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RE: I need help PLEASE - 3/14/2008 5:53:33 PM

BBWnNC72

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Being punished for not finding ass is not OK.
Need to talk to Him about it, you are not a pimpett for Him!

i was given the task of finding a girl that my Dom would direct me in play with, but He has never put a time limit or a punishment on it! In fact, He said it isn't a priority, only if i really want it and then it is to just get the experience.

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RE: I need help PLEASE - 3/14/2008 5:53:36 PM

SubbieOnWheels

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This is totally unacceptable. He is setting you up to fail, and when you do, he punishes you. Sounds like someone who just wants an excuse to punish you so he can feel superior. I ask - why does he have to make you feel inferior in order to feel superior?

Is he a "real" Dom? I won't say yes or no. But he is not acting in a manner consistent with someone who actually is superior.

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RE: I need help PLEASE - 3/14/2008 5:59:42 PM

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That isn't a master... nor even a decent human being. You are not his submissive, but his patsy. He uses you under a title of lifestyle, d/s and you believe him. He wants you to find him more tail and you believe it is okay for that and in many cases it might be legitimate, but this one is not. He doesn't care about you. He only cares about his lil willy and he is lazy in finding places to stick it.

Please, brush up on some self confidence and self love, kick the willy to the curb and find a real dominant that cares about you the same way you would care about him.

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RE: I need help PLEASE - 3/14/2008 6:02:28 PM

KyttynTheMynx

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quote:

ORIGINAL: tweetybird02692

I am a new sub in training with my Master. One of things that is expected of me is to have other pussy lined up for him and I when he wants it. I have been trying to do this now for a month and keep striking out. I have no idea what I'm doing wrong. My Master is VERY sexy...... Can anyone give me suggestions or tell me how they have worked through this?? Right now I am being punished by not being able to see him until I can line up some pussy. I am going crazy........

1) like its been stated, not a lot of chicks find it hot to be just a piece of ass and then scooted off on their merry way.

2) Are ya sure hes not secretly getting you to find your own replacement? Im just saying.

3) I dont care if your Master looks like <insert fantasy hotness>, I, myself wouldnt sleep with him just because. A string of one night stands isnt cute, in my opinion.

Seek someone who is happy, and used to being paid for this kinda thing. Grab a best friend, or whatever. The best advice has been stated before I have been here, so perhaps just leaving and finding a more stable relationship where you arent being set up is best.

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RE: I need help PLEASE - 3/14/2008 6:03:24 PM

StormsSlave

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...stuffing snarky remark back down my throat...

Ok...so how long did it take you to meet your man? And he you? I'm thinking probably a while, really....so, why do you think you're going to find another person to be with so easily? I mean, sure, some folks can walk in a bar and get laid anytime, but really, how easy is it for everybody? Casual sex really isn't that casual anymore. You might have to actually work at this. (oops...my snarkiness slipped.)

I have a suggestion. How about he back off about it, give you some room, and you try to find someone that BOTH of you want to date. The three of you go to drinks, have dinner, see a show, have some more drinks, maybe some hot dancing, then if everyone is agreeable, you go home. If not, you had a nice time, and maybe there's a second date. That takes the pressure off of everybody, and nobody is getting punished for what other people do.

I have to say this: is it possible your Master might rub people the wrong way? I know that's not very nice, but I have some experience with this

, and I can tell you it takes a certain kind of person.

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RE: I need help PLEASE - 3/14/2008 6:10:06 PM

christine1

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quote:

ORIGINAL: tweetybird02692

I am a new sub in training with my Master. One of things that is expected of me is to have other pussy lined up for him and I when he wants it. I have been trying to do this now for a month and keep striking out. I have no idea what I'm doing wrong. My Master is VERY sexy...... Can anyone give me suggestions or tell me how they have worked through this?? Right now I am being punished by not being able to see him until I can line up some pussy. I am going crazy........

your idea of what a sexy man is, and my idea are polar opposites i guess. any man who wants his sub/slave to find pussy for him is a good for nothing lazy ass...just my opinion though. i think you would do yourself some good to drop him and find someone that can be happy with YOU.

