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Shave, anyone? - 3/20/2008 9:59:48 PM   
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I'm posting this in the sub forum, because it seems most applicable here, but please, anyone respond.

I have discovered that one of life's little pleasures for me is looking after My Lord's personal needs.  I want to start shaving his face.  I need some advice, as the only things I've EVER shaved were on myself.  He's willing to sit through my learning curve for the pleasure of having me tend to him.

The problem is this: I've never done it, and don't know how.  Also, he tends to have a problem with ingrown hairs and acne on his neck when regularly shaved.  I contend that I can find a way to limit that, but have been unable to find good information online save for the basic instructions.

Since you folks have proven to be FOUNT of information, I'm open to any advice you have.

Does anyone else shave/get shaved by their partner?  What tricks should I know before starting?   How can we eliminate the acne/ingrown hair problem?  Is there product or natural remedies that I don't know about?  Thanks for your help.

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RE: Shave, anyone? - 3/20/2008 10:10:24 PM   
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Shave DOWN, not against the way that the hair grows.  This will help to prevent ingrown hairs.  When I was living in Italy most of the men shaved only once every 3 days because their faces were so sensitive.  He might consider this.

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RE: Shave, anyone? - 3/20/2008 10:15:17 PM   
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This stuff is amazing. It's supposedly for aftercare after laser hair removal... but it works AMAZINGLY on ingrown hairs and razor burn. Dunno about acne though- it might just be irritated follicles?



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RE: Shave, anyone? - 3/20/2008 10:18:52 PM   
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Theres something called Magic Powder (or something like that) sold at most drug stores that would help on his neck for sure.  Might be ok on his face as well if necessary. And a tip I learned from a friend... use girl shaving cream, not mens. For some reason, the skin soothers in shaving gel for legs are better for easily irritated skin (so im told)

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RE: Shave, anyone? - 3/20/2008 10:23:02 PM   
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First off, you need to watch him do it himself a couple times.  Does he go against the 'grain' or with it?  Does he shave his head as well?  Does he have a beard or goatee?  Will you use a normal safety razor or a straight razor?  Bar soap or foam/gel?  Pressure of the stroke?

Once you've seen (read as studied as opposed to seeing him do it) him do it himself a couple times, try it on your own face a couple times.  It sounds silly, I know.  But just use a clean razor to wipe off the soap with the same strokes he uses.  That will kind help your hands 'translate' from seeing to doing.  Do it side by side if you need to.

It may be easier to do it the first few times (or keep it that way) from behind him, perhaps even topless.   

If you're using a safety razor (Bic, Sensor, mach3 whatever brand) don't worry too much about pressing too hard.  They're relatively safe, but err to the light side, you can always resoap and go over it again.  Men usually need more pressure than women coz the beard's tougher.

I, however can't help you too much if you're using a straight razor(the kind with one big blade that gets stropped on a leather strap) as I've never used one.

Have a warm damp washcloth to was thoroughly afterwards,  or shower, that's where a lot of acne comes from.

I hope to have helped some, let us know how it goes.

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RE: Shave, anyone? - 3/20/2008 10:41:28 PM   
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there is this "coochie cream" by the leading toy party company that works wonders. Yeah, you can use it on guys.

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RE: Shave, anyone? - 3/20/2008 11:43:41 PM   
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Fantastic ideas!  Thanks so much.

The creams and powders sound interesting.  I didn't know that about the ladies shave cream.  Will definitely have to try that.  Shaving him topless is in the works, once I've gotten better at it and the distraction is not so dangerous.  :)  One of the reasons I will shave him is because he doesn't much do it himself.  I think we will use a mirror, so that he can bring anything to my attention that needs to be and see what I'm doing.  I like the recommendation of the warm towel.  I did read that using one before can help, too.  Does anyone know that to be the truth?

As for using a st raight razor, I'm thinking I might actually be the clumsiest person on the planet, and I don't want to hurt the man.  I LOVE HIM!  lol.

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RE: Shave, anyone? - 3/21/2008 1:04:44 AM   
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Soft skin will yield a closer shave, hence the warm towel before hand. That's also why I (and many others) prefer to shave in the shower. I've used both women's and men's shaving creams and found little difference. A caveat, however, is that all the stuff I've used has been for sensitive skin. Be absolutely sure to use a men's razor. Women's razors are designed for finer hair, whereas most men have very coarse hair on their faces (and most elsewhere, I've found that women's razors don't even work worth a damn on my legs).

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RE: Shave, anyone? - 3/21/2008 3:32:30 AM   
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i have a great deal of trouble with ingrown hairs and have found nothing that actually helps except shaving daily -- it exfoliates the skin so that the hairs can poke through.  The 'Cootchie Cream' is nice but i have found that really good conditioner (for the hair on your head, lol) works just as well and is less expensive. i have also tried tea tree oil and it does help -- the anticeptic properties keep away infection which should help with the acne. It does sting a tad though and the smell...

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RE: Shave, anyone? - 3/21/2008 5:22:55 AM   
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Wrap his jaw in a hot/warm, damp towel before you start.  It opens the pores and makes the bristles softer. Obviously make sure you don't have it toooooo hot!
 
Use a softening balm make specifically for male hair.  There is a product that lush do that it great for coarse hair called Razorantium, but you would probably have to order it only.  Its a natural hand made product.
 
As for the acne, check to see what is causing it.  If it is the ingrown hairs deal accordingly.  If it is actual acne or small boils, get to the doctor.  Don't moisturise the spots unless you know what they are, it will make them worse.  I spoke to my doctor about this a while back and she suggested that neck boils which are very similar to acne are caused by stress and bad diet.  I would suggest he get them diagnoised as to what it really is and have it treated, which you can apply after the shave as part of the ritual.
 
