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salem2929 -> what to do when a submissive is "to well trained" and Master is bored?? (3/12/2008 3:43:09 PM)
He says she is too well trained and has nothing more he can teach her and he is bored there for seeking others to train while she sits back quietly broken harted and hurt what should she do?

colouredin -> RE: what to do when a submissive is "to well trained" and Master is bored?? (3/12/2008 3:44:25 PM)
Find a new Master

Lashra -> RE: what to do when a submissive is "to well trained" and Master is bored?? (3/12/2008 3:47:43 PM)
Find a new Master who isn't a player. ~Lashra

YourhandMyAss -> RE: what to do when a submissive is "to well trained" and Master is bored?? (3/12/2008 3:53:07 PM)
There's billions of things a dom could have his partner learn. The dom just has to open his mind a little bit and think outside the typical bdsm/what's sexy box. And look at outside things that he himself doesn't have to teach, if he's willing cause he could have her learning things IE french cooking or italian cooking. quote: ORIGINAL: salem2929 He says she is too well trained and has nothing more he can teach her and he is bored there for seeking others to train while she sits back quietly broken harted and hurt what should she do?

SteelofUtah -> RE: what to do when a submissive is "to well trained" and Master is bored?? (3/12/2008 3:56:19 PM)
Yeah I gotta say once a girl is trained she is what you want her to be. Why in the hell would he be bored? She is his creation at this point (Using that phrase is not implying that the girl is no longer herslef just that he has trained her to be exactly as he wants her) To be bored shows more that he is a ManChild than a Master. He got what he wanted and now doesn't want to play with it anymore. My Suggestion is to discuss it with said ManChild and request that if she is not good enough for him that he re-train her and if he is not willing to do that then he release her to seek a more appropriate Master. COMMUNICATION PEOPLE. Most things can be solved if we TALK to the SOURCE of the PROBLEM!! No I'm not giving you crap I am really offering this as advce because so many people are litterally UNWILLING to do this. As Always Steel

kinkypuppy2 -> RE: what to do when a submissive is "to well trained" and Master is bored?? (3/12/2008 4:00:15 PM)
Look for another who will appreciate that which she has learned and allow themselves to grow upon that basis toward things still just in fantasy.

Justme696 -> RE: what to do when a submissive is "to well trained" and Master is bored?? (3/12/2008 4:00:49 PM)
quote: No I'm not giving you crap I am really offering this as advce because so many people are litterally UNWILLING to do this. pardon me?

SteelofUtah -> RE: what to do when a submissive is "to well trained" and Master is bored?? (3/12/2008 4:01:54 PM)
where did I lose you with that JustMe696?? Steel

Kirata -> RE: what to do when a submissive is "to well trained" and Master is bored?? (3/12/2008 4:06:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: salem2929 He says she is too well trained and has nothing more he can teach her and he is bored there for seeking others to train while she sits back quietly broken harted and hurt what should she do? It seems to me from the stories I read that some men feel power when a girl's submission weaves its way into her emotions. They approvingly watch it happen, which encourages her, until they are certain they see love, and then it's not interesting anymore. They move on, or use her for a while first, often both. Don't blame yourself for not seeing it coming. Nobody "should have known" something they hadn't learned yet. Just dust yourself off and don't look back. Easier said than done, trust me I know, but you asked. Kirata

thefirst121 -> RE: what to do when a submissive is "to well trained" and Master is bored?? (3/12/2008 4:08:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah quote: I gotta say once a girl is trained she is what you want her to be. Why in the hell would he be bored? Exactly the point. We train a sub for our own purpose and we should be learning along the way as well. If he is 'bored' the truth is he is scared she will wake up to him not being a good Dom. Find another Master that can satisfy her is the answer and she will learn just how inexperienced he really is.

littlebitxxx -> RE: what to do when a submissive is "to well trained" and Master is bored?? (3/12/2008 4:12:00 PM)
Kinda reminds me of a little kid that gets a Lego set for Christmas and spends lots of time and care on it, lovingly putting it together. When finished, it goes on the shelf and he goes looking for another Lego set. Tsk, tsk...some little boys never grow up.

lronitulstahp -> RE: what to do when a submissive is "to well trained" and Master is bored?? (3/12/2008 4:14:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: salem2929 He says she is too well trained and has nothing more he can teach her and he is bored there for seeking others to train while she sits back quietly broken harted and hurt what should she do? i've always feared this exact scenario...can't wait to see the insights from D-types, in particular.

