RE: what to do when a submissive is "to well trained" and Master is bored??

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TheGreyGunman -> RE: what to do when a submissive is "to well trained" and Master is bored?? (3/12/2008 5:59:25 PM)
I don't believe we've really been given enough information concerning the exact root of the problem. Just a feeling I get when from reading other people's posts. Is the Dominant saying 'Oh this submissive has become boring and I can't think of anything to do anymore?' Or is he saying 'I don't hold the maturity or the skill enough to properly keep this Submissive.' If it is the former then there is no helping the submissive, as noted before immaturity to that scale isn't really worth the grief of fixing. However if it's the latter then it's possible to save that relationship. Communication, as has been said before, is key in any relationship. Have the submissive talk to the dominant and vice versa, finding out exactly what is causing this relationship to crumble and fix it. If it cannot be fixed? Then end it.

salem2929 -> RE: what to do when a submissive is "to well trained" and Master is bored?? (3/12/2008 6:38:08 PM)
ok got to explane about the profile..lol the profile is listed as it is also worded so he would look compleately over it and not to bother looking at the post .. so he would deem it as unworthy to look at i didnt want to embaress him

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: what to do when a submissive is "to well trained" and Master is bored?? (3/12/2008 6:57:04 PM)
Depends on the relationship. I guess I wouldn't like to think of myself as boring to my partner, but hey, we both are into SOME things which bore the other. It depends on if he wanted to really just leave me in the corner for the whole relationship (which would go against all the values and expectations set for us) or just wanted some hot new eye candy to fuck with. Eye candy, I'd beg to watch. Leave in the corner? That's serious and requires some real discussion about expectations and long term fulfillment.

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: what to do when a submissive is "to well trained" and Master is bored?? (3/12/2008 7:45:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: salem2929 He says she is too well trained and has nothing more he can teach her and he is bored there for seeking others to train while she sits back quietly broken harted and hurt what should she do? Possibly he has trained you as far as he knows to go..and since he has not come up with the obvious solution of possibly extending his own repertoire, or lacks the desire to do so..then he may be going on to greener pastures..and soon you will be defunct.....so do you really want to sit back broken hearted and hurt?...Tempting

DesFIP -> RE: what to do when a submissive is "to well trained" and Master is bored?? (3/12/2008 7:58:03 PM)
Walk and thank him because she was bored stiff with him but didn't have the heart to tell him first. Honestly, that's a cop out. Training was fun, but now that I know how he likes his tea and stuff, he isn't going to toss me out. He's going to enjoy me. If this guy isn't enjoying you, that's his loss. You can do better. And if this is because he can't enjoy his own sadism unless he has an excuse to punish, then recommend he sees a therapist to eliminate his shame and guilt over sex as it's a barrier to him having an ongoing relationship. Hell, even if that's what floats his boat, he could do it as role play. Order you to buy a winning lottery ticket and then 'punish' you when it doesn't win.

Exquemelin -> RE: what to do when a submissive is "to well trained" and Master is bored?? (3/12/2008 8:40:40 PM)
It sounds to me like he might never be able to have a really long term relationship. Eventually every sub is gonna get trained just the way he likes, then he's got to break up with her and find someone new. He'll never be able to have a relationship that lasts forever. What can you do? Get some Haagen Daz and a sappy movie. The only thing I could see to advance the relationship is to start acting bratty. But that might not work cause he might know what you're doing.

BabyDollVanIsle -> RE: what to do when a submissive is "to well trained" and Master is bored?? (3/12/2008 8:45:41 PM)
some subs don't want to be deliberately bratty.. they want to be themselves. not that it wasn't a good idea, and would work for some. baby doll

Gemini1766 -> RE: what to do when a submissive is "to well trained" and Master is bored?? (3/12/2008 8:54:26 PM)
How the hell can a Dominate get tired of their creation, so long as their creation brings them joy? Trained too well, my sweet anal orafice. If it's real, then as the others have said, find a new Dominate. If it isn't, why are you wasting everyones' time?

celticlord2112 -> RE: what to do when a submissive is "to well trained" and Master is bored?? (3/12/2008 10:11:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: salem2929 He says she is too well trained and has nothing more he can teach her and he is bored there for seeking others to train while she sits back quietly broken harted and hurt what should she do? Put the pathetic dweeb over her knee and paddle him for acting so damned juvenile. Then leave.

Archer -> RE: what to do when a submissive is "to well trained" and Master is bored?? (3/12/2008 10:52:24 PM)
Bottom line you step up your game and set higher standards for both yourself and the slave.

Justme696 -> RE: what to do when a submissive is "to well trained" and Master is bored?? (3/13/2008 1:40:25 AM)
He doesn't just get bored of the sub it seems, also of the person. He doesn't value you anymore. Leave!!! ps It is Dominant, not Dominate :P

SailingBum -> RE: what to do when a submissive is "to well trained" and Master is bored?? (3/13/2008 3:56:11 AM)
What the dom is really saying "I'm moving on your not the one" The collective we have all been there before. I agree he could have stated it in a better fashion. It doesn't change the facts. I would venture to guess he is attempting to avoid the drama of a breakup. By saying what he said there is no room for discussion from the partner. BadOne

celticlord2112 -> RE: what to do when a submissive is "to well trained" and Master is bored?? (3/13/2008 9:01:33 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Archer Bottom line you step up your game and set higher standards for both yourself and the slave. That's what the dominant should do. If I read the OP correctly, he's not doing that.

DiurnalVampire -> RE: what to do when a submissive is "to well trained" and Master is bored?? (3/13/2008 9:09:25 AM)
Training is the trip, not the destination. The idea of training is that eventualy, you GET trained and no longer need to learn the little stuff. If this dominant is looking for someone who is going to be constantly in training he needs to find someone who doesnt retain what they learn. The whole idea of training my boys is so that eventually I no longer have to teach them and they can do what I like without being lead each time. While the submissive might be broken hearted for a bit at the ending of a relationship, it is time for her to let the Dominant look for someone new and she should move on and find someone new as well. If he is truly bored then he should release the submissive and find another, not keep her around while he looks. Thats terribly childish, I dont want her but I dont want anyone else to have her either. It doesnt sound like you wil be missing out on much by leaving, the Master seems terribly limited in his abilities. DV

IronBear -> RE: what to do when a submissive is "to well trained" and Master is bored?? (3/13/2008 6:11:57 PM)
Show me someone, in any walk of life, who is so well trained that the master, Teacher has nothing more to teach, and I'll show ypou a person who is in need of a more experienced Master/Teacher and a Master/Teacher who is in desperate need of being Trained/Taught. Conversly, the day I believe I have nothing more to learn is the day I walk away from that aspect of my life. What a grand journed it would vbe with both Master and sub/slave embarking on learning new things together.... Mind you I can tell a slave that he or she has nothing more to learn regarding what i require from them in the way of duties and service, but there is always room for improvement which comes from practice and lets face it life changes and so does service requirements requiring changes and adaptions to be made and this requires new training. Iron Bear Master of Bruin Cottage My Life for my Queen My Soul for my Goddess My Heart for my Lady And my Honor for myself "I judge a Man by what I see him do and not by what others tell me he does." (Captain Sir Edward Pellew of the HMS Indefatigable to Midshipman Hornblower ~ C.S. Forrester) .

Kitte9 -> RE: what to do when a submissive is "to well trained" and Master is bored?? (3/13/2008 6:59:04 PM)
Learn something together or leave. Their choice.

AMaster -> RE: what to do when a submissive is "to well trained" and Master is bored?? (3/13/2008 9:33:33 PM)
She should move on.

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