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RE: In Awe - 9/27/2005 2:22:13 PM

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Well I like the picture. I'm guessing you're a size 4, right?

I like it too. It's too bad she wasn't willing to show her face, but we all know the ramifications of that and it's a reasonable choice.

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RE: In Awe - 9/27/2005 3:49:43 PM

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I think the picture is suggestive but tasteful..As for some of the idiots on here, we all are going to get our share. What I can say is, take things in your own time. Do what you feel is right for you. Listen to others and glean what you feel pertains to you. Above all, be careful and go with your gut...

As for male and female genital pictures, I find them totally unnecessary. I want to get to know the person first with clothes on. If we find things in common, like each other and have a possible relationship in the works, then I will see enough in person. I have had a man send that kind of pic telling that shows he is a Dom..How does that relate? It doesn't!

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RE: In Awe - 9/27/2005 4:57:24 PM

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I think the picture is suggestive but tasteful..As for some of the idiots on here, we all are going to get our share. What I can say is, take things in your own time. Do what you feel is right for you. Listen to others and glean what you feel pertains to you. Above all, be careful and go with your gut...

As for male and female genital pictures, I find them totally unnecessary. I want to get to know the person first with clothes on. If we find things in common, like each other and have a possible relationship in the works, then I will see enough in person. I have had a man send that kind of pic telling that shows he is a Dom..How does that relate? It doesn't!

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I would have to agree. An unpopular poster around here has claimed that those who post "revealing" pics get what they deserve in the way of emails and IMs, and fails to understand the ramifications of suggesting that self censoring is in one's best interest.

I mean, I may as well not wear fetish clothing (which I enjoy wearing) to a fetish event and instead wear blue jeans and an oversized sweater and tennis shoes so I don't invite inappropriate, rude behavoir from dorks that can't separate fantasy from reality and have no clue about common courtesy. I also should put a bag over my head, because since I'm pretty, I don't want other dorks walking up to me and inappropriately gushing about how beautiful I am when my boyfriend is standing right there.

I should absolutely stop expresssing myself in the way I feel is empowering and best communicates my passion and sensuality because there are guys out there who have no tact and no concept of manners and self restraint. It's because some *men* cannot control themselves in order to behave in a polite manner and control their thinking when blood leaves their brain for a moment.

And of course, who cares about the men who do have maturity and self control, and who can appreciate seeing a beautiful woman in a hot fetish outfit and pay an approrpiate compliment. That's ok, they can settle for looking at women all in jeans and oversized sweatshirts and maybe use their imagination to wonder how these ladies prefer to express their sensuality. Sorry guys, you have to pay for the other men that can't control themselves, and other men that suggest women outta tone it down.

Oh, and make sure you don't show ANY shoes in your profile pics, because some guys have a shoe fetish, and if you even show a hint of heel, they'll start shaking uncontrollably and not be able to help themselves before firing off a rude IM stating "OH MY GOD I WANT TO SUCK YOUR HEEL GODDESS, PLEASE CRUSH MY BALLS." So remember, NO HEELS. Just wear tennis shoes ONLY.

Yes, it'll be a fine, fine place once people start following the advice of some uneducated posters. You get what you deserve, ladies! Keep that in mind when you pick out your clothes for clubbing this weekend.

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RE: In Awe - 9/27/2005 7:41:13 PM

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wear blue jeans and an oversized sweater and tennis shoes

I have this exact outfit, in a size 4 *wink* Appreciate the sarcasm, it made me smile, but a very true sarcasm none the less.

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RE: In Awe - 9/27/2005 10:10:38 PM

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Maybe that pic is suggestive but then so are several of the avatars here. (It IS a nice pic though and it IS tasteful in my humble opinion.)

As for your problem....... Why would you even consider doing anything that wasn't comfortable? You wouldn't want to meet someone new in the Vanilla world of dating without the same reservations, right? Whomever it was, he's a jerk and doesn't have any brains or respect for a lady. Just continue to do what's tight for YOU and don't worry about the jerks that come along.

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RE: In Awe - 9/28/2005 7:15:32 AM

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Ok maybe this is a rant and maybe it will turn into an enlightening topic.

I'm not a shallow person, but I am human and if I happen across a photo that grabs my attention and is close to my general area, I'm going to send a post to at least say hi. Nothing wrong with that right?
So I do this, and talk to this person, be completely honest, and after a dozen exchanges, he beings to asked for suggestive pictures( which i do not send), and then out of the blue I am told that I am my ex pretending to be me( which I don't have), then I get blocked.
I know that the person was most likely a player now, but beyond being nice and honest on the first day of communication with a real Dom/mme should I be doing more? I don't feel comfortable calling someone on the phone at first and meeting someone is definatley not happening within the first 24 hours. Am I misunderstanding this? Or is this how the majority operate?

