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MistressNew -> Femdom wedding (3/18/2008 3:19:07 AM)

I know this is quite sudden, but my boy and I are getting married in July.  The thing is, I really need his dental insurance sooner than that.  So we're thinking about having a wedding sooner- like next weekend.

What we'd really like, though, is to have a small femdom wedding.  I'm not really sure where, and I'm not really sure how, but I do know that's what we'd like.  We both have very busy jobs and haven't had time to join a local femdom group, but I wonder if you all think it's possible to gather a few dommes (and their pets, if they'd like) to witness our wedding vows?  Anywhere in the NY/Philly/DC area would be fine, but I'm not sure where to start.

Are there women who will perform the ceremony?  Do you think we could get a local club FEM to attend?  Is this even possible, or should we go back to our original plan?

Thanks so much!



hopelesslyInvo -> RE: Femdom wedding (3/18/2008 3:25:00 AM)

i'm mostly curious about the dentist thing at this point~

if july seems sudden, this would surely be just flat out rushing into things, and 'perhaps' for the wrong reason?

i don't really have any advice on how to put this together though, but wouldn't you rather have family and friends there instead of random likeminded strangers?  or are you thinking of the "femdom" sort of marriage that you wouldn't want them to see?



LadyHathor -> RE: Femdom wedding (3/18/2008 3:48:20 AM)

http://www.ulc.net/index.php?page=minister_directory

here is a directory to alternative style ministers, all legal to perform marriages and I am sure like Myself, more than a few who can deliver a fem dom wedding.
 
Good Luck



LadyJeelys -> RE: Femdom wedding (3/18/2008 4:17:39 AM)


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ORIGINAL: MistressNew

I know this is quite sudden, but my boy and I are getting married in July.  The thing is, I really need his dental insurance sooner than that.  So we're thinking about having a wedding sooner- like next weekend.




Whoa, hold on. If you're talking about moving up a wedding in order to get dental coverage, it sounds like what you want to have done is "major".....in which case you may want to check the waiting period on the insurance. Most plans have 6-12 month waiting periods for "major" services.



LaMistressa -> RE: Femdom wedding (3/18/2008 5:11:12 AM)

You could always ask The Crucible, I think they have hosted such events before. That or there is a large kink event in DC this weekend (Winter Fire), you could do it at that. I'm not active with the local Club Fem, but if you need help I could ask my local contacts if anyone knows a female who could do the ceremony. Contact me on the other side if you need help.

Most dental insurance isn't good enough to justify getting married quickly, however! [;)]



MistressNew -> RE: Femdom wedding (3/18/2008 7:24:58 AM)

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Whoa, hold on. If you're talking about moving up a wedding in order to get dental coverage, it sounds like what you want to have done is "major".....in which case you may want to check the waiting period on the insurance. Most plans have 6-12 month waiting periods for "major" services.


That's a good point.  Actually, we're having 3 weddings already (we're from very different cultures) and the first "official" one is in a month.  But that one is for my parents.  We want a wedding that's just for us - a place where we can be ourselves.

And I'm hoping for 5-8, not a bunch. 

Oh, and the list of ministers looks good.  Thank you, Lady Hathor.  I knew I'd seen one someplace.



rubberpet -> RE: Femdom wedding (3/18/2008 8:41:43 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MistressNew

I know this is quite sudden, but my boy and I are getting married in July.  The thing is, I really need his dental insurance sooner than that.  So we're thinking about having a wedding sooner- like next weekend.



Who says romance is dead!  I've heard of getting married for U.S. citizenship, but never dental insurance.  Oh well, I guess you gotta start out somewhere and work your way up. [8|]



MistressNew -> RE: Femdom wedding (3/18/2008 8:55:33 AM)

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ORIGINAL: rubberpet

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ORIGINAL: MistressNew

I know this is quite sudden, but my boy and I are getting married in July.  The thing is, I really need his dental insurance sooner than that.  So we're thinking about having a wedding sooner- like next weekend.



Who says romance is dead!  I've heard of getting married for U.S. citizenship, but never dental insurance.  Oh well, I guess you gotta start out somewhere and work your way up. [8|]


It's not the only reason, smart-ass.  It's just one.  The others are personal, but come down to "we're having 3 different weddings so far, none of which feel like we have anything to do with them.  It might be fun to have one of our own."





