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RE: Voice as a tool in Ds - 3/15/2008 11:05:21 AM

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Really, a voice like Peter Lorre. Well, alright, as long as Master doesn't look like him, too.

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How about Shemp Howard?

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haha-hahaha

Yeees, I can imagine.

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We'll just call you "M"

Proof that Lorre had kink?: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gDwPYlar9uM&feature=related

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have found .. that I will do *anything* .. if asked in a Dominant Dracula voice ...

*sighs* ... dreaming of Master Vlad .. and His great Impaler

I vant you......... *puts in wax fangs and wiggles eyebrows*

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RE: Voice as a tool in Ds - 3/15/2008 11:05:37 AM

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My Sir is very soft spoken. Although our relationship is relatively new (5 months) I've yet to hear Him yell. Hearing His voice has a way of bringing peace as I can be a bit highstrung at times. On the other hand, if He's found displeasure with something I've said or done, the soft spoken tone seems to have a lower timbre. That's all it takes and my attitude adjusts accordingly.

I grew up in a household where yelling was the norm (9 brothers) so the men I'm drawn to rarely raise their voice. I understand being excited about something, etc., but yelling directly at me will cause me to reconsider a relationship....I apologize if my last comments were off topic.

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RE: Voice as a tool in Ds - 3/15/2008 11:10:43 AM

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My partner has a delicious voice... (plus I adore his accent). When he needs me to shut the hell up and listen, his voice goes quieter. He has never raised his voice to me. With just the slightest change in intonation he can make me wet, or express his disappointment in me when I screw up.

*sigh*

gotta call him now.. LOL

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RE: Voice as a tool in Ds - 3/15/2008 11:32:13 AM

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I grew up in a household where yelling was the norm (9 brothers) so the men I'm drawn to rarely raise their voice. I understand being excited about something, etc., but yelling directly at me will cause me to reconsider a relationship....

I just have sensitive hearing. I love a soft, intimate tone of voice.

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I apologize if my last comments were off topic.

Come. Join us in the Peter Lorre retrospective :P

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RE: Voice as a tool in Ds - 3/15/2008 11:35:20 AM

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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

My partner has a delicious voice... (plus I adore his accent). When he needs me to shut the hell up and listen, his voice goes quieter. He has never raised his voice to me. With just the slightest change in intonation he can make me wet, or express his disappointment in me when I screw up.

*sigh*

gotta call him now.. LOL

Puddle cleanup, aisle 9!

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RE: Voice as a tool in Ds - 3/15/2008 12:05:33 PM

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Ma'am,
i humbly beseech thee to consider the diverence in 'living a Dominant/submissive lifestyle' to the 'Saturday Night 23:00 let's go down to the Bar and be Top and make some wankers life hell' playing. Barking or shouting orders, continual raised voice tells me i chew the balls.

Your obedient servant

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RE: Voice as a tool in Ds - 3/15/2008 12:06:00 PM

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have found .. that I will do *anything* .. if asked in a Dominant Dracula voice ...

*sighs* ... dreaming of Master Vlad .. and His great Impaler

I vant you......... *puts in wax fangs and wiggles eyebrows*

*suddenly finds herself in a flowing white night dress... neck exposed ... doing an excellent impression of a vulnerable virgin*

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RE: Voice as a tool in Ds - 3/15/2008 12:29:10 PM

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ORIGINAL: foxhole

Ma'am,
i humbly beseech thee to consider the diverence in 'living a Dominant/submissive lifestyle' to the 'Saturday Night 23:00 let's go down to the Bar and be Top and make some wankers life hell' playing. Barking or shouting orders, continual raised voice tells me i chew the balls.

Your obedient servant

Well, I have NEVER did the "Go to the bar at 11pm and be "Top" in order to make anyone's life hell."

However, the statement is this:

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voice is used to say orders; wrong! if you need to order subs around you are playing Sm and not living Ds

If it is wrong to use your voice to convey orders, or even needing to order your sub, HOW is one suppose to communicate?

Writing?

Interpretive Dance?

I, for one, have no telepathy skills.

My thoughts were that perhaps the OP was refering to a need to "bark" orders. Or convey them in a manner that one believes is how a Dom acts instead of being themselves.

As an added note, I have never heard the expression "chew the balls" when not refering to dog before. Although I can guess what it means.

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RE: Voice as a tool in Ds - 3/15/2008 12:30:09 PM

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ORIGINAL: softness

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have found .. that I will do *anything* .. if asked in a Dominant Dracula voice ...

