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RE: The bumpy road .. and where the bumps come from - 3/11/2008 8:28:43 AM

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Bumps are like like Mountains, like the saying goes There are going to be Mountains and Valleys, you just got to roll with them. One of my bumps or mountains I should say was when I seperated with Master/husband for a year it was difficult but we worked through it. Now we are stronger than ever.

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RE: The bumpy road .. and where the bumps come from - 3/11/2008 10:47:21 AM

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yes bumps are where we learn ... where we become more attentive to our journey ...

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RE: The bumpy road .. and where the bumps come from - 3/11/2008 11:00:36 AM

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my bump was getting past resisting who i was and what i liked. Realizing that i was no longer doing it to punish myself for events beyond my control in childhood, i was doing it because, quite simply, i like it.

Holding on for any bumps ahead

life is a bumpy ride after all.

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RE: The bumpy road .. and where the bumps come from - 3/11/2008 1:26:38 PM

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that was another bump ... learning I didn't need to hide the person I was in Vanilla from the people I love in the scene ... I am more valuable as property because I am a thinking, feeling, intelligent and generally sensible woman .. any fool can own a simpering doormat and make it feel submissive ... I don't want a fool ... I want someone who can take me exactly as I am .. and turn that whole person into a simpering doormat of submission because He is just so damn amazing.

Seems to be a familiar bump that one - and a more of a mountain for me personally! You have a lovely way of expressing yourself softness, and I agree wouldn't it be helpful to know what bumps others are experiencing.

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RE: The bumpy road .. and where the bumps come from - 3/11/2008 3:47:09 PM

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The thing is, there always are lessons being taught, there always are people out there ready with their advice and experiences to help, there always is time to think and stop and become aware.

But that's what pain and insecurity does- isolates us, makes us into our own island of pain and we cannot see beyond it.

I laugh most when it's a lesson I've learned and forgotten a dozen times.

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RE: The bumpy road .. and where the bumps come from - 3/12/2008 1:27:17 AM

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The biggest bump for me was learning to be true to myself - that meant accepting who I was without shame. It also meant accepting the type of slavery I needed to live in.. My Master allowed me to travel down that road (which led me to where I needed to be with him), and with the help of some key people in my world I was able to smooth out that path.

I still find myself with occasional "bumps." The ones I currently encounter require internal convictions to deal with outside forces.

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RE: The bumpy road .. and where the bumps come from - 3/12/2008 8:46:55 AM

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Some of my bumps are being removed surgically.

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RE: The bumpy road .. and where the bumps come from - 3/12/2008 8:50:20 AM

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I hope all goes well in that. Good luck to you

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RE: The bumpy road .. and where the bumps come from - 3/12/2008 6:05:08 PM

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Instead of a bump I think pet and I fell into a huge crator they tried to call a little pothole. I had an ugly reaction to meds I was on they kinda made me a bit crazy for two or three months. I felt awful because I put pet through the ringer and it would have been the perfect opportunity for him to leave me, but instead he hung by me even though it was really hard on him to have to deal with. Its shown me his dedication and love that he's put into this relationship. My current bump is my time, full time work and college its been hard for me to time manage and have been neglecting pet more than I would like to think of. But as with everything I'm re-prioritizing and getting everything set in its proper place. Its nice to know we're not the only ones with road blocks and things flying at our heads at times.

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RE: The bumpy road .. and where the bumps come from - 3/13/2008 12:19:03 AM

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This has been a very rough year or so, financially and emotionally. We both came through ugly depressions, and had to work together very closely to make it through and begin to work for the future together. It seemed like there was a new crisis or problem every three days. In retrospect, though, it's not the pains from the bumps that I remember, but the love and caring I've been wrapped up in all that time in the arms of My Lord.

This was maybe one of the worst years of my life; conversely, I've never been happier.

My mother used to say that it wasn't what was in your life, but who was in your life. The older I get, the smarter she is.

In terms of my sexuality, the biggest bump was in identifying that all of my crazy fantasies and desires weren't so crazy after all, and doing the research to learn more. BDSM has opened a whole new universe for me, and I'm actually looking forward all the bumps and bruises that lie ahead.

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RE: The bumpy road .. and where the bumps come from - 3/13/2008 10:31:06 AM

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corsetgirl,
thank you and all the others for your posts. Hitting a huge bump right now, quite simply i was in hands that i didn't belong been, and it took me far too long to realize it. In spite of being told constantly that i was wrong for thinking compatibility wasn't ever there, it was always my fault somehow. i finally listened to my own heart, head, and gut instinct, and while i may still be picking my self back up, and it does hurt after so much time spent, i will be okay...just as all of you are.

Reading your posts has helped, if only too not feel quite so alone, it's a dark/lonely corner sometimes that our mind retreats too. "What doesn't kill us makes us stronger," gosh that's the truth, and words of "home," so, again thank you!

thanks all,
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