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RealSub58 -> RE: wat if there is an accident during physical torture? (3/4/2009 11:07:30 AM)

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ORIGINAL: nosexslave

I have NO limits,NO boundries,and NO,known,tolerances. Yet,I am unable to find a Mistress willing to explore,possible,boundries/tolerances. A few years ago,I had a bad motorcycle accident,which broke my right hip bone,in 2 places,and injured my lower back. My orthopedic surgeon told my (ex-) wife,to massage my lower back,and paddle my hips,lightly,to stimulate the nerve endings. She didn't do either,so,now,I have 20%-30% of natural feelings,in my body,front and back,from,just,above my hips,to,about,6" below my hips,with very little feelings in my groin area. Yet,still,I'm unable to test possible limits,boundries,and/or tolerances,because no one is willing. Also,I do NOT believe in "safe" words. They are,just,an excuse to get out of pain,and/or discomfort. I have been in the lifestyle,for 22 years,first as a Master,with my,own,private dungeon,then as a switch,now,as a submissive slave. Any comments,from the BDSM world?


Start your own thread. 
This thread is not about you but about another and their seeming stupidity.




EmpressOphira -> RE: wat if there is an accident during physical torture? (3/4/2009 11:34:59 AM)

LOL. Just lopped it right off! :)

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Words you probably don't want to hear. "Whoops, well 4 inches will work as well as 6."

The reality is that there needs to be lots of communication. Just as in all relationships. Contrary to popular belief, no one is a mind reader.





twistedreality -> RE: wat if there is an accident during physical torture? (3/4/2009 11:50:28 AM)

Well, well...an accident during physical torture....if you are worried about that, put your subject in a diaper for true humiliation....snicker ..snicker




EmpressOphira -> RE: wat if there is an accident during physical torture? (3/4/2009 11:55:47 AM)

Well, I'm a ballbuster and I can attest to the fact that many guys can safely withstand more abuse than you think. As Mistress Venus wrote before, responsible dommes do our homework first and also know how to gauge what is too much for each individual. Everyone's threshold is different so, what looks extreme to you may not be for others and it's not static. You can take a lot more when you're turned on than when you're not. Imagine what effect this results in over time.

There are some doctored up videos though like this one I saw of a man sitting on a glass jar that shattered in his anus but I found out later the jar was made of some kind of sugary substance and the blood was fake, etc. Still, it was pretty horrifying!



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ORIGINAL: searchin4love

i have seen horrible videos on net most horrible were those of cbt,nipple torture,ball kicking..how can someone do/bear that thing..wudnt someone die of pain? or become infertile permanenty!!..are these videos tampered or are these real?
ok leave submissives who want this kind of stuff ?how do dominant women do all this stuff arent they scared if something happens to slave.?







MoGa -> RE: wat if there is an accident during physical torture? (3/4/2009 12:00:48 PM)

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This thread is not about you but about another and their seeming stupidity.


 
I'm sorry but I don't agree with this at all. How many times do we tell new people to do searches on old threads and topics to gather information? I find it ironic, that the OP has done exactly that and yet, he is called stupid. I understand that this is an old thread, and the OP is probably not around anymore, but I think a little tolerance is in order here. I don't find his questions stupid, I think that any time someone doesn't ask about something and tries to do it on their own without the benefit of knowledge, is stupid. Calling a newbie stupid when they are honestly asking for information shows a lack of understanding of what it was like when you were first starting out.
 
To the OP if you or anyone is around who would like information about this topic, don't stop looking or asking questions. I would suggest you gain some education of "safe words". Daddysredhead has already pointed out the importance or safe words. If you are screaming throughout the session and safe words were not discussed prior to play, then the dominant should stop. Period. She/He does not know you well enough to know if the screams are from real fear or pain, or if you are simply a screamer. Never play unless you have talked to the Top beforehand. You need to discuss safety issues first and foremost. Don't get caught up in sub-fever, to the point of not taking care of yourself. Someone mentioned that the responsibility of the Dominant is to make sure you are safe and cared for, but it doesn't release you of your own responsibility of informing Her/Him of what your limits are. You are still accountable for your own well being.
 
