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RE: feeling sad/needing validation - 3/27/2008 1:55:07 PM

ownedgirlie

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That would truly feel like an alarming situation for me. The idea of my Master being submissive to someone wouldn't be as frightening to me as knowing someone else controlled him, therefore, that person has a direct or indirect influence on my relationship with him. It is a disconcerting position to be in, and like you, I would begin to feel insecure about the stability of my future with him.

I agree with the suggestions to request meeting with both of them together, to gain a better understanding of what would be in my path ahead. If she is unwilling to do that, I would ask my Master if we could talk about this regularly, and if he would keep me aprised of what is going on. He may or may not be allowed to do that.

In such a case, I really don't know what to offer. It appears your future is no longer in your Master's hands. Does he have limits with her? Is your relationship with him one of those limits? There is a lot to still learn and discover about this. I wish you lots of clarity and openness. That will be your greatest help.

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RE: feeling sad/needing validation - 3/27/2008 1:59:00 PM

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you bring up some good points, points he brought up and talked about when we discussed this situation. He understood my fears and we discussed them at lengths, he also had planned on the three of us meeting at some point.

However, he was uncomfortable when I told him I posted here, so I will not come back to contribute to this thread and I hope it fades away, but I wish to thank everyone for their input.

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RE: feeling sad/needing validation - 3/27/2008 7:32:47 PM

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ORIGINAL: celofane
I don't care so much that he reads it, as I will talk to him anyway. What I don't want is for this to shade someone elses perception of him.

He is who he is. Anyone who hasn't seen this thread (if they knew him and could make the connection) is actually having their perception of him shaded by not knowing this.

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RE: feeling sad/needing validation - 3/31/2008 5:08:58 PM

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you need to be talking to him straightly and honestly.. not blogging and questioning your feelings & relationship publically under a different name on a forum that you both frequent. If you don't express your emotions & insecurities directly to him then the relationship is doomed. Men are not mind readers.

Perhaps you hope that he will read this thread.. see that it refers to such a specific situation and realise that what is being discussed is infact him.. and therefore he will know this is you. Maybe you seek a confrontation that way because it saves you having to bring up the issue directly? It would seem to me that surely if this was to happen he would only resent you for your inability to bring your problems to him.

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