DiurnalVampire -> RE: Femdom wedding (3/18/2008 9:00:03 AM)

The problem you might face with a Femdom wedding on htat short a notice is the guestlist. Especially if you dont know people in the area already, you dont want your wedding to be a spectacle you want it to be meaningful. Otherwise, it is no different than all the other ceremonies you are already having. Perhaps your rushed plans should be a courthouse wedding, just to make things legal, and then you can put some planning into your femdom wedding plans, as you are into the other show ceremonies you will be having.
Justa  thought
DV



Aylee -> RE: Femdom wedding (3/18/2008 9:10:49 AM)

Okay. . . maybe I am just uniformed, but WHAT is a "Femdom wedding," as opposed to a regular wedding? 

I think that the most important things are to make sure that you both are comfortable with what it is you want to have happen.  That your finances can support your weddings (with out credit cards or borrowing). That you have those who you want to be there to witness it, there. 

My wedding was not a production.  We did a justice of the peace, had a meal catered (bbq - buffett style) and had a gaming party.  We also helped money wise to bring several people out, that lived in other states.  All of this was cash up front, no credit cards (unless you count using debit cards ~ but they are easier than writing checks).

Everyone had a great time. 

And we did not start off a life togeather with a bunch of wedding bills. 

Now the purpose of the wedding was to get married.  And to have friends and family there to share in our happiness.  It was not an attempt to define our personal life. 

So, I must ask. . . what are you looking for in this wedding? 

You do not want to be walked down the aslie?  (that is one word I can never spell).  You do not want to be "given away?"  You dislike the traditional marriage vows? 

What is your goal? 

What do you want to say with all of this? 



rubberpet -> RE: Femdom wedding (3/18/2008 9:54:00 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MistressNew

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ORIGINAL: rubberpet

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ORIGINAL: MistressNew

I know this is quite sudden, but my boy and I are getting married in July.  The thing is, I really need his dental insurance sooner than that.  So we're thinking about having a wedding sooner- like next weekend.



Who says romance is dead!  I've heard of getting married for U.S. citizenship, but never dental insurance.  Oh well, I guess you gotta start out somewhere and work your way up. [8|]


It's not the only reason, smart-ass.  It's just one.  The others are personal, but come down to "we're having 3 different weddings so far, none of which feel like we have anything to do with them.  It might be fun to have one of our own."


Smart-ass?  Hey...I resemble that!  [:D]  You say that like you know me already. 

Sorry, but your post did sound a bit tacky.  I'm just going by the original post.  You made immediate mention of needing his dental insurance sooner than the original wedding date, but no mention of how wonderful of a sub he was to you.  It has been my experience that when a domme wants to marry her sub, it means he's met and exceeded all her expectations, therefore making her want to shout to the world how wonderful he is.  I didn't see that anywhere.  So, please forgive my smart-ass observation if there is no truth to it.

Good luck to you and your subby.  When you tie the knot, just make sure he can't move, but still breathe! [;)]



MsSaskia -> RE: Femdom wedding (3/18/2008 11:42:11 AM)

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ORIGINAL: rubberpet
Who says romance is dead!  I've heard of getting married for U.S. citizenship, but never dental insurance.  Oh well, I guess you gotta start out somewhere and work your way up. [8|]


I'll be getting married soon just for the insurance.  Getting a piece of paper that'll get me insurance is annoying and inconvenient and the last thing I wanted to ever have to do again.  Sometimes circumstances suck and people do things they'd rather not do.  Having people like you around to point snide fingers at anyone whose romantic ideal doesn't match yours really doesn't help.



MistressNew -> RE: Femdom wedding (3/18/2008 11:50:15 AM)

And Ms. Saskia just earned herself an invitation.  Hell, we might move the entire wedding to Denver.

Really, any ideas about how to get a small audience or little activities would be wonderful.



MsSaskia -> RE: Femdom wedding (3/18/2008 12:07:00 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MistressNew

And Ms. Saskia just earned herself an invitation.  Hell, we might move the entire wedding to Denver.

Really, any ideas about how to get a small audience or little activities would be wonderful.



I would be thrilled to have a wedding in our new dungeon.  It's huuuuge and big. 
Small audience... you two belong to a leather club of some kind in your area?  Go to munches or play parties or anything?  Got a group of kinky friends?  Maybe you could paint a cane white and have each guest make a wish for your future together, then give him a stroke or two to seal it.  Kinda like throwing a coin in a fountain, but with more screaming and laughter than usual.  [:D]  

I've only been telling a few friends here about the impending marriage.  Those that know us pretty well know enough to say say, "Oh, man, I'm sorry ::then they laugh:: but it's good you'll finally get some insurance".  They know we both really detest the whole institution of marriage and that this is a kicking-and-screaming situation for both of us.  What's sweetly romantic about it is that he told me we can get a divorce anytime I want, no hard feelings at all.  I think if we had any intention of having kids together, marriage might be a good idea for legal reasons, but it's just not something either one of us is up for. 

