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RE: The end - 3/29/2008 11:25:53 AM

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You already recieved some good advice...... I suggest take it.

but I will add to reinforce what was already said.

You are an attractive well-reasoned young woman... embrace yourself for abit... the mess will pass.

The storm will pass... as long as you don't seek to pander to the drama of the situation. Hold your head high.. don't get into the discussions of what happen or other such drama.

oh why not?
Have a haeart: life is life and has dramatic moments. It's not like paint by numbers with a colour code for everything that comes next....

Life does indeed have it's share of dramatic moments...and getting caught up in the drama of them may or may not work for you.
However, for me the drama tends to be a distraction to my feelings and an impedence to the next task at hand: moving on.
Drama can be addictive on it's own and can color my thinking...but more importantly,
if I allow it, it gets in the way of doing and living.

well said... (and my eyes are really LOVING the new keyboard LOL)

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RE: The end - 3/29/2008 11:31:22 AM

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As a person on the boards, I think you are fabulous...21 or not.

I am sorry for your pain.
(((hugs)))...

Just be you.

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RE: The end - 3/29/2008 11:32:48 AM

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Thanks!

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RE: The end - 3/29/2008 11:45:13 AM

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aww thankyou angelika, (and seconding the keyboard thing :P)

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RE: The end - 3/29/2008 11:48:44 AM

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Ok so ya'll probably know ive had a shit time emotionally recently (some do anyways) and due to a missunderstanding im now a bit not in a relationship, basically they thought I had ended it (i didnt realise) but the fact that they were rather quick to tell everyone/change profiles etcetc kinda was the final nail in the coffin thus proving that it was a wasted effort on my part. My question is these people know all my friends, they have already told them all actually and im not sure how to deal with it normally at the end of relationships i dont ever talk to the people again but if i go to events and stuff they will likely be there. Despite my bravado im actually a bit of an emotional mess a lot of the time and i dont know what to do, because i dont want to now stop talking to all these people or going to various things or whatever, but i know that a lot of people are gonna be saying its all my fault. umm yeah so thats it any advice?

First of all, why don't you give yourself a break? Of course you are an emotional mess, a breakup is bound to make you feel that way. I would be more worried it you weren't.

Secondly, you don't owe anyone an explanation, and those people who claim to be friends but don't ask you for your side of it aren't friends at all. People will talk, so what? Let them if they'd rather speculate rather than coming to you. Again, that proves that they aren't really your friends and you're well rid of them.

Meantime, if you need to talk you know where to reach me.

hugs and mushy stuff,

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RE: The end - 3/29/2008 11:57:11 AM

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aww thankyou angelika, (and seconding the keyboard thing :P)

*blush*

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RE: The end - 3/29/2008 12:02:12 PM

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Ron's right on, although the phrase "it is what it is" makes me want to throw something...

I think you should "OBEY" him...seriously he doesn't unleash his uber-Dom control over many here. You have been given this "gift" (snort); because you rock!! You're intelligent, well-spoken and confident. This won't shake you for long, I'm thinking.

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RE: The end - 3/30/2008 6:52:07 AM

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Thankyou Phoenix and Tee, I do hope that it doesnt.

I think its just because its all so small in the UK and I was worried, seems like a silly thing to worry about but it seems to be the thing that I have been concerned about. I mean I am sad that its the end but I think I am mourning the Idea rather than the reality of the relationship, mourning what it could have been and what I wanted it to be not the actual experiance which though painful has taught me a lot about who I am which is really positive normally I dont see that kinda stuff I dont take the good out of things but I am this time I think :D

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