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dea2008 -> I want to fall in love with my future Mistress (3/28/2008 11:16:02 AM)
What if I shall fall in love with my Mistress ? Is it dangerous for the slave to fall in love with her Mistress ? Is this experience can be called hell or paradise ?

chamberqueen -> RE: I want to fall in love with my future Mistress (3/28/2008 11:17:55 AM)
It depends on whether She can love you back, and only time will tell. I love my Daddy and I doubt that He will ever love me but I knew that going into the relationship and have come to terms with it. Someone that is looking for a 24/7 relationship is probably more likely to fall in love with you simply because you are always together and will have the chance to grow very close.

LaTigresse -> RE: I want to fall in love with my future Mistress (3/28/2008 11:19:04 AM)
I've loved two. The others, I was fond of, but cannot say I loved. Those didn't last long.

GoddessTeaze -> RE: I want to fall in love with my future Mistress (3/28/2008 11:21:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dea2008 What if I shall fall in love with my Mistress ? Is it dangerous for the slave to fall in love with her Mistress ? Is this experience can be called hell or paradise ? So go for it girl!!!! serving with heart and soul is the most beautiful way to serve. [:D] Goodluck in your journey. Warm Greetingz GoddezzT`

darchChylde -> RE: I want to fall in love with my future Mistress (3/28/2008 11:36:15 AM)
It's always dangerous to fall in love with anyone. Any emotional attachment is dangerous, but it's worth the risk. If it works, you've found a wonderful relationship; if it doesn't, you've learned something. So yes, love is always dangerous; and yes, love is zlways worth the risk.

faerytattoodgirl -> RE: I want to fall in love with my future Mistress (3/28/2008 11:36:53 AM)
i'd fall in wuv wif Goddess Teaze ..but shes 5000000000000 miles away....

slaafje1969 -> RE: I want to fall in love with my future Mistress (3/28/2008 11:42:28 AM)
No, how can falling in love be dangerous. As long as you don't have very different expectations from your relationship than your Mistress has.

darchChylde -> RE: I want to fall in love with my future Mistress (3/28/2008 11:48:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slaafje1969 No, how can falling in love be dangerous. As long as you don't have very different expectations from your relationship than your Mistress has. Any time you love someone, you open yourself up to intense emotional vulnerability. Even with the best of intentions, hearts can break. Happily ever after does not happen very often, and expecting it can be incredibly dangerous.

slaafje1969 -> RE: I want to fall in love with my future Mistress (3/28/2008 12:01:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: darchChylde quote: ORIGINAL: slaafje1969 No, how can falling in love be dangerous. As long as you don't have very different expectations from your relationship than your Mistress has. Any time you love someone, you open yourself up to intense emotional vulnerability. Even with the best of intentions, hearts can break. Happily ever after does not happen very often, and expecting it can be incredibly dangerous. Yes very true. I know about broken hearts. It's a risk falling in love, dangerous no.

darchChylde -> RE: I want to fall in love with my future Mistress (3/28/2008 12:10:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slaafje1969 Yes very true. I know about broken hearts. It's a risk falling in love, dangerous no. not going to argue semantics

petpete -> RE: I want to fall in love with my future Mistress (3/28/2008 4:30:22 PM)
i suppose that's what most of us are looking for but as darChylde states its true that there is an element of danger when you do go all the way. i believe people should be paid with the same currency and hate to see people being short changed. Unfortunate it can happen and in most cases every relationship is exposed to such vanruble situation. That's why i would suggest to test the waters before you can swim... It takes time to know someone and time will be the only factor that will decide the outcome on any relationship.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: I want to fall in love with my future Mistress (3/28/2008 5:43:02 PM)
What Darch said.

undergroundsea -> RE: I want to fall in love with my future Mistress (3/28/2008 7:26:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dea2008 What if I shall fall in love with my Mistress ? Is it dangerous for the slave to fall in love with her Mistress ? Is this experience can be called hell or paradise ? It could happen more easily than you might think. I hear of a phenomenon that a sub can develop strong emotional attachment to his first domme due to the power of the first experience, or the first opportunity to live out what has been wanted for years. In my opinion, falling in love with a domme can be dangerous if she holds no compassion towards the sub. One style of dominance is based on seeing the sub as a person without worth whose welfare matters little, and who can be easily replaced. Aside from that, I think falling in love is a good thing. I think service and submission flow from deeper within if there is love. And, yes, falling in love can lead to heartache but it's nothing a little chocolate icecream can't fix ;-) Cheers, Sea

