should have seen people when I started creating a rock bathroom! Everyone thought I was crazy, till they saw it done! If only finding a submissive was as easy.... sigh...

GigglingGoddess -> RE: Using Diapers in Bondage/Humiliation (12/3/2008 5:49:03 PM)
one more thing quote: ORIGINAL: toddlefeet AB/DL. Does not..involve real life children and I am Dead set against it..period. this life style does not involve babies nor children Nobody here thought it did. That would be pedophilia. It's called "adult baby" for a reason. ps. that was a good one, Otter!

bigbABygentleman -> RE: Using Diapers in Bondage/Humiliation (12/3/2008 6:59:44 PM)
I'm respectfully wondering how taboo it is to use diapers in bondage and humiliation play? Coming from the ab/dl side of things its een my experience that most wear them because it's humiliating, and that being forced to use them or, "have an accident" while wearing them is the best/worst thing a domme can do. Do many of you mistresses use them, or am I totally off base here? If it isn't your thing, then it's "taboo". He's not asking people to tell him they "personally don't like this" aspect of his fetish that I can see. It's more trying to find someone that does; isn't it? If it's "taboo" or "off base" then apparently this post isn't for you! Just my .02 cents Again

thishereboi -> RE: Using Diapers in Bondage/Humiliation (12/3/2008 7:07:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: bigbABygentleman I'm respectfully wondering how taboo it is to use diapers in bondage and humiliation play? Coming from the ab/dl side of things its een my experience that most wear them because it's humiliating, and that being forced to use them or, "have an accident" while wearing them is the best/worst thing a domme can do. Do many of you mistresses use them, or am I totally off base here? If it isn't your thing, then it's "taboo". No, if it isn't my thing, then it isn't my thing. That does not mean it isn't someone elses thing. He's not asking people to tell him they "personally don't like this" aspect of his fetish that I can see. It's more trying to find someone that does; isn't it? If that is true, then he needs to put that info in his profile, not advertise for a mommy on the forums. If it's "taboo" or "off base" then apparently this post isn't for you! Can you say public forum? Just my .02 cents Again

Lockit -> RE: Using Diapers in Bondage/Humiliation (12/3/2008 7:19:20 PM)
I read his post to mean that he was wondering if dominant's used diapers as humiliation... Therefore we all have a right... if we didn't have one to start with... to respond. If you don't like our responding... take your own advice and don't read us. Pretty simple.

thishereboi -> RE: Using Diapers in Bondage/Humiliation (12/3/2008 7:26:13 PM)
Did I say I had a problem with people responding? Or were you responding to another poster?

Lockit -> RE: Using Diapers in Bondage/Humiliation (12/3/2008 7:37:12 PM)
No, no honey... I should have quoted him... I agree with all you are saying. I am very sorry!

FloridaMistresse -> RE: Using Diapers in Bondage/Humiliation (12/4/2008 5:40:23 AM)
I wonder if this group were asked about enema play if they would have the same reactions..... Pause for thought. I personally think it is a great form of play for mind control and humiliation, and no I am not going to change a soiled diaper.........jesus people use your brains here................ think outside of the box! Also the diapers, do not have to be soiled in any way to be used effectively. However, if you go down that road, they can be simply soaked ( urinated,) and not soiled. Just for one moment think of this. Your slave has been mouthy, fresh even, somewhat petulant. You say to them........... <tapping your chin> I see you have an issue controlling yourself My pet.........Let Me help you with that. Slap the diaper on them, have them drink a large glass of water, then have them do the house work, after a few hours of that, then take them to lunch, then shopping ........etc. eventually they will have to go, and you have them go in their diaper, and continue to take them out in public. They will agree to anything to get the wet, cold, sometimes smelly thing off. Now this does not juice up your control gears, then I guess I am one weird women, but I love it!! It's all fun and zero work for Me!! Oh and I do not change them, they change themselves. If you really want to have some fun, put some icey hot in there!!But that's another post.

chezzy71 -> RE: Using Diapers in Bondage/Humiliation (12/4/2008 5:42:39 AM)
Let's see..i will be 56 this month and i am in fairly good health..but i am not too far away from being dependant on Depends..So i think i would prefer to wait till then.Besides,i am a big enough baby when i get sick.

thishereboi -> RE: Using Diapers in Bondage/Humiliation (12/4/2008 5:46:02 AM)
And once again someone is trying to convince us that we are narrow minded and just don't understand how creative you can be with a diaper. Just for one moment think of this....some people are not interested in using diapers for anything other what the manufacturers intended. They know how much fun they can be, but they are just not interested. Why can't you understand that? And if you asked about enema play, my responce would be the same.....sorry not interested. If that is your thing, but all means have fun with it. Just don't try to badger me into liking it.

Lockit -> RE: Using Diapers in Bondage/Humiliation (12/4/2008 6:21:13 AM)
Who needs a diaper to be creative? Just tell them they can't go and must wait and when they first get up, must go make your coffee and stand there while it drips.. run the water too. Why give them something to catch the release if they can't hold it? I simply want my man in pants, boxers or nothing. I find it hard to think of looking at him and picture wanting what's in his pants if I am looking at a diaper. There are just some places I am not willing to go and no one is going to convince me that it could be fun. Spoil sport? Missing something? Maybe... but I really don't care.

FloridaMistresse -> RE: Using Diapers in Bondage/Humiliation (12/4/2008 6:32:31 AM)
I think if you don't like it, then don't do it and if you do, then do. Simple enough. I for one have enjoyed hearing from those that do, how it made them feel, and how other Dominants used it effectively. I now have some new ideas, and personally feel free to keep them coming!!

Reigna -> RE: Using Diapers in Bondage/Humiliation (12/5/2008 5:25:00 PM)
Oh, this thread didn't turn censorious at all, relatively speaking. You want to see a chorus of YKINOK, read a few CM threads on crossdressing. To be fair, though, there's quite a bit of territory between "No thanks" and "You must be a pedophile/misogynist/serial killer"; and this thread really has not crossed into that latter territory. To your question: Diapers aren't particularly my thing. But I find reddened upper cheeks every bit as charming as reddened nether cheeks, and occasionally I use diapers for humiliation.

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