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RE: I need help PLEASE - 3/14/2008 6:23:15 PM

Bound2One

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You really need to figure out your way around what it is you want before you try to bring someone else into your relationship. According to your profile, this person would "answer" to the both of you and your Master would remain your Master. Yet you don't have a clue what to offer this person or how to explain the dynamic that you wish to set up. Think of it from the other person's POV - what is appealing in this scenario? Why would she go for it? There's nothing wrong with this scenario as long as it's approached in a reasonable, mature, respectful manner.... somehow from the tone of your opening post I'm not so convinced that's what's happening here.

As far as your Master punishing you for you not being able to supply what he wants ... I will refrain from commenting other than to say that if he's so hot perhaps he can arrange the pussy for the both of you rather than using his new sub as his pimp.

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RE: I need help PLEASE - 3/14/2008 6:26:41 PM

girlygurl

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OP~ If he is so sexy... why can't he find another to play with? Just askin.

IMO, he should know that finding a piece of ass (without paying for it) isn't all that easy. AND, punishing you for not coming up with said piece of ass is a crock! Sounds a bit childish to me.... it's like he wants a new toy and you're not producing so he's stomping his foot and pouting?????

good luck

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RE: I need help PLEASE - 3/14/2008 7:01:54 PM

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quote:

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Status: offline </image/blank.gif> I am a new sub in training with my Master. One of things that is expected of me is to have other pussy lined up for him and I when he wants it. I have been trying to do this now for a month and keep striking out. I have no idea what I'm doing wrong. My Master is VERY sexy...... Can anyone give me suggestions or tell me how they have worked through this?? Right now I am being punished by not being able to see him until I can line up some pussy. I am going crazy........

tweety,

I almost thought this was just a joke post. Your new to the path and he gives you that instruction!!!!
drop back 10 yards and punt. At half time get another coach.

CP

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RE: I need help PLEASE - 3/14/2008 7:07:53 PM

califsue

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i was in 'training' with a Dom and he wanted me to find someone and he was very unhappy about me not finding another female sub/slave to play with. i agree with the other posts. drop him.

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RE: I need help PLEASE - 3/14/2008 8:30:31 PM

Daddyslilpookie

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Girl you need to kick this guy to the curb and drop him like a bad habbit. I wouldn't want my Master sleeping with other girls and being treated like a piece of ass. Girl drop him he is playing you like a gameboy and find a real Master who needs you and only you. Good luck to you.

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RE: I need help PLEASE - 3/14/2008 8:42:18 PM

stella41b

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If ever there was an apt title to an OP.

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RE: I need help PLEASE - 3/14/2008 9:11:58 PM

LuckyAlbatross

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Dang I don't get all the negativity here

What's wrong with telling a slave to attract someone for sex?

What's wrong with punishing that slave for failing to follow through? Even if she did nothing wrong herself, sometimes trying just isn't good enough and I'm going to impose consequences.

And frankly, given what the master wants, hiring an escort is an easy quick safe immediate option. I'd be annoyed if my slave was too stupid to think of that on their own.

Now, any particular master might be a total dumbass, who has no idea what he's asking for, no idea how to effectively train a slave to get it, and is improperly assigning responsibility. But that doesn't mean the actions are always wrong for every master.

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RE: I need help PLEASE - 3/14/2008 9:52:30 PM

catize

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Yes, you do need help but not the kind you are asking for.

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RE: I need help PLEASE - 3/14/2008 10:11:18 PM

DelilahDeb

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Self-esteem? missing!

What good is submitting something that *you* don't value? Unfortunately, the Peter principle plays itself out even here.

"Tha doesna like this one an' tha doesna like that one. How does tha like thyself, then?"
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RE: I need help PLEASE - 3/14/2008 10:34:38 PM

sunshinemiss

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

What's wrong with telling a slave to attract someone for sex?

