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whiteslavebitch -> RE: would you really move away from your home ? (3/24/2008 3:51:27 PM)

I did it 6 months ago, and I have no regrets. Of course he is an exceptional man. I would regret it if I hadn't gone with my heart.



aidan -> RE: would you really move away from your home ? (3/24/2008 3:59:24 PM)

If it wasn't for school, I would be more than willing to move. I have no problem being mobile. It's just that I need to get my degree, and hopping from school to school isn't really conducive to that.



joyfulmalcontent -> RE: would you really move away from your home ? (3/24/2008 8:39:44 PM)

I moved out of state for my last dom, I sold my condo, uprooted my kids, and generally made the biggest mistake of my life. I don't think that I will ever do it again. Does that mean never ever ever? Well at this point, yes. But me being a total dumbass romantic, for the right one...who knows? Maybe when my kids are grown and independent, I would consider it becuz then it would only affect me then. Putting it all on hold til I heal more.



atursvcMaam -> RE: would you really move away from your home ? (3/24/2008 9:43:22 PM)

Yes i would, under the right circumstances. yes, i have. did i think that i would have before it happened?  not a chance.  The chemistry was right, the timing was perfect.  Would i do it again?  i am open minded.



kaleique -> RE: would you really move away from your home ? (3/25/2008 9:40:58 AM)

It would be very difficult for me to move.  I have two small children and their father would make it hard.  That being said, if I was sure the person was worth it; if I knew that there was a real connection there; if I found someone I wanted to be with forever...I'd do anything to be with them.  So yes, given the right circumstances I would jump through the hoops necessary to move if I was sure it was for the best.  



MissAngelandsub -> RE: would you really move away from your home ? (3/25/2008 7:03:51 PM)

Before I found BDSM when I was 18 I moved from my parents house to my husbands home. An hour drive away because I can't stand thinking of being away from my mom. (My dad was in the picture back then but is not now) If my mom was gone I could probably not feel any reason to stay where I am but until that time comes I am staying here or moving closer. I know an hour drive away isn't far actually but I haven't seen my mom in months since before christmas and its killing me. But if me and my husband seperated and my mom wasn't alive anymore I could see moving in the right situation.



Hisgirlonly -> RE: would you really move away from your home ? (3/25/2008 7:36:22 PM)

i would if i could but job-wise i can't even if i was told you don't have to work...sorry, but i make my money.
The other thing is, i'm pretty sure i don't have willing to relocate and it clearly says i'm not going to and yet everyday someone from another country wants me to move.  so annoying.



wideeyedgirl -> RE: would you really move away from your home ? (3/25/2008 8:20:06 PM)

*fast reply*
I would.

Im seriously considuring it now. Alot of factors go into play. Moving between semester and being able to find a program in my course of study that I have been accepted into before moving. If he will allow my kittens to come with. If financially I can afford it and have a safety net (bug out...enought cash to move back and have first/last months rent, in case it doesnt work out). And if i can get reciprocity for my current progression in that state. Thats not too tricky, usually. Also need to have health insurance set up...before being able to move. Thats essential.

Logistics aside. I think some people are just more open to the possibility than others. Alot depends on ties with family, kids, exs, work contractgs. But that wanderlust and need for a new adventure plays a big part too.I like the idea of moving someplace else. If im lucky enough to find the One i want to share a significant part of my life with..Ide be daft not to do it.

That said tho..its gotta be a serious commitment too tho. I would hope there is talk of full Ownership and life-time commitment to make that kind of change. And it should go without saying but..lotsa visits and conversations before.



tsatske -> RE: would you really move away from your home ? (3/25/2008 10:19:34 PM)

I moved to my Master, and that is the shortest distance I have moved to be with a partner in a D/s relationship. My last 2 Masters I moved, in both cases several hundred miles, to be with. It is challenging to find someone who is a fit in this lifestyle, to limit yourself more than you have to geographically, (and many people do have to), just makes it harder.
OTOH, spending time with people who live far away and can't relocate, when you can't either (and I mean time negotating and building a relationship, friendship and penpals are always a good thing), is just a way to get your heart broken and waste some time. You do need to consider how likely it seems to you.



domahpet -> RE: would you really move away from your home ? (3/25/2008 10:32:14 PM)

im already away from my home.
He said he may be moving in a few years
and ill go with him.
the place hes talking about actually
is my home!



GreedyTop -> RE: would you really move away from your home ? (3/25/2008 10:33:16 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: domahpet

im already away from my home.
He said he may be moving in a few years
and ill go with him.
the place hes talking about actually
is my home!


and the circle continues ;)



SimplyMichael -> RE: would you really move away from your home ? (3/25/2008 10:50:29 PM)

I am already selling stuff off, looking for work, and planning my move.  We have been together over a year, things are great and getting better all the time.  Yeah, my only gripe about moving is the frigging humidity in Florida.