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RE: Shave, anyone? - 3/21/2008 7:36:26 AM   
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If you are thinking straight razor, get a dull butter knife and practice with that several times (lather up and then butter-knife it off).  It's more for you to get a feel for working in that kind of proximity, the curves of his face, etc.  If the straight razor has a plastic cover/guard that slips over the sharp edge when in storage, that would work too.

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RE: Shave, anyone? - 3/21/2008 12:34:49 PM   
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The Man always shaves after his shower as it softens the beard. Does he use a washcloth to lightly exfoliate on the neck? Or other products to exfoliate once a week.

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RE: Shave, anyone? - 3/21/2008 1:13:42 PM   
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It is something I love having done for me; and I find the girls doing it love the intimacy too.

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RE: Shave, anyone? - 3/21/2008 3:50:53 PM   
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blow up a balloon ... put shaving foam on balloon

shave balloon

if balloon bursts ...you shaved too hard

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RE: Shave, anyone? - 3/21/2008 3:54:11 PM   
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I shave myself in a few places, and I have shaved girls cunts in the past. I'm not a fan of pubic hair.

I'd probably invest in a laser unit to deal with unwanted hair in the future. It's cheaper in the long run to just kill the roots-no stubble.

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RE: Shave, anyone? - 3/21/2008 4:41:49 PM   
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i don't get the pleasure these days, as my Owner doesn't shave his face. But i do get to trim up his beard, which is nice too. But when i used to shave someone, before i ever started, i would sit in the bathroom and watch him. i'd ask questions, and he'd explain what he was doing, and why he did it that way. Before i ever shaved his face, he did it first. He put the razor in my hand, and guided me completely through it. It was a bit akward, but helped me to feel the pressure and strokes. Just take it slow and easy until you're familiar with what he wants, and always always keep communication open on this. You'll make a few mistakes, a few nicks perhaps, but in the long run, it doesn't take much to figure it out.

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RE: Shave, anyone? - 3/21/2008 9:54:01 PM   
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I'm going to be doing the shaving because he hates to do it. :)  He only trims his beard with an electric trimmer to keep it from being completely unruly.  He shaves his face for special occasions, leaving the goatee and mustache.  (Which I love.)  I have thought about this way more than he has, I think.  He trusts me to know what's best for him.

Thank you, eveyrone, for your wonderful advice.  I can use ALL of this.  I'm looking into the products mentioned, and going to give it a try next Saturday, I'm thinking.  We'll see how it goes.  Wish me luck!

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RE: Shave, anyone? - 3/21/2008 10:27:00 PM   
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When things don't go right for you two just apply a little extra pressure when you come close to his Adams apple.......... If all is going well with him just use wilkinsons swords, the old double cut razors.

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RE: Shave, anyone? - 3/21/2008 10:31:32 PM   
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lmao...hmm....does this come under the heading of topping from the bottom?  :D

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RE: Shave, anyone? - 3/22/2008 12:55:47 PM   
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Many of the questions we receive are directed toward that dreaded morning task millions of men reluctantly have to carry out every single day. I'm not talking about taking out the trash, car-pooling the kids to school, cooking breakfast or walking the dog. Nope, I'm talking about "SHAVING," that ancient practice of raking a sharp blade across your face every single day of your life from your early teens until it's lights out. Shaving does have its advantages though. Alexander The Great attributed the sensation he received from a smooth, closely shaved face to one of the primary reasons he was so victorious on the battlefield. So, it's possible shaving may bring out the warrior in you. Plus, recent research indicates men who shave regularly are far more likely to have sex than men who don't. As far as I'm concerned, that's as good a reason as any to break out the razor. Of course the problems we encounter with this morning ritual are that shaving every single day can cause reactions in the skin ranging from razor rashes and burns to dry, flaky skin. If you are suffering from any of these skin conditions, take a look at these 10 shaving tips -- one or more may correct your problem. 1. It's best to avoid shaving the very first thing in the morning. If possible, let your skin wake up a while. This allows the "puffiness" you encounter from fluids collecting in your skin during the night to recede, thus allowing you to get a closer shave when you do begin the task. 2. Use an exfoliate such as a facial cleanser or scrub to eradicate dead skin cells and open up the pores of the skin to prepare it for a close shave.  3. Stubble should be wetted with warm or hot water before shaving. This swells the hair shaft allowing the blade to cut the hair, not your skin. 4. Thoroughly massage shave cream into stubble. A vitamin and Aloe Vera based shave cream will provide a close soothing shave and protect against razor rashes and burns. 5. Use a sharp blade. A dull blade is responsible for many shaving cuts as it drags over your face and catches your skin along with the hairs of your beard. 6. Rinse the blade often in hot water when shaving and use slow short strokes. Take your time. 7. Shaving with grain means shaving in the direction of how the hair grows on your face. It is always best to shave this way. Shaving against the grain can cause redness, rashes, razor burn and ingrown hairs, which are all painful. 8. After shaving, apply an oil-free moisturizer to soothe and protect the face. If you prefer an after-shave, check the label for alcohol. Dryness and stinging sensations are by-products of most after-shave products whose primary ingredient is alcohol. It may feel good at the time, but alcohol based after-shaves are actually irritating to many complexions. 9. Be wary of mentholated shaving products. Although the "cool" sensation feels good on the face, menthol, like alcohol, can be irritating to the skin. 10. A lot of foam or lather is not needed. Many grocery and drug store shave creams contain skin irritants such as Sodium Laurel Sulfate, which are formulated to "foam up" the product. However, these irritants may be the cause of your skin problem.

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