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RE: What's in a name? - 3/18/2008 8:07:44 PM

greenearth21

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LOL, I just like hearing someone...anyone try to call me by my given name. 99.87% of the time they butcher it....okay maybe 99.99%....which makes me laugh/smile because it's so expected. Pet names are nice too...different setting/different time/different reaction and emotions. I've never been much into designated pet names...i could live with or without them, but 'girl' does somethign to me. Depends on the voice.

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RE: What's in a name? - 3/18/2008 8:11:23 PM

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As much as I love being call a cunt and a bitch and other objectifying things of that nature, nothing turns me on like hearing my own name. It's not an ego trip or anything like that, it's just some kind of direct route straight to my insides and it just turns me into a puddle.

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RE: What's in a name? - 3/19/2008 1:30:58 AM

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Master and I only call each other by first names in a "time out" mode or "red light" mode - otherwise he is Sir or Master and I am whatever he wants to call me. Come to think of it, I think I have only called him by his first name once, ever, and it was an unusual circumstance. If other people are around I wait patiently to catch his eye and get his his attention before I ask him a question or tell him something. I never do anything like call to him across the room, ever.

When I write him an email I usually use his first initial. In email or notes he uses a pet name or my first inital or just "s" for slave.

We refer to each other by first names in the third person to other people.

I feel very happy with our mode of address

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RE: What's in a name? - 3/19/2008 1:44:48 AM

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Very powerful stuff.

I find a name can define me, even if it is only used as a passing nickname. The power of taking control over how to address someone is unmistakeable.

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ORIGINAL: Leatherist

If I rename someone, I basically negate a lot of thier history. Choices thier parents made for them-thier relatives, peers. Every time I use that name-they get reminded of that fact.

She's in MY world now-I'm not in hers.

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RE: What's in a name? - 3/19/2008 2:26:53 AM

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ORIGINAL: awakenednj

Is there reasoning behind the use of / refraining from the use of a sub/slaves name? (Their normal vanilla name that is.) If it has been not been used, why does it have such an effect when said once? I am really hoping that someone out there understands this and can help explain it to me...

How I address my girl is all about the desired response and headspace I want from her. In other words, she takes her cues from me....

If I use her given name, we're probably in company (and thus adult equals) and she responds with my given name. But most times when it's just us, I simply call her 'girl' and I'm 'Sir' in response, or else....

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RE: What's in a name? - 3/19/2008 3:53:24 AM

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Ever had your mom say your WHOLE name when she was mad at you? It had an effect. Same thing when your Master uses your given name.

Most of us use nicknames with out partners, no matter what kind of relationship we're in. I called my first husband "hon" all the time. Its was "baby" with the second. I use "hon" with a lot of people (it's a southern thing) and "baby" with those I'm intimate with. It's just something we do.

We also use scene names, which were developed to give some anonymity to people, especially in a society where what we're doing is seen as wrong.

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RE: What's in a name? - 3/19/2008 6:24:25 AM

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i haven't heard Daddy once use my given name ever since meeting almost 2yrs ago. i love it when He calls me "daughter" or " pussy cat". the only person who uses my given name is my pet - he's still thinking of a name for me.

on the flipside, no one in my family has ever called me by my given name. i'm always referred to by my nickname.

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RE: What's in a name? - 3/19/2008 6:27:31 AM

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Names are something that are a preference mostly, when he's in trouble I call him Jeffrey, in everyday life he's Jeff or Darling...and the rest of the time I don't think I call him anything, it's more of a "hey you" situation...

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RE: What's in a name? - 3/19/2008 7:42:34 AM

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For myself names are cues that determine my behavior.

My X Master would usually just call me "pain in the ass" (long story short He was a sadist just looking for an opportunity to punish me and I being so not into anything that resulted in me even saying ouch let alone crying gave him very little reason to do so, therefore a pain in his ass) when introducing me to friends I was introduced as "My favorite pain in the ass, haven", business associates knew me as Miss Haven since I sometimes handled affairs for him he wanted to ensure they knew I had his full backing and trust.

Slut, whore...pretty self explanatory to how I was going to need to behave

Girl...Ah crap the limits of my submission are about to be tested (I really don't like activities that involve pain)

Baby...J was in Daddy mode

Haven Leigh...still to this day stops me dead in my tracks and when said by the right person can reduce me to tears

Nowadays, He generally calls me "His little bitch" cause I'm the one that runs people who annoy him out of the house, stare him down when he decides he's not going to eat, go to the doctor or take his bath. Probably a pretty accurate description lately.

I learned how to interpret what I was called by asking why He used different names all the time. If your confused behind the purpose ask your Dom thats the only answer that really matters in the end.

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RE: What's in a name? - 3/19/2008 8:43:59 AM

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You name, both your given name and a pet or nick name known to mane are indeed a major part of your identity. Most people even face to face and including family call me either "Bear" or "IB" with or without any title or rank. If someone uses my given name or even the shortened version of it, it usually indicates that I'm probably in deep dodo or at least that they want a formal conversation and accordingly I become automatically warey. Socially and especially on foirmal occasions I've become accustomed to being address as Rev. or Colonel (depend on where I am and the type of function) or at Sate occasions they may well use a mors formasl title and address. In all these cases it simple alerts me of the area of my personality being addressed and I automatically respond accordingly.

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RE: What's in a name? - 3/19/2008 11:18:04 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: closetmonkey

Very powerful stuff.

I find a name can define me, even if it is only used as a passing nickname. The power of taking control over how to address someone is unmistakeable.

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ORIGINAL: Leatherist

If I rename someone, I basically negate a lot of thier history. Choices thier parents made for them-thier relatives, peers. Every time I use that name-they get reminded of that fact.

She's in MY world now-I'm not in hers.

It is indeed powerful. Mr. Wonderful just recently chose a new last name for me, which I will be legally changing shortly. He decided on a new first name as well, but put that on hold due to particular circumstances going on. Because of the history and meaning of my first name, he was going to allow me to keep it as a middle name, however.

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RE: What's in a name? - 3/19/2008 4:58:03 PM

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Thank you everybody for your responses. i am reading and listening... and still thinking.... some of these responses seem more like my Sir than others.. but I truly enjoy hearing and learning form all different viewpoints...