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stella41b -> RE: would you really move away from your home ? (3/23/2008 5:16:58 AM)
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I'm someone who's in the lengthy process of crossing the Atlantic and developing a relationship with someone in the States, maybe I can provide some sort of insight here.
First thing is you don't know how things are going to work out. You can feel, you can feel you know, you can be sure, but you won't know if your relationship lasts until you're able to count the years you've been with someone and remember celebrating all the anniversaries.
Secondly you're not developing any sort of bond. The bond is already there, it's something which is discovered, explored. The bond is something mutual, you can both feel it, sense it, understand it, know it. You talk about it. It's already there. It exists. There's you, the other person, and the relationship between you.
This much I know. I live in London, considered a world city, there's about 14 million people in the metropolitan area, many of them are women, and just as many of them are men, and you know, each and every one of them are special in some way. However I'm a transgendered female, and I know that not many of them would take a second glance at me because of this. Some do find me acceptable, but to find a woman who's special and who's prepared to consider developing a relationship with me, this is a rare event. To find a special woman such as Mistress who understands me, who so far has shown that she has the inside track on my thoughts and feelings, well.. this has only happened once or twice in my life.
The feeling is mutual. Neither of us know if this is going to work out or not, nothing in life is guaranteed, nothing. But we're both prepared to try, we're both prepared to take those risks.
There's sacrifices on both sides. She's walked away from a relationship which would have been stable and very secure and I'm making sacrifices on my side, but we both have our absolutes, commitments that cannot be sacrificed, her family, my artistic career.
I get asked 'How do you know she's for real?' Well so far she hasn't offered me a money back guarantee if the relationship doesn't work out, and I've never wanted one either. But there's things she knows about me that isn't on any of the websites about me, and which we haven't discussed. But she knows. The rest is left to time, trust and faith in each other and faith in the future.
But it really is that emotional bond which is behind so much of it. It's the discovery of that bond which is the reason, the motivation. How strong is that bond? At the moment it looks pretty strong, but I'm talking about that bond as it is today, which is as far as I know. Tomorrow is another day, and I can only hope that the bond survives the test of time. All I know is, for the woman she really is, developing that bond with Mistress is well worth as much of my time, effort, sacrifice and commitment as I can devote to sharing and developing that bond with her.
I do believe that if you are truly meant to be with someone then it doesn't matter where you're from, how far apart you are, or how much it takes for you to be together, because what you find and share together will always defeat the odds which life and circumstances stacks against you.
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