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undergroundsea -> RE: What catches your eye? (3/25/2008 6:58:28 AM)
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ORIGINAL: DesFIP
But I get the feeling I'm the only person who doesn't care about a partner's writing skills. People with superb literary skills are likely to work in a profession that demands that; editor, journalist, advertising, psychology etc. These aren't people who usually have great how-to skills. A guy who can fix your car or remodel your bathroom is usually not someone who writes fluid prose. If you want those skills, you have to accept that they come with a different package.
I know of a man who is fairly intelligent and articulate, and his expression in the online medium does not do him justice, which I have come to attribute to slow typing speed. Thus, I have come to think that online writing skills depend on both command of language and command of keyboard. Still, proficieny in language and familiarity with computers are positive indicators based on what is important to me. Intelligence is expressed in many ways and I think proficieny in language with coherent expression represents one form of intelligence, which is a positive indicator in the mix of things.
As for the point about how-to skills, I think the dichotomy you describe between proficiency in language or trade skills is most likely to result from professional path chosen, which is more likely to emphasize one over the other. You make a similar point. That said, I think the two types of skills can coexist.
Sure, the how-to skills might be attractive for whatever role of masculinity they project. That aside, I think the how-to skills are more important if one is seeking a service only relationship. If one is seeking a relationship based on a broader social connection, I think proficieny in language as an indicator of intelligence, and articulate expression for effective communication matter more. Fixing a car or remodeling a bathroom are services that can be easily hired whereas the same cannot be said of a social connection.
Cheers,
Sea
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