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RE: D/s Wannabe and what to look for - 7/22/2004 9:45:52 AM

melycious

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~laughing..the heat must be effecting me.....

i personally dont use the domsirkingdommemadam titles... unless its someone i know in RT and respect in that way.. for me.. its simply a personal thing.. i wouldnt call someone Sir if i didnt know them or Dom if they were not acting that way.. and how could i know any of that..if i didnt know them?

*grins..that being said.. let me add a major pet peeve.. to hear someone say in a chat room..that they are offended because someone did NOT capitalize their name.. OMG .. please get over yourself.. if that is what it takes for you to feel Dominant.. then.. i can only feel bad for you....

soooooo.. for all you DomkingLordMasterCallmeNOWslut folks.. *grins* ... i'll stick with finding a part of your handle..and going with it... really hates when the handle is MasterDomCock....... somehow it feels rude to call someone cock? lol

mely the sensation slut

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RE: D/s Wannabe and what to look for - 7/22/2004 1:20:48 PM

Thanatosian

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quote:

I am indecent!! I apologize to everyone present.
B

*blushing furiously*

why apologise? there is nothing wrong with being indecent on an adult board

unless you are ashamed/scandalized/embarassed at us all seeing you in an indecent state, that is

but then, I quite enjoy seeing a lovely woman in an indecent state

Apply usual caveats here

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RE: D/s Wannabe and what to look for - 7/22/2004 1:55:05 PM

Voltare

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Hmmm I will occasionall call someone Sir or Ma'am - but not because they're worthy of any sort of honorifics. Four years in the Marines will do that to you.

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RE: D/s Wannabe and what to look for - 7/22/2004 4:24:13 PM

SherriA

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MzBerlin

I am indecent!!

And I'm not anymore. *pout* I LIKED being indecent.....

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RE: D/s Wannabe and what to look for - 7/22/2004 5:46:52 PM

proudsub

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quote:

And I'm not anymore. *pout* I LIKED being indecent.....

My impression is that "twisted" fits you pretty well Sherrie.

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RE: D/s Wannabe and what to look for - 7/22/2004 9:18:27 PM

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quote:

Hmmm I will occasionall call someone Sir or Ma'am - but not because they're worthy of any sort of honorifics. Four years in the Marines will do that to you.

M. Stephan-

Semper Fi.

I throw 'sir' or 'M'am' around a lot in social situations, too. Funny thing is coming from a Marine Corps family, often times, I reflexivly respond 'DON'T-call-me-sir-I-work-for-a-living' when 'Sir'ed unexpectedly.

On one occasion, I was so flustered I told a very sincere newbie "don't call me Master I work for a living"- which was OK, as anything I said would have been wonderful- she was quite exicited to have met someone who DID this stuff<g>.

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RE: D/s Wannabe and what to look for - 7/23/2004 12:23:54 AM

Zoycite

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That is some nice advice... but I have been getting the same message from numerous people: "Are you real?" How is one supposed to answer that? I breath and walk and talk... am I not real?

But most of these message come from someone without a profile or anything. Then they want more pictures, I feel so offended. I say 'I don't have a camera' and they get offended and huffy. I find that they were not worth it then, if they don't take time out to get to know me, then why bother?

I wondered if it was because I didn't have 'slave' or 'mistress' in my screen name. I find no need for it.

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RE: D/s Wannabe and what to look for - 7/23/2004 1:14:09 AM

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RE: D/s Wannabe and what to look for - 7/23/2004 6:00:03 AM

Thanatosian

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quote:

often times, I reflexivly respond 'DON'T-call-me-sir-I-work-for-a-living' when 'Sir'ed unexpectedly.

My old command Master Chief used to use "DON'T call me Sir I work for a living, my parents were married, and I dont have a lobotomy scar"

Once at a munch I too slipped and said 'dont call me Sir I work for a living' and confused the hell out of the sub I was talking with until I explained that it came from my military noncom background - she was kinda new and under the impression that all Dom men liked to be called Sir

Apply usual caveats here

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RE: D/s Wannabe and what to look for - 7/24/2004 5:43:21 AM

MsDawnbbwdomme

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Hi, I just wanted you to know that I have been for yrs and always will be MsDawn_bbwdomme on various websites and in real life and that I choose this name to let others know what I stand for. I ignor folks with the handles "orgasmsguaranted, pussylicker, hung, etc" but I never ignor people that are just trying to show their status. I guess to each his own. Blessings MsDawn

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ORIGINAL: afmvdp

I would just tell most to just set auto ignore with the words Dom, domme, Master, mistress, Lord, Sir, etc in their screen names or their references to themselves. Same goes on the opposite end with someone claiming their submission by naming themselves slave, sub, slut, whore, etc. Just seems that these type of people are trying so hard to force a certain image down anothers throat right off the bat rather then letting their words talk for themselves.

Secondly, I'd disagree about wanting to meet relatively soon after talking online. Meeting with the intended statement to jump into positions on the first sight is absurd and to be avoided in most circumstances but to just want to meet up and ensure that the person isn't trying to hide is a good thing. Also helps to ward off the secret lives club.

Sidenote: There are no absolute rules that apply to everyone just rules for your own personal experiences. My rules are far stricter than most as has come to a head multiple times here just in My short while on the boards. Your rules may work for you but they would be immediately contradicted by many of my own personal rules.

Also for a sub you seem rather pushy but perhaps thats just your bitterness showing. Nothing personal just letting you know with that type of attitude right out of the gate you're not likely to attract very many "real" Doms or Masters.

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RE: D/s Wannabe and what to look for - 7/24/2004 5:56:41 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsDawnbbwdomme
I ignor folks with the handles "orgasmsguaranted, pussylicker, hung, etc" but I never ignor people that are just trying to show their status.