GreedyTop -> RE: would you really move away from your home ? (3/25/2008 10:53:06 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

I am already selling stuff off, looking for work, and planning my move.  We have been together over a year, things are great and getting better all the time.  Yeah, my only gripe about moving is the frigging humidity in Florida.


waaah, waaah,. waaaah.... thats what a/c is for! [:D][:D][:D][:D]



Rayne58 -> RE: would you really move away from your home ? (3/25/2008 11:40:03 PM)

I moved to Australia from NZ just over 4 years ago to be with Sir. It was relatively easy for me - my parents had moved to the South Island, my son was settled in a good job, I was unemployed and renting. The only thing I regretted was leaving my then almost 16 yo daughter behind [&o]

However, I decided that I'd had enough of living my life for other people, and it was time for me to have some love and a life. My daughter has been to visit twice, my son once, to see us get married. I have been back to NZ a couple of times - I got to see my father before he passed and again to his funeral. I am planning another visit near the end of this year with Sir's blessing. It is hard to arrange, what with Sir's health issues, but He wants me to go back and see my family. It is a 3 hour flight - no biggie.

Sydney is my home now and I doubt I will return to NZ.




littleone35 -> RE: would you really move away from your home ? (3/26/2008 7:14:14 AM)

Right now it would be impossible for me to move with my school and family issues.  If it was not for that i might think about relocation BUT only within my own country (USA).  It is hard enough to leave a home /town you have lived in for many years to go to a home/ town in another state.  I could not move out of the country.  That would be too hard for me to handle.  I am lucky my Master only lives 3 towns away from me so we see each other every day.

Matt's littleone



leakylee -> RE: would you really move away from your home ? (3/26/2008 8:07:19 AM)

We only have humidity 8 to 9 months out of the year. It isnt that bad..hehe

As to relocating.. no way.. I have moved cross country a couple of times in my life, and I aint up for it again, Besides that, still working on remodeling my house. Gonna be for the next 2 to 3 years, so no way. I home to stay.

smooches
lee



shysub0951 -> RE: would you really move away from your home ? (3/26/2008 4:25:01 PM)

i wouldn't move across the world for a Dom, but that's just me. All my family is in the rocky mountain/west coast region. Across the country, maybe. But i also have a dog and schooling here that it's, for me anyways, would be hard to move.



atendersoul -> RE: would you really move away from your home ? (3/27/2008 8:00:37 AM)

have gone across the country twice within the last year to find that months of talking on the phone and writing emails did not truly show two's agendas until i was in front of them...disappointed....yes...seeing the reason behind such actions on their behalf...no
giving up....never!



HISgrlTRUGor -> RE: would you really move away from your home ? (3/27/2008 10:38:45 AM)

Hello Everyone!  im new to the site and this is my first posting... and im very happy to say... "i DID relocate" !!  i am a proud mommy of two teenagers and our home state of Texas was all we had ever known... but i met Him online and after a lot of time getting to know each other i made the move and i will never look back.. There are a lot of safety issues and i believe most of the people here probably dont need them reiterated again.. for those who are considering the move and are unsure i am certain that there is a whole plethora of postings on how to make a safe meeting and if not you are more than welcome to contact me and i will tap them into your head!  ** giggles**  i can honestly say i am one of the lucky FEW who found their life Mate on the computer and if i had it to do all over again, i WOULD!  And it wasnt like i left a hell hole to come find my salvation.  i had a job, my kids are in high school, it was my home town, family, friends.. the whole nine yards.. but in my estimation... this is the Man i will lay in bed with for the next 50 years (hopefully!), the One i will discuss my thoughts and feelings with, whom i will shop for milk with and complain about the rising cost of gasoline to... it was tough because i do have children.. but again.. i adore my kids.. live my life for them! BUT.. they will be leaving the nest soon for lives of their own and i have come to the realization that i AM important too and i could not pass up the opportunity to be with my soul mate.  i deal with a lot of their anger issues and teenager attitudes in general  but i will never regret the decision.  Willingness to relocate is very individualistic... everyone has their own set of circumstances and had mine been a little different in several different ways i never would have taken the risk... but for those who do truly KNOW their online mate, have taken the time to speak with them intensely about thoughts, dreams, likes and dislikes (not just the fun stuff either!) and have met many times in the process to "feel" things out ** snickering**... i would say take a chance.. Home is always there... no one can move it on you... you can always go back  (have a safe savings account put aside prior to move with enough funds to get you home should the need arise and its a great little nest egg for a fun trip with your partner should you find it isnt needed ** winks**)

So.. yes... there are those of us who are truly willing to relocate... and to weed those out from the others... before things progress too far plan that first meeting.. even if it is 14 hours away... see each others homes (and lack of other spouses.. very important!)  If you make the plans and there is always an excuse.. RUN!  If meeting is cancelled on a second try.. RUN.. and i understand that sometimes things DO come up.. but when grandma dies twice... red flag red flag

Grinsssss.. hope that helps a little!
HISgrl ~ alika



everhope -> RE: would you really move away from your home ? (3/27/2008 11:22:09 AM)

i happen to be in place in my life where relocating would be an adventure more than a bad thing. my children are grown and on their own and i happen to be in profession where finding work is not difficult. i have kept my life here relatively simple. i would miss my friends, but there is always ways to stay connected. i have managed to stay connected to friends that i don't live near for well over 20 years.
in a heart beat, i would be packed.
 
may we all find our bliss,
everhope  



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