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katie978 -> RE: How to change my mind from liking submissive bdsm to control others in bdsm? (3/20/2008 6:10:46 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Kasdrup
I believe I am an alpha male inside me too. I alwasy think about how I can pass my gens the best way. For instance, I work hard at school in order to have money later for my family and me. Moreover, I life weights in case anybody threatens my family (looks can scare people of). I also like to slam people because of my size. I think I think I am dual character.
To be honest, being an alpha male doesn't mean that you have to be dominant. There was a thread in the submissive forum about why all submissive men feel a need to make themselves out to be "alphas". You can take charge in real life, be a leader in activities, and still be submissive. Everyone I've come out to as a submissive were shocked because they assumed submissives are naturally meek and -how do I say this politely- wimpy. They're not. Submissives come in every size and shape and disposition, as do dominants.
As far as striving to provide for your family, I see that as neither a submissive nor a dominant trait, really. Perhaps you should read more about submissive men and you might find out that a) some of them are damned looking, and b)they may be wimps, but that's not a requirement. You seem to have a lot of preconceptions about submissives that make you seem very, very young, a high school mind-set. Perhaps the very fact that you're so full of yourself and so determined to be something you're not is the...reason you're a virgin?
That was a bit out of line, perhaps. Please don't "Slam me". But you certainly seem to have some growing up to do (and I'm only 22-not an adult looking down her nose, but a peer).
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