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MasterBuffalo -> Help I need to know what I'm doing wrong (3/22/2008 8:16:54 AM)
It looks like that I have not had any luck on this site and I was wanting to know if may be it my profile . We're a D/s ploy family and looking for another to join us ? So if you have any help that would tell us what we're doing wrong please do.

kyraofMists -> RE: Help I need to know what I'm doing wrong (3/22/2008 8:22:58 AM)
What happened to the thread you started yesterday in the poly section about this? You already have my answer... What are you offering them? What do you have that will make them want to be a part of your life? Knight's Kyra

chamberqueen -> RE: Help I need to know what I'm doing wrong (3/22/2008 8:25:21 AM)
Yes, frankly, it could be the profile. It rambles, has poor spacing, sounds like it is about to tell her what she gets in return out of the relationship and then goes on to tell more about your needs. It would be much better to start by saying that Y/you are a Master/sub couple looking for a female slave. The traits you are looking for are...and then keep it to about five. Types of play will include...and keep that in the same section instead of jumping back and forth to it. Duties expected include...and again keep it to about five. In return...and this time say something that Y/you are doing for her other than playing with her and expecting her to take care of your needs. This could include becoming a cherished part of a poly family, for instance. The way it is written comes across as a list of everything you want from her, including full submission and acceptance of sadism, with absolutely nothing in it from her. It does not come across as a caring household but as a cold and demanding one with no prospect of fulfillment for her. If you would like help in rewriting it I would be happy to do that for you, keeping many of your original thoughts but putting it in a better layout.

MsLadySue -> RE: Help I need to know what I'm doing wrong (3/22/2008 8:26:12 AM)
It seems to me that your list of "must want, must be" etc is so long that perhaps no one feels they can be everything you ask of them.

MasterBuffalo -> RE: Help I need to know what I'm doing wrong (3/22/2008 8:36:59 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: chamberqueen Yes, frankly, it could be the profile. It rambles, has poor spacing, sounds like it is about to tell her what she gets in return out of the relationship and then goes on to tell more about your needs. It would be much better to start by saying that Y/you are a Master/sub couple looking for a female slave. The traits you are looking for are...and then keep it to about five. Types of play will include...and keep that in the same section instead of jumping back and forth to it. Duties expected include...and again keep it to about five. In return...and this time say something that Y/you are doing for her other than playing with her and expecting her to take care of your needs. This could include becoming a cherished part of a poly family, for instance. The way it is written comes across as a list of everything you want from her, including full submission and acceptance of sadism, with absolutely nothing in it from her. It does not come across as a caring household but as a cold and demanding one with no prospect of fulfillment for her. If you would like help in rewriting it I would be happy to do that for you, keeping many of your original thoughts but putting it in a better layout. Yes ty i would love the help I'm not real very good at this online and my typing sucks

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Help I need to know what I'm doing wrong (3/22/2008 9:08:57 AM)
you're really not offering much that entice a prospective submissive to join your poly scene. also you're quite vague on the age with hwp. to be honest - i found it boring and lackluster which i'm sure someone else might find it interesting. another reason you might have difficulty finding a 3rd, there are many of us seeking monogamous relationships only.

colouredin -> RE: Help I need to know what I'm doing wrong (3/22/2008 9:16:59 AM)
I agree, I hate all those "this is what I want, do this do this do this" posts, when looking for a third I am sure many dont want to simply be seen as a thing you are going to be there to spice up your relationship

MasterBuffalo -> RE: Help I need to know what I'm doing wrong (3/22/2008 9:32:12 AM)
Well Ty chamberqueen for the help hope it reads better for all and I know that some like monogamous relationships only Sambamanslilgirl but not all do . so that is why we all have our own life styles and that what make the world go round

Constrictor1 -> RE: Help I need to know what I'm doing wrong (3/22/2008 12:26:32 PM)
MasterBuffalo, I mean no disrespect but I have been seeking for over 2 years with only a very limited success. Adding another to your house is desirable but unfortunately the perfect bisubbyslavepolypersons are few and far between regardless of where you look. Patience is truly a virtue in this search. I wish you luck in your search. Oh yeah, never just "settle" on someone. Stick to your guns and get the right one. Be well. C

MasterBuffalo -> RE: Help I need to know what I'm doing wrong (3/22/2008 12:37:00 PM)
Ty and I know it may take time and that will be fine with us because we are looking for that special one that will fit in with us and our family . And I hope you all the luck in your search .