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I'm yearning to know the technique of being tied up and having a way to become "unbound" in an emergency?? tec

subinchico,
I am not into a whole lot of rope bondage, but I do alot of restraint bondage. There is always a safety measure in place before my sub is restrained. One of the eye hooks does come out of the wall, so if I were to have a fainting spell, or anything should happen to me, while he is in restraints, he does have a way to release himself. Like Lady Hibiscus likes to say, it is really no fun to always put them in restraints, the best thing, and I agree, is to see them have to restrain themselves. I have instructed my own sub to keep his arms up (like he is restrained) and not to put them down for any reason. He has done exactly that. I am thrilled that I am able to have that authority over him, to the point of his having to force himself to keep himself restrained. I love the struggle that he has to keep his arms up, to please me.
 
There should always be (impo) an emergency contingency in place for a submissive/bottom to rely on. In no way should a submissive be so bound, that there is no recourse for him, should something happen to the Top (seizure, heart attack, ect).
 
Of course these are my policies, others may differ. There is no handbook for Dominants. Basically we try to use our own common sense and hope for the best :)
 
MoGa

Edited for spell check <blush>




LPslittleclip -> RE: wat if there is an accident during physical torture? (3/4/2009 9:05:48 PM)

as the saying goes shit happens. it behooves those who are participating to be prepared for unforeseen incidents. fire burns so have something to smother it, wet towels are great. breath play cuts off air supply so be able to do CPR, the same with electric play. any blood play has issues with it so be able to deal with it and prepared for the eventuality's. for the new ask questions and research the subject find those who have practiced it and learn from them.
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FullfigRIMAAM1 -> RE: wat if there is an accident during physical torture? (3/5/2009 12:04:56 AM)

FR
Not having read the thread, I'm going to state the obvious...

If something occurs during play, that you (OP) are not familiar with or comfortable handling, please do not be too embarrassed to call for emergency help/rescue immediately.   Because accidents happen, but neglect is much easier to punish by law, I think, especially if the other person doesn't live to explain to the authorities that it was an accident.   

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nosexslave
I have NO limits,NO boundries,and NO,known,tolerances. Yet,I am unable to find a Mistress willing to explore,possible,boundries/tolerances.
Is sex your limit, NoSexSlave? [:D]   Your response sounds like a challenge or come on.   I suppose someone could whip you to a bloody mess, but I don't imagine many people want to do that.    Besides that, everyone has limits...   Unless you want to tell us no one ever asked you to do something stupid, like jump off somewhere.   M




thishereboi -> RE: wat if there is an accident during physical torture? (3/5/2009 6:58:33 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MoGa

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This thread is not about you but about another and their seeming stupidity.




Unless I read it wrong, she was talking to nosexslave whos post had nothing to do with the OP and sounded like a whiney rant about why he can't find a mistress. Not sure why he felt the need to post it here, but I am not a bit surprised he is having trouble finding someone.




DreamyLadySnow -> RE: wat if there is an accident during physical torture? (3/5/2009 8:09:11 PM)

Just had to add my two cents. The sub is also very much responsible for their well-being, not just the Top. As an earlier poster said, we are not mind readers. A lot of things can go wrong, but good communication can prevent a lot of problems.




subinchico -> RE: wat if there is an accident during physical torture? (3/6/2009 1:33:13 AM)

MoGa,
Well thank you, she does use eye bolts but they are tight and she has little patience for training me to restrain my weak minded self (weak during play). But still, I appreciate your idea.  I need more ideas, although I am almost prepared to perish, as slave I have to know my risk is great.
 
quote:

I'm yearning to know the technique of being tied up and having a way to become "unbound" in an emergency?? tec

subinchico,
I am not into a whole lot of rope bondage, but I do alot of restraint bondage. There is always a safety measure in place before my sub is restrained. One of the eye hooks does come out of the wall, so if I were to have a fainting spell, or anything should happen to me, while he is in restraints, he does have a way to release himself. Like Lady Hibiscus likes to say, it is really no fun to always put them in restraints, the best thing, and I agree, is to see them have to restrain themselves. I have instructed my own sub to keep his arms up (like he is restrained) and not to put them down for any reason. He has done exactly that. I am thrilled that I am able to have that authority over him, to the point of his having to force himself to keep himself restrained. I love the struggle that he has to keep his arms up, to please me.
 
There should always be (impo) an emergency contingency in place for a submissive/bottom to rely on. In no way should a submissive be so bound, that there is no recourse for him, should something happen to the Top (seizure, heart attack, ect).
 
Of course these are my policies, others may differ. There is no handbook for Dominants. Basically we try to use our own common sense and hope for the best :)
 
MoGa

Edited for spell check <blush>




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