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RE: is it a case of topping from the bottom? - 3/24/2008 7:37:06 PM

Arrrchibald

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One could say the same for any gift or act of kindness; that it has a selfish ulterior motive.

Just depends how cynically one interprets it.

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RE: is it a case of topping from the bottom? - 3/24/2008 7:58:24 PM

MissHarlet

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As a Dominant I wouldnt consider it as topping from the bottom .. but would use it when and if I chose as others have indicated ... I take gifts at face value and never look for ulterior motives..... If I have to look for that from my submissive ... I dont have the " right " one

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RE: is it a case of topping from the bottom? - 3/24/2008 8:56:52 PM

BBWnNC72

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You all have given great thoughts on the subject and i thank You.

my reason for buying the cane is selfish in part, He doesn't call me a greedy monkey for nothing, but He does say it with a smile. i know i can't expect or make Him use it, i just hope He does. i know that He is happy when He gets to beat a girl, one can tell by the reaction and responces both verbally and non. i also know that sometimes, even with things that make us happy, we need a little boost.

LOL, there i go rambling on. Sorry.

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RE: is it a case of topping from the bottom? - 3/24/2008 9:36:20 PM

TemptingNviceSub

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ORIGINAL: BBWnNC72

i was talking to my mentor again today, and He said the reason He stated that He felt it was TFTB was the reason i wanted to buy the new cane. That i was trying to "tell" my Dominant how, when, and what to play.
But as i see it, i will listen to my Dominant, and my Dominant doesn't see a problem with me buying for that reason. He says that He knows that in my heart and head i wasn't trying to be toppish when i was thinking about trying to "wake" things up, that i was just being me. The caring, worrying, greedy monkey! LOL.

Sounds to me as if your mentor has has an insecurity in regards to TFTB,could be his own baggage coming into play here...Different strokes, different Dominants, that is why, in many cases ,mentors may not be such a good idea...all Dominants have their own specific ways and viewpoints....Tempting

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