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RE: unable to orgasm without Master? - 3/15/2008 4:30:06 PM

Treasure3

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Treasure,

I understand a bit of what you are talking about. I have been in a relationship with Daddy for almost 5 years and in the last few months, I sometimes have difficulty on my own hitting the target. If I really want to get there and it's taking longer to have an orgasm, I sometimes have to "hear" Him in my head telling me to go ahead. It's kinda weird, but it happens at times. I hope that you can get past this bump in the road. Sometimes they just train us too well.

I do try to "hear" him or imagine him being there, but it just doesn't work. I have to hear his voice over the phone, telling me he wants me to cum for him. Have I been trained without realizing it? LOL

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RE: unable to orgasm without Master? - 3/15/2008 6:39:01 PM

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I do try to "hear" him or imagine him being there, but it just doesn't work. I have to hear his voice over the phone, telling me he wants me to cum for him. Have I been trained without realizing it? LOL

it sounds like you have been trained without realizing it...because thats exactly what happened to me with my training, to this day, years after the relationship ended, i am still working on cumming without permission...after years of being not in a relationship, and now in a relationship where he doesn't want any kind of restriction on my orgasms, except when he chooses (it's just annoying for him to have to give me permission every time, doesn't trip his triggers) so, what i have to do is a self talk about how my orgasm is for his pleasure...even when i didn't have a "him" to do it for...it was about being able to orgasm...after months of no orgasm when i was single...i needed it desperately...i don't know why it works, but when my orgasm isn't for my pleasure but for someone else's, i can get past that block...even when i am masturbating...if that makes any sense?

good luck
chelle

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RE: unable to orgasm without Master? - 3/16/2008 8:08:26 AM

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This may sound like a silly problem, but it is driving me bonkers, so I am asking if others have ever had a similar situation and what they did to overcome it. Over the past six months or so, it seems I have steadily been losing the ability to orgasm by myself. I can try and try and do all the things I used to do and many of the things Master does to me, but unless I am with him, or he is on the phone with me, I just can't get there anymore. What could have caused this?

Hello Tresure3. Just ask permission before you go solo. Should do the trick. The cause is conditioning. RL.

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RE: unable to orgasm without Master? - 3/16/2008 9:40:54 AM

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Not to detract from the suggestions here, but it does follow thoughts...
Any suggestions on how to avoid such a catastrophie. I am certain if My Love were to experience this, it would all around be a bad damn day... LOL

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RE: unable to orgasm without Master? - 3/16/2008 10:17:09 AM

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Not to detract from the suggestions here, but it does follow thoughts...
Any suggestions on how to avoid such a catastrophie. I am certain if My Love were to experience this, it would all around be a bad damn day... LOL

Yes, please if anyone has any thoughts on how to avoid this happening again, please chime in. This wasn't something my Master was trying to teach me. It just happened somehow.

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RE: unable to orgasm without Master? - 3/16/2008 2:16:48 PM

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I find this to be fairly normal for a slave, you know that you no longer own your own climaxes but he does. I train for orgasm control when I am near owning her she not only can't cum with my permission but will cum on command without needing anything but my voice.

Seems you have found this rite of passage all by yourself or your Master was very subtle in his training. When you know he owns you climaxes then you are truly owned

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RE: unable to orgasm without Master? - 3/16/2008 2:18:15 PM

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What works for me is just spending less time focusing on what's going on in your head, and focus more on the sensations your body is feeling. Its like with any woman who has a hard time orgasming, try not to stress out about it. If you have to think about something I'd suggest just picturing your Daddy telling to cum.

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RE: unable to orgasm without Master? - 3/16/2008 2:26:15 PM

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it's always been a matter of having someone else in control over me that rocks my world; take that away, then i can't accomplish shit on my own! been that way most of my life and it sucks at times; particularly if i'm single for any amount of time at all!

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ORIGINAL: Treasure3

This may sound like a silly problem, but it is driving me bonkers, so I am asking if others have ever had a similar situation and what they did to overcome it. Over the past six months or so, it seems I have steadily been losing the ability to orgasm by myself. I can try and try and do all the things I used to do and many of the things Master does to me, but unless I am with him, or he is on the phone with me, I just can't get there anymore. What could have caused this?

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RE: unable to orgasm without Master? - 3/16/2008 4:05:21 PM

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What could have caused this?

You are causing this!

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