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RE: Profiles vs. Journals - 3/12/2008 6:14:22 PM   
OmegaG


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ORIGINAL: SubbieOnWheels

I wonder that any profile attracts the people it is meant to attract. I wonder if anyone actually reads profiles. For instance, when I state that I'm concentrating on those who are geographically local to me, why do I get messages from Doms who live across the country from me? I even removed the "willing to relocate" from my profile.

I put things in my journal regarding my "journey" into byis wonderful world of BDSM


Yes, my profile attracted the correct man, and many incorrect men.

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RE: Profiles vs. Journals - 3/12/2008 6:48:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think it's actually pretty consistent behavior- wanting to live by an unrealistic standard and feeling unfulfilled.  They write all the cliches, and then respond to those cliches with disdain.

You hope they learn quickly enough where their misstep is.

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RE: Profiles vs. Journals - 3/12/2008 7:00:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		They tend to be inarticulate as to what they want, because they still do not know, one day they will..........after a few mistakes and wrong roads taken...Tempting

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RE: Profiles vs. Journals - 3/13/2008 4:58:27 AM   
AtlantaMistress


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Status: offline 		I find it refreshing to hear that someone is actually reading profiles! lol

I get so many messages - regardless of the **PLEASE READ MY PROFILE** at the top that obviously haven't. Kudos to you for just taking the time to read them


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RE: Profiles vs. Journals - 3/13/2008 5:44:50 AM   
lally3


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Status: offline 		la la land and reality are almost always juxtaposed, i think that these people probably havent found that one out yet.

the old addage 'be careful what you wish for' is pertinent here.

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RE: Profiles vs. Journals - 3/13/2008 6:07:15 AM   
tsatske


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quote:

I wonder that any profile attracts the people it is meant to attract. I wonder if anyone actually reads profiles. For instance, when I state that I'm concentrating on those who are geographically local to me, why do I get messages from Doms who live across the country from me? I even removed the "willing to relocate" from my profile.


Bethical,
Yea, I so understand. I have a profile on the 'local' (vanilla) site for what was my hometown, till I moved here to Master. It is, somewhat like this site, used by many people as a dating site, but is many other things, as well.
Because it is used as a dating site, because guys would message one from their profiles, My profile said, in nice, plain English - If you are looking for more than friendship and motherly advice, please be older than my sons. (And, yes, there was a lot of talk on my profile about my wonderful sons, of whom I am SO proud, off in college and such). And, yet, still, I constantly got letters from 19 year olds wanting to hook up.
Eventually I decided to just treat them as I always treat my childrens' friends when I meet them. So I would write them back and ask where they went to school, ect. Which often led to me having an opportunity to give my standard out of the box lecture for when some 19-22 year old kid tells me he's 'finished school.' "Oh, Wow! So, you are like a genius child prodigy, then! How old were you when you got accepted at college - 12?"
Anyway, the not reading the profile - or being sure it doesn't apply to ME - is pretty common on every site in the world, I think.

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RE: Profiles vs. Journals - 3/13/2008 9:58:36 AM   
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Status: offline 		Omega I don't know what troglodyte is but I like the sound of it. Thinking of putting it in my profile.  Im Dnomyar the troglodyte. Bow before me. Grrrrrrrrrrrr.

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RE: Profiles vs. Journals - 3/13/2008 10:00:05 AM   
OmegaG


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Status: offline 		trog·lo·dyte      /ˈtrɒgləˌdaɪt/ Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation[trog-luh-dahyt] Pronunciation Key - Show IPA Pronunciation
–noun



1.
a prehistoric cave dweller.



2.
a person of degraded, primitive, or brutal character.



3.
a person living in seclusion.



4.
a person unacquainted with affairs of the world.



5.
an animal living underground.

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RE: Profiles vs. Journals - 3/13/2008 10:43:52 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		Ty Omega. Ok all you women with long hair line up. This troglodyte is going to show you his cave etchings. Wait do I have to have long hair to be one of these things??

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RE: Profiles vs. Journals - 3/13/2008 4:46:23 PM   
SubbieOnWheels


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RE: Profiles vs. Journals - 3/14/2008 8:37:41 AM   
Kitte9


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I love that word!

