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Ups, i want to share something very unconfortable that happend me last weekend. I currently organice a small bdsm community in my city from people who i know from a long time ago, so i thought it might be fun to invite some of this pals to my home to a play party, since it was my birthday and thought it might be the perfect opportunity to try my brand new dungeon at home :)
So i invite the heaviest pals i know, and also the most trustable, since to be honest im very worried about the hole community (specially newbies) knowing my exact adress and the fact that theres a dungeon there. Also cause he have already planned very hard stuff for the party.
So all went as planned until... one the girls i invited arrived with this tottally unknow people (a girl and a man) and just sit there in my living room. So i call her sepparately and ask her who they were and she told me "she is a curious and he is a slave". Honestly i got mad and told her that this was a play party and i cannot force any newby to play just because they were already there, and that was NOT a party for curios or newbyes, that she should ask me if they could bring it, first cause this was my private home, and second because we were planning a lot of heavy stuff and that i wanted to keep privacy of the members. I asked "if you or your boyfriend were the one that was were to be nacked or dressed up ur put 34 clamps in his balls or have some scrotal infiltration would you like to know infront of who you were doing that?".
So i advice her that they could stay for a while, but as soon as we start playing they have to leave. I think she got mad cause 5 minutes later they left all of them.
I know this girl, shes nice and everything but to be honest shes kind of newby and pretty young (24). She comes with a different newby each week, have millions of cyber slaves in all parts of the world and to be honest never seen her playing, allways making proposals to fuck or play to everybody, so in my point of view those parthners of her are not like trustable, stable parthners, well know people, or people that i would invite to my own home to play.
Besides that, there was no relation between them: i mean she was not the mistress of any of them.
After that write her a mail saying that i was very sorry about the party but that that was a a private play party, not newbies of curious and then she answers me back that the female girl she had been talking with her and she was now her slave and that the male was also now her slave, and that those two were ready to play in the party.
So i answer back that in that moment i ask her and she said that she was a curious and him a slave, but not at any point told me were their slaves or ask me if he coud bring them, since this is my private adress.
So all this story makes me think about the non written rules for a play party in a house. When you invite somene , can you prevent it from bringing new people?. I mean in this case i trust her, but not her subs. But i think its pretty rude not to let them come inside if its true they are her subs, but on the other hand shes pretty inestable with parnthners and really dont want that each of his one week slaves know my adress.
Im i wrong? In my times you should ASK before bringing someone in a private play party, no?
So each time make a party and invite a dom, should ask with whom are they comming?
Since the party was a succes i might do others... but I dont know how to handle the fact that this party was for consolidated group of friends and the fact that one of them could have a new partnher (that might or not last) makes me crazy, cause then it means a lot of new people i dont personally know will enter my house and that really makes me nervous.
Heeeeeeelp!!
(Are there any others un written rules i shpuld know about play parties in houses?)
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