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Najakcharmer -> RE: Reasons to DELETE UNREAD? (3/29/2008 6:38:20 PM)
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ORIGINAL: slaveboyforyou
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Screen names like "sub2serveMistress" or "footslave" are at moderate risk of being deleted unread and high risk if they contain a photo, because I'm not interested in talking to one-dimensional people who are only presenting themselves in a sexual/kinky context rather than introducing themselves as real human beings.
Hey now! [:D] Actually I couldn't think of anything else when I set up this profile. I'd like to change my screen name, but of course we can't do that. I don't want to set up a new account, because I'd lose my postings. But I do understand where you're coming from. I don't have a particular affinity for women calling themselves "ballbustingbitch" or the like.
Yep, that's pretty much it. People who present themselves in a "fantasy persona" rather than as normal adult human beings are generally either a) not normal adult human beings or b) not interested in relating to other people as anything but cardboard cut-out props for their fantasies. The notion that some stranger might think of himself as a "slave boy for me" strikes me as unrealistic and more than a little creepy. Most likely I'll avoid any interaction since it looks like he wants to use me as a sort of prop for his fantasy of being "my" slave boy. That kind of email can go in the plonk file since that is not a game I consent to play.
That assumption may well not describe you personally, but it is the immediate impression I get from seeing the screen name, and it really does describe the majority of the interactions I've had with male so-called subs who choose those kinds of handles. I don't think I'm alone in this boat either. Sucks to be you, I guess, since changing your name isn't really do-able on CM.
Of course if you can get to know someone in a public place like these forums, they will be able to see past the one-dimensional screen name. It's going to be harder to get to know people in any other venue if your screen name makes them suspicious that you're a wanking creep and they don't bother to read your message. Since your email may be one among a great many unsolicited requests, most of which really will be annoyingly rude and vulgar, your chances of it being read diminish significantly with a screen name that will remind a domme of all the other stupid propositions from strangers that she's already read and deleted today. "Oh ghod, not yet ANOTHER useless fantasy wanker begging to be my slave without even knowing me.... *delete* *block* *ignore*"
If you gor a metric fuckton of just that on a regular basis, and some of it is explicitly squicksome on the details of stuff that is not even your kink, complete with pictures, you'd probably start deleting emails too. Welcome to the world of having a female profile on an adult site.
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