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RE: Profiles vs. Journals - 3/14/2008 9:16:53 AM   
OmegaG


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RE: Profiles vs. Journals - 3/14/2008 10:08:39 AM   
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We have a profile to facilitate meeting people. However, I think that we've had more contact saying they've contacted us because of something we've written in the journal than the profile. In our case, I post more to the CM journal. beth has her own private journal, that she's maintained for five years where she gets to document her thoughts and feelings about our journey thus far. Its a nice outlet and beth and I often go back and read entries from both places. The words provide a wonderful means of triggering mental images of experiences we've shared.

In terms of attracting contact I think journal entries are very important. As much as you try to be 'real' and 'true' in a profile its still an advertisement. Various tactics are used, but the content is primarily buzz words. "Strict Cruel Master" - All three words in that statement are subject to multiple definitions and perspective. A journal entry describing a scene from last night provides inside to how those words are defined by the profile owner.

The profile represents what's on the menu. The journal provides a bit of insight about how the item will taste and feel.

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RE: Profiles vs. Journals - 3/14/2008 10:48:56 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth
The profile represents what's on the menu. The journal provides a bit of insight about how the item will taste and feel.


i like that analogy!
i occasionally have time to look at profiles and journals when i am not scouting out the words of the wise on these forums. Some leave me shaking my head while others (that i have actually subscribed to) are awesome! The best and hottest i have ever read was from a Dominant writing his poetry on the slave and then "fucking his words". Probably will always be one of the hotest journal entries in my opinion!
 
And i REALLY like the word "troglodyte" !
 
And Dmonyar, if you ever post a picture and you DON"T look like a troglodyte ...you know that means you are a fake!


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RE: Profiles vs. Journals - 3/14/2008 11:01:38 AM   
CruelMistrezz


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Status: offline 		Personally I use my journal as a creative outlet. Writing about my more creative and passionate experiences. Normally after a great encounter I am so buzzy from it that all I can do is re-enact it in my mind what happened so writing it down helps with the drop, when it does come.  
 
Edited to stay on topic....frankly if they say one thing in their profile yet complain in their journal about negative things being said based on the profile then they are basically asking for it. At least in my opinion.

 
MsPatty

< Message edited by CruelMistrezz -- 3/14/2008 11:29:29 AM >

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RE: Profiles vs. Journals - 3/14/2008 12:45:40 PM   
DelilahDeb


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Status: offline 		I classify profiles into three categories:

  • the ones that have an ID, age, location-ish, and some statistics...waste of my time to read, with or without pics.
  • the ones that have statistics and checklists...probably a waste of my time.
  • the ones with something other than "..." in the field that requires typing.


Now, all of them are subject to Sturgeon's Law: "Ninety percent of everything is crud."

  • For the first types, I won't even bother finding out. Dead duck.
  • For the second types, *if* person is local, matches interests, I might drop a very short note.
  • For the third types, well, at least they have given me enough info on which to base a decision, usually negative (see Sturgeon's Law).


And, for a domina, I'm fairly reticent about sending gents messages initially unless I have something to say to them. And usually it is more along the lines of -- oh, wow, what an evocative journal entry! Thanks for posting it.

It's amazing how much grief I seem to save myself by requesting real English communications, with capitalization and spelling and punctuation, right at the top of my profile. I have finally figured out that most of what scared off any interested dating-type relationships in my youth was my brain, which persists in being evident whenever I open my mouth and sometimes before that, and...well, maybe that is still true. Fortunately, the people I'd rather hang with, play with, sleep with, are the ones who find that hot and hotter instead of daunting.

I won't fault anyone who is using ESL for errors, but usually it is the post-gen-X-ers who have never learned to use written communication in ways that work.

Delilah Deb

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RE: Profiles vs. Journals - 3/16/2008 6:25:24 PM   
UncleNasty


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Status: offline 		I like troglodyte too, but I like miscreant even more.

miscreant, adj. 1. depraved, villainous, or base.  -n 3. a vicious person; villain

My understanding of the derivation of the word villain is from middle english - essentially a villager.


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RE: Profiles vs. Journals - 3/16/2008 8:48:18 PM   
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RE: Profiles vs. Journals - 3/16/2008 8:50:04 PM   
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Words rock.



I may need to borrow this for my sigfile.


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RE: Profiles vs. Journals - 3/16/2008 8:58:25 PM   
mzbehavin


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Status: offline 		My profile is like the Book cover, the journal and/or blog is the daily journey.

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