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RE: Candid convo with your "D" can you? - 3/28/2008 5:33:58 PM   
Shawn1066


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Status: offline 		I can tell my Owner anything. She has been known once or twice to inquire about my tendancy towards... digestive issues. She also has ordered me to make sure i do not have dry skin on certain body parts and suggested the lotions to counter it, bought me aspirin to keep in my dorm room because she was concerned about headaches and the like...
She has also discussed her femenine issues with me, among other health related problems. We are very open, as it should be. OK, so the conversations are a tad bizarre at times, but thats part of what it means to be a complete part of someone's life, now doesnt it?

DV's Fox

--edited becasue I am starting to type like she does as well.--

< Message edited by Shawn1066 -- 3/28/2008 5:35:14 PM >

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RE: Candid convo with your "D" can you? - 3/28/2008 6:49:14 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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ORIGINAL: chamberqueen

Guys, I was being facetious.  That's what I'm going through now since I've been collared.  The whole relationship dynamic has changed.  We went from great communication to me being told that I was only to take orders and it doesn't matter how I feel about them but they are to be done.  All I have heard is how I am to obey, and what I asked what His job was He told me that I would get the pleasure of His company when He chose to share it.  Given the choice I would have picked the good relationship we had when I was non-collared over being told that I am to be brainwashed into living to serve only Him and that my thoughts and opinions no longer matter.


So are you glad to be collared, or not? 

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RE: Candid convo with your "D" can you? - 3/28/2008 10:44:07 PM   
adoracat


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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

The acceleration of new folks, finding out about the lifestyle or path continues as they jump in with both feet and finding a "Master / Mistress" in as short a time as one month continues.

In reading the forums, I see directly and indirectly questions about how a relationship should develope from some of these same "s"s thus the point of this post. Can you candidly discuss issues with your "D" now that you wear a collar. Can you discuss fantasies, tendencies toward yeast infections etc.

If you cannot, should you be wearing a collar?

CP


*snorts daintily*

if i cant have a dominant that listens to me and hears what i am saying about some things....then he flat out doesnt deserve me.  period.

i have to value myself, or no one else will, you know?  i need to have someone that understands that i have neurological problems.  that i can overheat VERY easily and have a hard time cooling down, which may lead to seizures.  that i get sensation overload and he has to back off.  i'm the first to admit that i can be very difficult due to health issues...and if all he is there to do is get his jollies, well....houston, we have a major problem indeed.

all that said, Daddy listens to me.  i trust him with my body and with my heart, and with my well-being.  that is for ALL of me, not just trusting him to do no lasting harm to my body, but that he wont do things that he knows will hurt me emotionally. 

Daddy does listen, and does pay attention to my issues, and for the most part we're very content together.

the other parts, we work on.

kitten

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RE: Candid convo with your "D" can you? - 3/28/2008 10:59:13 PM   
Bound2One


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Status: offline 		Master and I do have candid conversations.  I have difficulty communicating at times, being as open as he would like me to be, but that's nothing to do with our relationship - it's a skill that I'm working on and improving.  It's refreshing and liberating to know I can share anything with him, and still be accepted.  It's the love and trust I have for him which makes this sort of communication possible. 

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RE: Candid convo with your "D" can you? - 3/28/2008 11:50:28 PM   
Willowmoon


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Status: offline 		We were great friends before we became Master and slave. We talk about everything and anything. Master is my bestfriend, my boyfriend, my lover and anything else that he wishes to be. Just because he is Master and I am slave does not mean that we don't have a life and hobbies and things to talk about and discuss. We are in a relationship together that is not treated as though he is jsut the boss and I am his employee.

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RE: Candid convo with your "D" can you? - 3/29/2008 5:07:05 AM   
CelticPrince


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quote:

If it ever got to a point that the s type didn't feel like the D type was listening, that is a good time to have a conversation


Omega,

Of course but the points is, can she even bring the subject up.

CP

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RE: Candid convo with your "D" can you? - 3/29/2008 5:12:40 AM   
CelticPrince


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quote:

To answer the original question, I not only can be completely open to him about everything, I am required to. Always have been, always will be. If I didn't, I wouldn't have the place I have in his world.


girlie,

Then I assume you took your time before the collaring ceremony!

CP

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RE: Candid convo with your "D" can you? - 3/29/2008 5:15:26 AM   
favesclava


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Status: offline 		communication is number one with Master.a slave must be healthy in mind, body and soul to be able to please her master . if i sulk or cry i'm not pleasing. He can tell me to suck it up , but that will not really change the problem.i was collared very quickly. and all thats changed is that for the first time i can be totally honest with a man and with myself. on health politics religion (we're on opposite sides on religion).He listens patiently and doesnt judge.He's my best friend.

