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RE: Why do I even 'care" about "him" ! - 3/26/2008 4:23:51 PM

windchymes

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Stay away from married guys! I"ve said this in here so many times....they want to have it all, the house, cars, kids, picket fence AND the fun on the side that they can't get with wifey! Why should you be the one to provide the fun and then get left nursing your bruised ego while he goes home to his idyllic little miserable life? 99% of the time, married guys don't leave their wives. They don't have the balls to make it on their own, especially ones who depend on wifey's paycheck. Dump him, honey! Seriously! You deserve better!

P.S. Ditto to what Katy said. He's a closet homosexual who hates himself for it and is scared to death what his family and friends would say if they knew.

Do you really think he is gay? He said if anything happened to his wife he would find another WOMAN. I sure would not be as generous as she has been.

Well, think about it here......guys who are just friends, buddies, pals, whatever, they don't strip down and jump into the shower with other guys unless they are interested in seeing them naked, wet, lathered up, etc.

And sure, he'll find another WOMAN....for show. And he'll still sneak around behind her back to satisfy his gay/bi desires. He's bisexual at the very least. He's been coming to get BJ's from you for 10 years (which is a compliment for you, really

) Straight guys don't do that.

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RE: Why do I even 'care" about "him" ! - 3/27/2008 5:28:39 AM

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Hi Wind.

He shot me down over my neck comment. BTW- the parrot heard every single word- -- parrots can mock a phone ringing and a person answering it. For a long time- it is/was a compliment.   We live 1 hour apart.

I guess I am mad at ME, for letting down my guard- which has evolved into my standards. So I soiled my "self".   I am debating on the phone him. All ild have to say is "no more", "no more.".    His phone is cordless- so any converstion might be over heard.
I could drop a letter.

You see, I dont want to be a whiney drama queeen. nor do i want to manipulate to gain anything catty.   Me contacting him is like embarcking on a quest, to ? play games??

Being that I am deamed "irrelevant"   - this now renders him as irrrelevant.

Typical protocal is shoot/thankyou/bye.

hmmm. a letter.   2 words. "no more"... ... no she opens all mail. i see no point in involving her- so no letter.

They say living well is the best "revenge".

So I guess I chin up, and return to my life as it was. Which was quite fine.    [especially before I become a saga, whiney bitch, lol]

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RE: Why do I even 'care" about "him" ! - 3/27/2008 5:42:35 AM

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I have a friend, who is gay, and recently got a new BF. They have only known each other a month, the boy is younger than My friend, and they came by for the first time the other day. I listened to the story of them. How the younger boy, Ill call him Jimmy, had been cheating on My friend using the internet to set up to meet other guys.

Last night My friend came by in tears. This lil fuck had been caught again, this time saying to another man that he was only staying with My friend long enuff to get money together and then he was moving in with the new guy. My friend was devestated. He has been alone for a very long time, the gay community here is still far underground and very slim pickings indeed.

So to you Hunky, I will say the same thing I said last night, you have to come to a point in a relationship when you look at it and decide what you will and wont tolerate. You have to on some level realize that what this man is putting you thru is altering who you are as a person and is in fact being, as has been said, toxic to you. And while you may be alone, you are more alone NOW than you would be if you just let him go. The reason for that is, you are dealing with this on YOUR OWN. Do you think hes at home wondering what youre doing? Or how you feel about what just happened? Or wondering if you are missing him? Not at all.

So in reality, while its nice to have some one, even if it is just a drop by and see some one...its not worth it to comprimise yourself, and who you are.
Granted, I dont know you that well, and I could be wrong all together....but I think it would be awesome if you told this guy to go fornicate with himself and moved on. In fact I would love to introduce you to My friend, he likes older guys and is definately NOT hiding in a closet.

I wish you the best of luck sweets. I really do. I know how hard this has to be. But be strong....and push for what YOU want and what YOU need.

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RE: Why do I even 'care" about "him" ! - 3/27/2008 9:36:14 AM

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So- this question I pose. Do I want anything? Lets discuss.

Hb,

I have only skimmed through the responses, so if I’ve missed someone else saying it; redundancy is not intended.

I agree with others in saying, this person is mean to you, because for him, you are what he wishes he could allow himself to be; him, ext...

Thing is, that is his problem; your attraction to him, works in a similar way.

I’m leaning toward, a sense of acceptance from what you perceive as normal; only, reality equates to, trying to drink from the pool of a mirage.

I thought we decided “normal” isn't all it was cracked up to be?

Just be you.

My best,

k

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RE: Why do I even 'care" about "him" ! - 3/27/2008 12:11:45 PM

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A mirrage indeed. I have evolved. My 12 room house is NOT a mirage. Nor do I need a 2nd person to make it go.

--I just got hired today, gosh- it was easy. Ill be in an office for the length of the project. I hope I can hold up. I only got 3 hours of sleep last night.

I also came from the realitor as I put in an offer on a 2nd house for investment.

I managed to work the call menu to reduce my phone/dsl price. yay!!

I am blessed to be around some very nice people here. :-) I have been breaking into the small town click thing here.

As far as working ...we will see. It is 17 miles away- so the cost of the gas must factor in. So- that is $6.50 a day. Then there is lunch - the acessaries one needs.... as I said- it is a temporary job. It floors me I was hired over the phone. [word of mouth]

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