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RE: Candid convo with your "D" can you? - 3/30/2008 10:38:20 PM

BBWnNC72

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It is a requirement that i communicate about anything; health, happiness, sadness, wants, needs desires, family, friends, others who talk to me, any issues or concerns that i have. He listens, but it is His choice to act on or discuss what i have shared.
If i wasn't able to communicate about anything and everything to Him, He wouldn't have accepted me and granted me His collar.

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RE: Candid convo with your "D" can you? - 3/31/2008 3:36:27 AM

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Daddy and I do have candid convos and 9 times out of 10 it is He who brings them up. It is hard sometimes but it really does make me feel closer to him.

momma,

Thanks for your inpput, now see if you can reverse that percentage so he does not have to pull it out of you.

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RE: Candid convo with your "D" can you? - 3/31/2008 3:39:38 AM

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There are times when I tell Him, "I'm telling you this as your best friend and the one who loves you - not in a D/s way, so please don't think I'm being un-submissive..." and then I just open my heart and mouth, and lay it all out there. I have to do this at times because submission, while natural with Him, is not natural to my general personality and nature. Sometimes I need Him to realize that I'm talking as His equal, not as His slave. (That may not sit well with some people, but we've been together for 5 years in June and have a very good relationship, so I'll stick with what works for us.)

redhead,

as the saying goes, if it ain't broke, don't fix it.

thanks for your input.

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RE: Candid convo with your "D" can you? - 3/31/2008 3:44:01 AM

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We sometimes even finish each other's sentences. He saved me just in the nick of time <3 I thank him for it everyday. He just lights up my world. We can talk about anything. <http://www.collarchat.com/image/s2.gif> <http://www.collarchat.com/image/s1.gif>

kitten,

it was good to find a "D" with a life preserver handy.

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RE: Candid convo with your "D" can you? - 3/31/2008 3:48:38 AM

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This works the other way around too

epiphany,

Thanks for your input and welcome mto the mboards / 9 post in 3 plus years? come on girl , you have some insight to share.

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RE: Candid convo with your "D" can you? - 3/31/2008 3:52:36 AM

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I have always required "candid convo" as you put it. I think of it as a path to knowledge. With said knowledge, how can I provide what it is My Love needs. While it is her duty to serve me, it is also mine to provide for her. If I am unaware of the things she needs/wants, I am ill-armed to do anything about it. This goes to in the context of limits. We do not make a habit of sitting down at the dinner table and setting in writing a "list" of do's/don'ts, but with out the open, active listening skills and general understanding, I would have no hope of being a a Lord worth my salt.

Lord,

Well required or voluntary, if it gets done, it keeps a relationship going.

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RE: Candid convo with your "D" can you? - 3/31/2008 3:54:55 AM

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If i wasn't able to communicate about anything and everything to Him, He wouldn't have accepted me and granted me His collar.

kat,

well it does appear that you have the key to stay solid.

CP

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RE: Candid convo with your "D" can you? - 3/31/2008 4:01:00 AM

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

chamberqueen you are right. They belong to you now. Who do they think they are saying I want this or I want that. Their purpose is to please you. They have given up their right to have and want anything.

I do hope this is sarcasm, a play on that kind of attitude?

I Own her, she is Mine, she is focused on pleasing Me....but she is still a human being, she still has a brain and that means she will have thoughts, opinions, wants and needs of her own. she submitted her decisions, every decision in her life is now accountable to Me, what she did not do is give up her ability to think, to have opinions and wants.... she can request those wants but understands that wether they are granted is upto Me.

As for candid discussion, I don't just allow it, I require it. I am good at what I do but I can't mind read (Though it has been claimed that I appear to be able to on occassion). I can't speak for others and thier style of Ownership, but My girl is permitted to hide nothing from Me, I Own her mind, body and soul.... that entails a level of openess that couldn't happen without open and frank discussion.

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RE: Candid convo with your "D" can you? - 3/31/2008 6:53:22 AM

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I feel very secure in the level of trust, reliability and caring that enables me to open a conversation about anything, virtually anything, that's on my mind. And I feel that is the basis of a solid relationship....not communication but the ability to communicate.

littlebit,

sounds like your right on the nose of the issue! not in a d/s or M/s relationship??? pray tell what brings the girl to this den of erotic behavior?

CP

Lol...CP, I started out as a submissive way back when. I have since discovered I'm not sub nor slave, I'm a bottom. <Gasp!> Yes one of those, not weal or twue, I'm here for the kink. And where do you find kinky people?? On CM. But there's no category to check off for "bottom".

Our relationship is more of a Gorean Free Companionship...a reverse Oreo cookie if you like. Vanilla on the outside (unless people look closely) with a whole bunch of chocolate kink on the inside.

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RE: Candid convo with your "D" can you? - 3/31/2008 7:25:38 AM

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I can, yes. What's more, if I did not speak candidly to him about any and everything that had the possibility of impacting my service to him; he would release me immediatly with no second thoughts. One of the most important promises I ever made to him was in the beginning; I promised to always be an open book; with no hidden pages, no torn edges that strategically hid words; no blank pages; no ileligible writing...etc, etc. I promised him that I would always be honest, open, and direct, to the absolute best of my ability. To do otherwise, was to remove the collar from my neck.

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RE: Candid convo with your "D" can you? - 3/31/2008 8:56:57 AM

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Lol...CP, I started out as a submissive way back when. I have since discovered I'm not sub nor slave, I'm a bottom. <Gasp!> Yes one of those, not weal or twue, I'm here for the kink. And where do you find kinky people?? On CM. But there's no category to check off for "bottom".

Our relationship is more of a Gorean Free Companionship...a reverse Oreo cookie if you like. Vanilla on the outside (unless people look closely) with a whole bunch of chocolate kink on the inside.

littlebit,

grins; even without a glass of milk I now understand.. Thanks for the help.

CP

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RE: Candid convo with your "D" can you? - 3/31/2008 8:59:54 AM

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I can, yes. What's more, if I did not speak candidly to him about any and everything that had the possibility of impacting my service to him; he would release me immediatly with no second thoughts. One of the most important promises I ever made to him was in the beginning; I promised to always be an open book; with no hidden pages, no torn edges that strategically hid words; no blank pages; no ileligible writing...etc, etc. I promised him that I would always be honest, open, and direct, to the absolute best of my ability. To do otherwise, was to remove the collar from my neck.

tahlly,

Well it does appear that you Master does have a strong conviction on the subject. Thanks for sharing that.

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RE: Candid convo with your "D" can you? - 3/31/2008 9:40:20 AM

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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

Can you candidly discuss issues with your "D" now that you wear a collar. Can you discuss fantasies, tendencies toward yeast infections etc.

If you cannot, should you be wearing a collar?

CP

Yes I can and probably always will. He also stated that if I ever found it hard to say something, I'm free to write hime a note, or put it in a journal, or send him an email. As long as i'm communicating.

Personally I rarely find it hard to say what I think tho.

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RE: Candid convo with your "D" can you? - 3/31/2008 6:07:43 PM

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