*sighs* ... dreaming of Master Vlad .. and His great Impaler

I vant you......... *puts in wax fangs and wiggles eyebrows*

*suddenly finds herself in a flowing white night dress... neck exposed ... doing an excellent impression of a vulnerable virgin*

I stand behind the "virgin" () in the cold mist........ the fog hangs in the night air, heavy with expectation..... my fingertip traces down the back of your pale neck......

Cleanup, aisle 9, 10, and 11!!

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Skinned up knees and salty lips
Let go it's harder holding on
One more trip and I'll be gone

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RE: Voice as a tool in Ds - 3/15/2008 2:00:14 PM

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Master, keeping your hazard lights on and staying on the phone works for me =)... welllllll sometimes ... other times that whisper REALLY gets my attention xoxo

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RE: Voice as a tool in Ds - 3/15/2008 6:23:17 PM

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A quiet order has much more power than a loud, agressive one. A quite order is one that is confidant of being followed. The same can be said for a polite tone...Loud is good if, for instance, a sub is trying to give their Dom the gift of a 'venting
session, but for D/s and training purposes, screaming is uneeded and sometimes harmful to the dynamic. It's much easier to respect a Dom who's voice has quiet confidence, especially when one has learned that they have loud actions.

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RE: Voice as a tool in Ds - 3/15/2008 7:09:56 PM

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I am glad to see all the little people slowly moving towards the lofty peaks of greatness shared only those like myself. I after all, being the inventor of voice and tone in D/s. I had written a long tome about it but alas it was lost back in the winds of time when CastleRealm closed, the last great refuge of the old ones when bdsm was still great and all that shit.

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RE: Voice as a tool in Ds - 3/15/2008 7:27:42 PM

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I think that different people respond to auditory stimuli in a variety of ways. For some people whispering is most effective as a way of gaining attention, for others it might be yelling. I think that the way we respond to others is much dependent on the way we were raised as kids... for some submissives someone raising their voice might frighten them because of childhood ghosts, other submissives might become angry at that.

Yes, I think that voice, tone, words, are all important to how submissives respond to their dominant, but at the same time, each of us is unique with our own unique histories... so a dominant should search for what response he wants from a submissive to match the sort of stimulous that will be most effective.

julia

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RE: Voice as a tool in Ds - 3/15/2008 7:43:14 PM

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What?

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RE: Voice as a tool in Ds - 3/15/2008 8:04:07 PM

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QOiG1hArSps

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RE: Voice as a tool in Ds - 3/15/2008 8:30:36 PM

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ORIGINAL: SinergyNstrumpet

I think that different people respond to auditory stimuli in a variety of ways. For some people whispering is most effective as a way of gaining attention, for others it might be yelling. I think that the way we respond to others is much dependent on the way we were raised as kids... for some submissives someone raising their voice might frighten them because of childhood ghosts, other submissives might become angry at that.

Yes, I think that voice, tone, words, are all important to how submissives respond to their dominant, but at the same time, each of us is unique with our own unique histories... so a dominant should search for what response he wants from a submissive to match the sort of stimulous that will be most effective.

julia

Very apt approach. Consider the nature of the individual. It's effective; it's realistic. There is not much use in getting stuck on how the other person "should" react.

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RE: Voice as a tool in Ds - 3/16/2008 1:14:04 AM

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i agree that how something is said is as important as what. my past makes me flinch whenever people start yelling in anger, especially men. Being yelled at when i screw up is a limit for me. What a relief a calm. stern male voice, expressing displeasure is. Knowing that i will not be screamed at and made to feel stupid or worthless makes it much easier to admit mistakes and failures.

my Master's voice makes me feel warm and safe, instantly makes me relax when i speak to Him on the phone. His chuckle makes me shiver. His voice commanding me come is sometimes all i need to do so. He does not have to raise His voice to be obeyed.

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RE: Voice as a tool in Ds - 3/16/2008 6:13:14 AM

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don't try to figure everyone out...it'll give you a headache... Lovely new pic btw

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RE: Voice as a tool in Ds - 3/16/2008 6:16:03 AM

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Voice tone is an absoulte must in my scening. It is the way I put my slave into slave space. I can use it to interrogate him. I can use it for just about anything.
Most dom/mes use this as a way to lead their sub/slaves.

Regards, MissSCD

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RE: Voice as a tool in Ds - 3/16/2008 6:20:16 AM

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people who raise kids, do raise their voice , not? It works often. (not meaning yelling..that makes them just scared)

< Message edited by Justme696 -- 3/16/2008 6:22:29 AM >

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