Well, no one bothers to send me mail anymore, (except my friends) so I'll have to wing this one ~grin~

You aren't doing anything wrong. For every serious person around these parts, there are 50 cyber posers. You and I both know that all too well. Even the ones who claim to be real, and are floating around the scene can turn out to be freaks and losers.

You have a lot to offer and you are very open about what you can and cannot give in the realm of service. Stick to your guns. Those people who want to push your limits in the first 24 hours are not people you want to be with in the first place. Deep down, you already know this.

You are not misunderstanding this at all. By having some standards, you are more apt to find a compatible situation, rather than end up molding yourself to fit something that looks compatible, but when you get right down to it, is really what was available at the time.

Be patient, it'll happen :)

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RE: In Awe - 9/28/2005 7:16:30 AM

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I like it too. It's too bad she wasn't willing to show her face, but we all know the ramifications of that and it's a reasonable choice.

Well, I happen to know what she looks like, and she's gorgeous.

Neener neener neeeeener ~grin~

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RE: In Awe - 9/28/2005 10:20:16 AM

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Yes, it'll be a fine, fine place once people start following the advice of some uneducated posters. You get what you deserve, ladies! Keep that in mind when you pick out your clothes for clubbing this weekend.

I snipped most of Aakasha's post, but I loved every single word of it. And she's absolutely right.

Recently, I met a man in my local scene who for what ever reason wanted to be my friend after I told him that I wasn't interested in helping him get kinky experience because I am someone's submissive. Not that I would have jumped at the chance to if I wasn't owned, but it's always nice to have the "Master Backup." ~grin~

He is continually wining and pissing and moaning that he can't find someone. I recently questioned this, as there are a plethora of nice single women in the scene where we are and I suggested he engage some of them in conversation when at his next event. "I'm looking for someone who's better looking. These women should be ashamed to go out of the house the way they look."

Ahh, the plight of the sizist in kink. There's a lot of single whining men running around with that little problem.

I appreciate where Akasha's coming from; I think so many of us think that the size 4 girls have it easy; I appreciate the fact that they get objectified and degraded in much the same way that women who are a size 24 do. But for some reason, we think it's easier for them. It's not.

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RE: In Awe - 9/28/2005 1:52:17 PM

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So I do this, and talk to this person, be completely honest, and after a dozen exchanges, he beings to asked for suggestive pictures

I get the feeling that something is left out here. It is fairly common for folks to spin such tales so they are the angels and the other people are asses in order to get everyone who replies to join together in a group hug. So in this case I start wondering exactly what was said in these dozen exchanges and what she was completely honest about, and if it isn't possible that she jerked the guy around somehow.

Given such a self-serving description of events none of us except the OP really knows what happened here. Seems a bit funny to me that it would take a dozen exchanges for the guy to exhibit troll-like behavior. But hey, I tend to be skeptical when given such vague information and I think it isn't wise to rush to judgement. Under circumstances where someone is looking for validation I'm also not optimistic we'll get the complete and unbiased story now.

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RE: In Awe - 9/28/2005 3:50:28 PM

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AAkasha - Thank You for being - I so enjoy reading Your posts, and NOW ... I can actually SAY that cause I've de-lurked!!

Suggestive photos you say? How many free porn sites are out there? Tell him to go find one. Picked up a 'nilla magazine lately? No revealing clothing or poses there right. Do modelS and the like get harassed to no end this way? Probably not - why? Because the guys show them a little more ... respect.

Why is this logic so scene prevelant and encourged not by male subs but the would be male tops?
I personally have issues with the guys who have their penis on their profile, or attatch it to a note. D/s for Me is not about sex, it's about control, and when you flash THAT at Me it shows you have none, are rude, thoughtless, disrespectful, and uncouth.
I'd rather see a bowed head than one that is cut off - not only because it is an appropriate position, but because you are presenting yourself as a whole person where possible.

Then too I have had full rear nudes of Me on My Own profile with the words WORSHIP THIS boldly emblazoned across the photo. Interestingly however the rude factor is minimal. And we're back to that respect thing again ...
Online I do find LOTS of "flighty contacts" which is to say those who appear, chat for a couple of days, or notes and then lose interest. At this point in life I tell people clearly if they want to be around they need to be showing this for at least a few weeks before I'll even begin to look at them, its too easy to as it was put "to live in the monitors glow" and when arrangments to meet are forever cancelled One sits and asks themselves ... Why? Rather often.
Bottom line; its their fantasy - but O/our reality.

And Happy - Instant relevlation is a nice idea, but it just doesn't work that way. How about the guy thought she'd say no at first but then give in - when he realized it was NOT going to happen he got cheezed? How about he has a bet with his buddy he can get the photos in 2 weeks, and he's about to lose? How about - Look sometimes there is no sense in the world, and these are the times least sensible to attempt to find it - The clever simply walk away.

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