OsideGirl -> RE: Help I need to know what I'm doing wrong (3/23/2008 11:14:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterBuffalo It looks like that I have not had any luck on this site and I was wanting to know if may be it my profile . We're a D/s ploy family and looking for another to join us ? So if you have any help that would tell us what we're doing wrong please do. Well let's see..... It's been estimated that Dom men out populate submissive females by 3:1. It's been estimated that on this site that Dom males out populate the submissive females by 10:1. So, out of that pool of submissive female which are 1/10th of the population of the Dominants on this site....how many do you think are poly? 1 out of 10 maybe? How many are willing to not be the primary? The point of the matter is that the number of submissives that are available and interested in that aspect is quite small in comparison the D half of the equation. The competition is stiff and you'll have to step up to the A game.

lusciouslips19 -> RE: Help I need to know what I'm doing wrong (3/23/2008 11:24:24 AM)
I think alot even if they are open to poly, dont want to be the beta slave in the relationship. So the afct that they are coming in as a 3rd to an established relationship makes it even more challenging. I myself would not want to be the 3rd.

DesFIP -> RE: Help I need to know what I'm doing wrong (3/23/2008 11:53:58 AM)
Your profile gives zero info about you as a person. Do you play gold? Raise yorkies? Go to midnight showings of Rocky Horror? Tell bad puns, if so include one. All you talk about is d/s nothing about what either of your are like as people, or what kind of person you get along best with. There is nothing there that makes me think I would like to know you. It's focused on finding a warm body, not a friend.

Goddess2002 -> RE: Help I need to know what I'm doing wrong (3/23/2008 12:18:15 PM)
The pic of the dead turkey doesn't help...[:@]

LadyHathor -> RE: Help I need to know what I'm doing wrong (3/23/2008 12:28:17 PM)
*Maybe its the dead turkey and the cig hanging from your mouth----[:'(]*

DesFIP -> RE: Help I need to know what I'm doing wrong (3/23/2008 12:30:48 PM)
Am I looking in the wrong place? I didn't see a pic of a stuffed turkey.

KatyLied -> RE: Help I need to know what I'm doing wrong (3/23/2008 1:33:10 PM)
What, don't you like the "surprise" picture? ha

lusciouslips19 -> RE: Help I need to know what I'm doing wrong (3/23/2008 1:35:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Goddess2002 The pic of the dead turkey doesn't help...[:@] The cigarette hanging from your lipd doesnt help. But at least you are letting us that dont want to be with smokers know upfront. Although you are eliminating a segment of the sub population by being a smoker.

Sirsinini -> RE: Help I need to know what I'm doing wrong (3/23/2008 1:47:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Goddess2002 The pic of the dead turkey doesn't help...[:@] Did anybody else notice, or is it just me, that the man's pic was like from 3 different generations. How about a "normal" updated pic of both of you as a couple? She will be trained to be a sex toy, a servant, and a focal point of our exploration of many fetishes – both public and private. There was time I would have been seriously interested in joining a couple....but 1. being brought into an established relationship as the above listed, is not my idea of a way of life every day. 2. I dont believe I need "training" in my submission 3. I have a profession I dearly love...to exchange that for being a sex slave with NO other safeguards for my future, when you dont even say how long you have been together but 2 years, is not a situation I would move to. An 18 yr old maybe but definately not something I would want in ny 40's. Have you carefully looked for this one in one of the functions you attend? Fetish's? Like what? just my opinion Sir's devoted property edited to add...read this thread for some general clues regarding "trained" http://www.collarchat.com/m_1728059/mpage_1/tm.htm

Goddess2002 -> RE: Help I need to know what I'm doing wrong (3/23/2008 2:29:39 PM)
Yeah, current pictures of the two of you might definitely help...your primary photo definitely looks dated...like from the 80's.

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