(I just posted this in the Ask a Master section, but thought it might be apropos here as well.)

Margret Thatcher once said, "Having power is like being a lady, if you have to tell people you have it, then you don't."

What do you think the "domme" adds that the MsDawn doesn't convey?

Yours,
Taggard

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RE: D/s Wannabe and what to look for - 7/24/2004 6:22:00 AM

LadyAngelika

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsDawnbbwdomme
I ignor folks with the handles "orgasmsguaranted, pussylicker, hung, etc" but I never ignor people that are just trying to show their status. I guess to each his own. Blessings MsDawn

I agree. Limiting your handle to an action is a little bit well... limited. Though I would not block someone with the nick "idowindowsandfloors" ;)

quote:

ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty
Margret Thatcher once said, "Having power is like being a lady, if you have to tell people you have it, then you don't."

I like that Taggard. I have a quote fetish too and that is a good one.

So by that standard, am I not a Lady for having Lady in my handle? Not that I'm going to change it based on your response, just curious.

I think all of it has to do with the image we want to portray. I’m not anyone’s Mistress until they have my collar around their neck. But Lady I like… it describes me well. Class and authority.

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RE: D/s Wannabe and what to look for - 7/24/2004 7:58:04 AM

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The term "wannabe" is often applied by those that do not share the kink of the poster. Same goes for HNG, SAM. (One I'm still trying to figure out is "supplicant" should I be insulted or complimented?

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RE: D/s Wannabe and what to look for - 7/24/2004 9:06:49 AM

TallDarkAndWitty

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika
So by that standard, am I not a Lady for having Lady in my handle? Not that I'm going to change it based on your response, just curious.

As I said in my other post, on the other thread, I don't ignore folks who use titles in their screen names, it just takes a bit more for them to earn my respect.

You, my dear Lady, have done so.

Yours,
Taggard

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RE: D/s Wannabe and what to look for - 7/24/2004 11:00:37 AM

LadyAngelika

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quote:

ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika
So by that standard, am I not a Lady for having Lady in my handle? Not that I'm going to change it based on your response, just curious.

As I said in my other post, on the other thread, I don't ignore folks who use titles in their screen names, it just takes a bit more for them to earn my respect.

You, my dear Lady, have done so.

Yours,
Taggard

And you, dear Sir, have made me blush ;)

- LA

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RE: D/s Wannabe and what to look for - 7/24/2004 11:22:54 AM

MsDawnbbwdomme

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Actually I wanted to convey that I was a BBW Domme and not just a Domme, I assumed the Ms would convey the dominate part but I did not want alot of "Barbie Domme" seekers. And I just wanted to make it clear that I am dominant. Also I would never change my nic for anyone. And I don't think I am trying to tell people I have power or demanding respect from online friends, the respect I have from those who know me real time, I have earned. Huggs MsDawn PS did you notice I only sign MsDawn??

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ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty

quote:

ORIGINAL: MsDawnbbwdomme
I ignor folks with the handles "orgasmsguaranted, pussylicker, hung, etc" but I never ignor people that are just trying to show their status.

(I just posted this in the Ask a Master section, but thought it might be apropos here as well.)

Margret Thatcher once said, "Having power is like being a lady, if you have to tell people you have it, then you don't."

What do you think the "domme" adds that the MsDawn doesn't convey?

Yours,
Taggard

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RE: D/s Wannabe and what to look for - 7/24/2004 11:25:57 AM

MsDawnbbwdomme

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Lady Angelika I like the way you think. Personally I am too bossy & sassy to be classified a Lady... Domme much better describes me. Blessings MsDawn

quote:

I like that Taggard. I have a quote fetish too and that is a good one.

So by that standard, am I not a Lady for having Lady in my handle? Not that I'm going to change it based on your response, just curious.

I think all of it has to do with the image we want to portray. I’m not anyone’s Mistress until they have my collar around their neck. But Lady I like… it describes me well. Class and authority.

- Lady Angelika

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RE: D/s Wannabe and what to look for - 7/24/2004 11:42:04 AM

LadyAngelika

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ORIGINAL: MsDawnbbwdomme
Lady Angelika I like the way you think. Personally I am too bossy & sassy to be classified a Lady... Domme much better describes me. Blessings MsDawn

I'm not bossy. But I'm definitely a leader.
And oh boy am I ever sassy!
But on top of it all, I am first a Lady, then a Domme and next a Sadist, all this intermingled with a bunch of stuff.

Oh yeah... and I am BBW. It is reflected in my profile (where I write my height and weight without an ounce of shame as well as in my description) and of course in my choice of Namio portrait for an avatar. Namio had very few blondes in his works... quite the challenge.

I'm glad you like your Handle/Nick. In the end, that is what counts the most.

- LA

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RE: D/s Wannabe and what to look for - 7/24/2004 6:57:46 PM

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I know personally how hard it is to weed out wannabes. Some play the game so well and even when a face to face meeting takes place they still appear so real. We have learned the hard way, we have opened our home before to those in need and only to have our hearts broke and Our home disrupted by the little games and drama some like to cause. Being one who seeks a sister,brother i have had my heart broke so often for the need is so great to share my life. I know i will not give up for she or him or both are out there. We just must go forward.......and try and try again

shy

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RE: D/s Wannabe and what to look for - 7/24/2004 7:05:48 PM

LadyAngelika

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ORIGINAL: shylittleheart
I know personally how hard it is to weed out wannabes. Some play the game so well and even when a face to face meeting takes place they still appear so real. We have learned the hard way...

If you don't mind me asking shy, what is it that made you eventually come to the conclusion that they were, as you put it, "wannabees"?

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