Someone we know a little bit less well offered to throw a party for us to celebrate.  We both shuddered.  Noooo thank you.  The woman kept insisting and I did not have to fake a headache to get off the phone.



MistressNew -> RE: Femdom wedding (3/18/2008 12:23:02 PM)

Unfortunately, my boy is a bit shy and his job as a teacher makes us both a bit more reserved, so we haven't done anything more than attend a single Club FEM munch. 

I like the idea of marriage.  That way I can let the crazy out and he won't be able to run away.

I like the cane idea, though I prefer a good flick to his balls.  Maybe each woman could give him one or two of those for good luck.  He won't be needing his equipment for a few weeks anyway!





MsSaskia -> RE: Femdom wedding (3/18/2008 12:51:03 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MistressNew

Unfortunately, my boy is a bit shy and his job as a teacher makes us both a bit more reserved, so we haven't done anything more than attend a single Club FEM munch. 

I like the idea of marriage.  That way I can let the crazy out and he won't be able to run away.

I like the cane idea, though I prefer a good flick to his balls.  Maybe each woman could give him one or two of those for good luck.  He won't be needing his equipment for a few weeks anyway!


Femdom romance:  get him a chastity harness with an engraved plate attached to it saying "property of ____".  He can wear that like a backup wedding ring. 

Maybe the femdom ceremony part will have to wait til you've built up a smallish circle of kinky friends in your city.  Maybe it could be a 6month anniversary thing.



MzMia -> RE: Femdom wedding (3/18/2008 12:54:54 PM)

Let us know what type of "special" private ceremony you decide to have.
You might give some of us some good idea's!

Have you considered making him wear a little white dress, and have him vow
to love, honor, and obey you in your private ceremony?
[:D]

Oh the possibilities of a femdom wedding.
Congratulations and good luck to you both.



ctsub2003 -> RE: Femdom wedding (3/18/2008 12:58:07 PM)

Ironic, i had written this in my journal awhile back: Fictitious, yet ideal FemDom wedding: ...I am led nude to the altar, my collar is tight and my leash is held firmly by my Mother, I am her property until married and given away to my new Queen. My penis is clean-shaven of course, properly groomed this morning. I am led down the aisle, I feel so vulnerable, so exposed as the Women glance at my young, leashed penis. Of course all the males are collared and leashed, kneeling beside their Women. Finally I reach the altar, my new Queen is wearing a velvet robe, and I kneel obediently as My mother offers my leash to Her. I am prompted to speak by the Women in attendance- "I promise to love, serve and obey you in marriage, and abide by your rules and decrees; I understand you are my Queen now, my new Mother, who will guide and dominate me through this portion of my life; I will serve and service you sexually, and understand you own and control my penis, as it should be." Then She approaches me, standing directly over me and I kiss her feet, while She places a fitted gold ring around my penis, "I accept you", She says. Slowly, She opens her robe and reveals her beautiful feminine form, her well groomed vagina is at eye level; "Now," She continues, "worship the Divine Feminine as every boy should," I am still kneeling, I know we are not equal, and I know what to do, what all males must do to show their rightful submission to the Female- I look up at Her- She looks down at me and smiles- gently positoning Herself over my mouth- a display of Female dominance, while I obediently kiss her vagina and am told I am a good boy. I am so hard, my penis is so erect and cock ring shining, all the matrons in attendance comment on what a good boy I am and how well trained...



MsDonnaMia -> RE: Femdom wedding (3/18/2008 7:48:14 PM)

This paragraph made me giggle. Go Sister. [;)]

I say spare the grandiose wedding and save the cash for some nice coats or shoes. Get a J.P. and be done with it, sit back and enjoy the benefits!


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ORIGINAL: MistressNew

I know this is quite sudden, but my boy and I are getting married in July.  The thing is, I really need his dental insurance sooner than that.  So we're thinking about having a wedding sooner- like next weekend.




MsDonnaMia -> RE: Femdom wedding (3/18/2008 7:53:14 PM)

New "Queen," huh?

You player.

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ORIGINAL: ctsub2003
Finally I reach the altar, my new Queen is wearing a velvet robe



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