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Getting to know you~ - 3/15/2008 7:49:44 AM

SubmissiveAK

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So I've been having a back and forth discussion on a local list with a Mistress and the topic of communication came up. We got to discussing how at times some submissives can act or do things in the hopes of getting attention, and that she hates how manipulative that is. As someone who's been guilty of that behavior in the past (and trying to change) I put forth that its simply not always easy to get down to a deep, get to know you conversation with a new female Domme. Betwixt the placing on a pedistal most Domme's get (for being Domme) and our inate shyness it makes things super-difficult. There is the fear of rejection, the fear of shunning which comes into play. I think most subbies know how bad it would be to provoke a reaction in the hopes of connecting, but I also think its often done subconciously. Maybe free submissives need to be made aware of thier proclivities, and inquiring Mistresses should be less focused on the what and more on the why?

What are your thoughts?

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RE: Getting to know you~ - 3/15/2008 9:14:13 AM

Pyrrsefanie

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ORIGINAL: SubmissiveAK
inquiring Mistresses should be less focused on the what and more on the why?

DON'T TELL ME HOW TO PLAY MY CLASS NOOB /kick SubmissiveAK

Nah, just kidding. Hehe.

I can't speak for all Dommes, but I know I try to be something of a psychologist whenever possible with my boy. Repeated behaviors, a lot of times, can have a reason behind them other than "he's just a brat."

Although I should probably stress that the rest of those times, the reason behind them is probably "he's just a brat."

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