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RE: Candid convo with your "D" can you? - 3/29/2008 5:18:24 AM   
CelticPrince


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He and I can, and do, talk about anything and everything. It's something I am not used to, and His persistance and patience in dealing with my communication issues has paid off. It's not always easy, but I have made great strides thanks to Him. Oh heavens, do I love this Man! <http://www.collarchat.com/image/s1.gif>


angel,

sounds like he has had to drag itout of you, so congrats, you have a "D" that cares.

CP

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RE: Candid convo with your "D" can you? - 3/29/2008 5:24:26 AM   
CelticPrince


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quote:

his is very true but in return your job as my Owner is care more abot my needs then your whims... Just my two cents...


hopeless,

this single line describes the dynamic as it is supposed to be.

CP

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RE: Candid convo with your "D" can you? - 3/29/2008 5:33:49 AM   
CelticPrince


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i've found it easier to talk to Him about secrets that i couldn't tell my own mother.


lilgirl,

congrats to you, sambaman has the right persona to bring out that confidence in you to talk about things; it is rarer then you think.

CP

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RE: Candid convo with your "D" can you? - 3/29/2008 5:38:34 AM   
CelticPrince


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f this slave could not, she wouldn't be wearing one.


beth,

well then good on you both. tis an important thing.

CP

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RE: Candid convo with your "D" can you? - 3/29/2008 5:39:45 AM   
StormsSlave


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Status: offline 		My Lord and I have discussed collaring and ownership, but the only way I would allow myself to submit to such a degree is secure in the knowledge that my best interests are being looked into.  Since he cannot read my mind, honest, open communication is key.  If I have aches and pains, or need some medical attention, it's my job and my duty to bring that to his attention.  He trusts me to know what is important enough to discuss at length.  I tell him of anything that might be pertinent to a session, or anything that might affect our time together, sexual or otherwise.  He knows the aches and pains I have recieved from work, and is aware of more major injuries as well.

I couldn't imagine being told that my opinion doesn't matter and that I am to obey blindly.  Our situation would never work that way, a fact that we both agree on.  If this does begin to occur, I would have to seriously question the point our relationship has come to that he cares more for his needs than mine.

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RE: Candid convo with your "D" can you? - 3/29/2008 5:45:58 AM   
CelticPrince


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quote:

he wouldn't want to hear that lol.


lilpookie,

[grins] well why not, if it is your problem he owns it also.

CP

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RE: Candid convo with your "D" can you? - 3/29/2008 5:49:07 AM   
slaveluci


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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie
To answer the original question, I not only can be completely open to him about everything, I am required to.  Always have been, always will be.  If I didn't, I wouldn't have the place I have in his world.

Ditto!  He can get deception, half-truths, controlling behavior, etc. anywhere.  That's not what He wants.  He wants total openness, emotional transparency and absolute truth.  That's what He gets from me.  If I wanted a relationship with someone I couldn't be totally open and honest with and totally trusting of, I could get that anywhere.  He offers me much better.........luci

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RE: Candid convo with your "D" can you? - 3/29/2008 5:50:29 AM   
CelticPrince


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quote:

She has also discussed her femenine issues with me, among other health related problems. We are very open, as it should be. OK, so the conversations are a tad bizarre at times, but thats part of what it means to be a complete part of someone's life, now doesnt it?


shawn,

Indeed that is a fact, keep it up.


CP

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RE: Candid convo with your "D" can you? - 3/29/2008 5:56:18 AM   
CelticPrince


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*snorts daintily*


kitten,

so why the "snort"? sounds like alll is well with you both.

CP

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RE: Candid convo with your "D" can you? - 3/29/2008 5:58:51 AM   
darklachrymosa


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Status: offline 		I have very open conversations with my Dom.  The other day is was a fierce debate on the whole immigration policy.  I am very pleased to say that *I* won.  My arguments were much better, and the libertarian in him couldn't in good faith turn those arguments down and retain his precious libertarianism.  However, it's very accepted that there's time when I can do that and not fear retribution for kicking his ass.  He's really quite intuitive and can tell when I'm kind of uncertain about how far i should go, at which point he'll stop and reassure me that we're not playing so I'm free to speak openly, and that one of the tihings he likes about me is my strong opinions and logical arguments, even if it means he loses.

And then sometimes I forget myself when we ARE playing, and oh, am I sorry!

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RE: Candid convo with your "D" can you? - 3/29/2008 6:10:30 AM   
eyesopened


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Status: offline 		i cannot think of a subject that i could not speak about candidly with my Master.  Nope... not a one.   i can't imagine being collared to someone with whom i felt i could not speak candidly.  As other's have said.... He is not obligated to listen, but He does.

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RE: Candid convo with your "D" can you? - 3/29/2008 6:57:21 AM   
daddysliloneds


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Status: offline 		i'm an open book and the day i can't speak frankly with the person that i date, let alone that i'm collared to, is the day i know i have no business being around them. let alone in a relationship with them.

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