NOTHING, if that is what they've agreed to do. She joined here 2 weeks ago... she is new to the lifestyle. Sounds like she is being used and handed a load of , "if you're really submissive, you'll find me some pussy"

What's wrong with punishing that slave for failing to follow through? Even if she did nothing wrong herself, sometimes trying just isn't good enough and I'm going to impose consequences.

Now, LA, I am a big fan of yours, but this time I think you are wrong. She is being punished for choices OTHERS are making. That's what's wrong.

quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

And frankly, given what the master wants, hiring an escort is an easy quick safe immediate option. I'd be annoyed if my slave was too stupid to think of that on their own.

That i'll give you... it's an easy solution. But it sure doesn't sound like that is what he wants... sounds like he wants a play mate, not a hooker. That could be me reading into this... but she's new, she's in training, and he's punishing her about other people instead of actually TRAINING her. I wouldn't have thought of hiring an escort. And I've been around the block or two... I don't know... let's see... Oh yes, it's illegal. he's asking her to do something illegal.

quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Now, any particular master might be a total dumbass, who has no idea what he's asking for, no idea how to effectively train a slave to get it, and is improperly assigning responsibility. But that doesn't mean the actions are always wrong for every master.

If it looks like a duck, and it quacks like a duck, and it swims like a duck.... it ain't no armadillo. He's a user and a player and is one of those guys that gives wiitwd a bad name.

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RE: I need help PLEASE - 3/14/2008 10:52:16 PM

peppermint

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quote:

I am a new sub in training with my Master.

You answered your own question. As a "new sub in training" it is your Master's obligation to train you. If he wishes you to find women for him to bed, then he needs to train you in how to pick up the pussy. He just needs to show you how it is done.

Only a lazy Master would give a sub a command without the means to accomplish the task.
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RE: I need help PLEASE - 3/14/2008 11:09:42 PM

LuckyAlbatross

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quote:

NOTHING, if that is what they've agreed to do. She joined here 2 weeks ago... she is new to the lifestyle. Sounds like she is being used and handed a load of , "if you're really submissive, you'll find me some pussy"

Sure, but she's eating it up. She's a big girl and if she doesn't like it, she can end it.

quote:

Now, LA, I am a big fan of yours, but this time I think you are wrong. She is being punished for choices OTHERS are making. That's what's wrong.

In general I agree. But there are other alternatives here- perhaps an escort is completely acceptable and she didn't choose it. Perhaps she's hemming and hawing and self destructing every good possibility, perhaps she's not being honest with the people she's talking to.

Wouldn't be the first time a sub whines about punishment when some real information is being withheld to make the master look mean and bad- specially as a newbie, can her perspective be trusted to be thoroughly thought out?

quote:

That i'll give you... it's an easy solution. But it sure doesn't sound like that is what he wants... sounds like he wants a play mate, not a hooker. That could be me reading into this... but she's new, she's in training, and he's punishing her about other people instead of actually TRAINING her. I wouldn't have thought of hiring an escort. And I've been around the block or two... I don't know... let's see... Oh yes, it's illegal. he's asking her to do something illegal.

Who cares about legal? It was illegal to own certain sex toys in Texas just months ago. Plenty of sex and kink is illegal in plenty of places. This isn't about legal issues.

quote:

If it looks like a duck, and it quacks like a duck, and it swims like a duck.... it ain't no armadillo. He's a user and a player and is one of those guys that gives wiitwd a bad name.

See I just think that's jumping the gun and making a lot of easy assumptions.

How come she isn't giving wiitwd a bad name by being so naive, stupid, quick to rush into things and not taking responsibility?

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RE: I need help PLEASE - 3/14/2008 11:18:23 PM

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I find nothing sexy about a man who can't get his own "pussy". He obviously doesn't even care enough to pick out a particular girl, just any vagina will do. Very few women like being an anonymous piece of meat.

Sexy? Definitely not.

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RE: I need help PLEASE - 3/14/2008 11:24:53 PM

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