Kirata -> RE: what to do when a submissive is "to well trained" and Master is bored?? (3/12/2008 4:22:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah Yeah I gotta say once a girl is trained she is what you want her to be. Why in the hell would he be bored? ...To be bored shows more that he is a ManChild than a Master. He got what he wanted and now doesn't want to play with it anymore. My Suggestion is to discuss it with said ManChild.... I was right with you, up to suggesting that she discuss it with him. What ever for? Having a talk with a child in the hope that an adult relationship will result is doomed from the start. K.

colouredin -> RE: what to do when a submissive is "to well trained" and Master is bored?? (3/12/2008 4:24:06 PM)
I agree Kirata, i wouldnt bother either communication is only any good for a relationship thats worth saving this wouldnt be

MistressVnus -> RE: what to do when a submissive is "to well trained" and Master is bored?? (3/12/2008 4:27:02 PM)
In this instance, I agree with Kirata. The guy is being honest. She is more well trained than he is skilled in training. And, he is being straight up about it, if the thread holds any reality. He either needs to find some areas he would like to re-train, or train, in that is specific to him, or, he needs to let her go. He's not ready for her. She needs a Master with more experience. Of course, her input would be important for consideration here. After all, a new Master is always a new adventure. Trained or not. However, this isn't a bad thing. It is a GOOD thing!! Areas of conflict are recognized, acknowledged, accounted for, and stabilized responsibly. Got to give him credit for that!!

IrishMist -> RE: what to do when a submissive is "to well trained" and Master is bored?? (3/12/2008 4:27:57 PM)
I actually had a really nice reply...but after peeking at the profile..I think I will keep my comments to myself. [8\|]

sensiia -> RE: what to do when a submissive is "to well trained" and Master is bored?? (3/12/2008 4:29:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah Yeah I gotta say once a girl is trained she is what you want her to be. Why in the hell would he be bored? She is his creation at this point (Using that phrase is not implying that the girl is no longer herslef just that he has trained her to be exactly as he wants her) To be bored shows more that he is a ManChild than a Master. He got what he wanted and now doesn't want to play with it anymore. My Suggestion is to discuss it with said ManChild and request that if she is not good enough for him that he re-train her and if he is not willing to do that then he release her to seek a more appropriate Master. COMMUNICATION PEOPLE. Most things can be solved if we TALK to the SOURCE of the PROBLEM!! No I'm not giving you crap I am really offering this as advce because so many people are litterally UNWILLING to do this. As Always Steel I agree with Steel, communicate. Communication is very important in any relationship. Is running out to seek another Master wise when one is just getting out of a relationship? Perhaps a little time to re-evaluate who you are and what you need so you do not make the same mistake?

MistressVnus -> RE: what to do when a submissive is "to well trained" and Master is bored?? (3/12/2008 4:30:12 PM)
ACK!! I've been had!!![sm=banghead.gif] LOL

colouredin -> RE: what to do when a submissive is "to well trained" and Master is bored?? (3/12/2008 4:32:55 PM)
hey doesnt matter, maybe it was a hypothetical and maybe there are people (eg Ironitulstahp) who actually do have this concern

lusciouslips19 -> RE: what to do when a submissive is "to well trained" and Master is bored?? (3/12/2008 4:34:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: IrishMist I actually had a really nice reply...but after peeking at the profile..I think I will keep my comments to myself. [8\|] I peaked too. Ya, I see what you mean.

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