azropedntied -> RE: I want to fall in love with my future Mistress (3/28/2008 8:30:50 PM)
you wish to fall in love with a Mistress who you have yet to meet , kinda setting your expectations ripe for heart break , like saying the next slot machine i pull i shall hit the jackpot ! why not try and gain your education , experience's , personal growth ,get out in your bdsm community ,meet and then go from there and see if something clicks first .find and develop that relationship with that special one and allow the journey to take place .Nothing wrong with being in love with ones Mistress ,follow your head and heart and soul . best wishes on your path .

AtlantaMistress -> RE: I want to fall in love with my future Mistress (3/28/2008 8:48:21 PM)
It will be hell if you fall in love with someone not open to that, who will not love you back. It will be paradise if you fall in love with a Mistress who is looking for a lifetime partner, not just a slave, to love as well. Be true to what you want, and don't settle for less. I see boys who I care for very much, but I know they love me. I am in love with one man, and not interested in anyone else filling the needs he takes care of. I try to encourage the others to keep open to finding "Mistress Right". Not all Dommes will do that though, and I have seen men get caught, wanting so bad to submit that they do so with someone that is not what they really want for their life, and then get caught, spending so much time in a dead end relationship, and being afraid to go for what they may have - figuring I guess better to have something than nothing?

bipolarber -> RE: I want to fall in love with my future Mistress (3/28/2008 9:38:38 PM)
Speaking as someone who gives his heart way too easily, I can tell you that doing so, early on, is just an invitation to suffer. Let things develop, but don't throw yourself into the deep end of the pool until you know there aren't any sharks lurking under the surface. I give this advice with the full expectation of it not being followed. Hell, I can't even follow it myself half the time. "The Hitch hiker's Guide to the Galaxy has this to say about love: DON'T"

GoddessTeaze -> RE: I want to fall in love with my future Mistress (3/29/2008 12:41:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: faerytattoodgirl i'd fall in wuv wif Goddess Teaze ..but shes 5000000000000 miles away.... But I love you anyways girl!!! [:D] have a good one. GoddezzT`

GoddessTeaze -> RE: I want to fall in love with my future Mistress (3/29/2008 12:46:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: bipolarber Speaking as someone who gives his heart way too easily, I can tell you that doing so, early on, is just an invitation to suffer. Let things develop, but don't throw yourself into the deep end of the pool until you know there aren't any sharks lurking under the surface. I give this advice with the full expectation of it not being followed. Hell, I can't even follow it myself half the time. "The Hitch hiker's Guide to the Galaxy has this to say about love: DON'T" Since when can Wwe control Oour feelings? She simply stated a question.. And love isn't directable.. either it's there or it isn't. When love is involved in the Bdsm it endeepens, otherwise it's very empty, is My experiance. So I understand what you would like in your relationship dea, that means taking a risk. Live & Learn & take the time to get to know the person. I wish you enough. Warm Greetingz GoddezzT`

MissMagnolia -> RE: I want to fall in love with my future Mistress (3/29/2008 1:04:02 AM)
OP, you say you want to fall in love with a future Mistress. I think lots of people "want" to fall in love, as a romantic ideal. But most times it just doesn't happen that way. No one can know love in advance and no one can say what love even is and love is the most unpredictable emotion we have. You might love this woman in every way BUT romantically. As already said by some wise posters, falling in love is a risky thing. But if we never take risks, we never find what we want and we never grow. Don't project your need for romantic love. The harder we try, the harder it is to actually fall in love. Just let it come when, and if, it is time and try very hard not to let the need to love over ride everything else. You can be very happy on the journey!![:)]

petpete -> RE: I want to fall in love with my future Mistress (3/29/2008 1:36:22 AM)
Goddess Teaze, i respect bipolarbers posting very much.. He has given me some good advice in the past and his very right that we can control our feelings. All it takes is discipline to do so and the use of our heads before our hearts feelings. Imagine if we where lead by our hearts all the time we would be wrecks by now... The last time i was lead by my heart was when i was a teenager and young and inexperienced. Now i feel i owe to be thinking allot different then i used to back quarter of a century ago. Beauty and passion can have a way but its the head who controls the body and has the final decision of what it should do.

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