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Missokyst -> RE: Reasons to DELETE UNREAD? (3/30/2008 5:51:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressNoName but sending someone an email on here is a different sort of thing than some start-up dot-com getting hold of an email list and spamming everyone on Yahoo! in hopes of getting that one important sale. Would it surprise you to know that many of us do get spammed with the same email from the same person over and over? I have two accounts here. I got the exact opening email, same words, verbatim from the same guy within 2 days of signing up. It is trying to get that sale! quote: wondering why the person just deleted the email and didn't even bother to bloody open it after I spent a good, damned chunk of time composing the letter. Is it wrong to wonder why? Is it wrong to ask the question out loud? I don't think so. Perhaps, at the end of the day, it all boils down to the whole lot of us feeling varying levels of frustration or whatever...I dunno. Yes it can be frustrating to have an email go unanswered. LOL but, I will just mention that if it is deleted unread there is no way to tell how many days it took that person to compose it. Perhaps it might be a better idea to make less of an effort on a first time proposal. That way when it is shot down your day is not ruined. My point is that even though this is a social networking site, people have MANY reasons for not answering. Why is it so hard to accept that without feeling it is a personal assault? In general I don't answer people who live outside of my immediate area, but there are other reasons. They don't always have to be about the writer. It might be that the person being written to has other things going on. I see these type of posts and I want to send them a bumpersticker. "YES it is all about ME!" because clearly in their world everything should be. quote: One of the more disappointing things about the boards, though, has been how very, very often people post questions and concerns, legitimately seeking learning, only to get responses so far removed from their original topic, As stated over and over by many posters... a no answer, a delete unread IS an answer. It is simply one that many find unacceptable.

LadyDesire666 -> RE: Reasons to DELETE UNREAD? (3/30/2008 6:05:47 PM)
for me the only one that go unopened & deleted fall into one of 2 types of emails. The first is they fell in my filter. Which would mean they are over 80! (LoL) OR it's someone I've already replied to once turning them down or telling them I am not the one they are seeking as I'm not into whatever they wanted. Otherwise I read all emails (which is why i get so far behind so fast!). I do replie to all other wise ,too!

tahlly -> RE: Reasons to DELETE UNREAD? (3/30/2008 7:20:25 PM)
I often delete email without reading it. Mainly because my owner usually reads my mail; and if he misses or purposefully leaves some, I have to believe it is for a reason, so I just delete it. Those he wishes me to respond to, he leaves in my mail box.

MistressNoName -> RE: Reasons to DELETE UNREAD? (3/30/2008 10:06:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Missokyst quote: ORIGINAL: MistressNoName but sending someone an email on here is a different sort of thing than some start-up dot-com getting hold of an email list and spamming everyone on Yahoo! in hopes of getting that one important sale. Would it surprise you to know that many of us do get spammed with the same email from the same person over and over? I have two accounts here. I got the exact opening email, same words, verbatim from the same guy within 2 days of signing up. It is trying to get that sale! quote: wondering why the person just deleted the email and didn't even bother to bloody open it after I spent a good, damned chunk of time composing the letter. Is it wrong to wonder why? Is it wrong to ask the question out loud? I don't think so. Perhaps, at the end of the day, it all boils down to the whole lot of us feeling varying levels of frustration or whatever...I dunno. Yes it can be frustrating to have an email go unanswered. LOL but, I will just mention that if it is deleted unread there is no way to tell how many days it took that person to compose it. Perhaps it might be a better idea to make less of an effort on a first time proposal. That way when it is shot down your day is not ruined. My point is that even though this is a social networking site, people have MANY reasons for not answering. Why is it so hard to accept that without feeling it is a personal assault? In general I don't answer people who live outside of my immediate area, but there are other reasons. They don't always have to be about the writer. It might be that the person being written to has other things going on. I see these type of posts and I want to send them a bumpersticker. "YES it is all about ME!" because clearly in their world everything should be. quote: One of the more disappointing things about the boards, though, has been how very, very often people post questions and concerns, legitimately seeking learning, only to get responses so far removed from their original topic, As stated over and over by many posters... a no answer, a delete unread IS an answer. It is simply one that many find unacceptable. Wow, did you even bother to read the original post? Where did all that come from? Again, he was asking about FIRST TIME ONLY emails send to someone...Apparently he'd read on the boards that women prefer to get thoughtful emails sent, not form letters...so he put some time and effort into the email only to get it deleted unread...so I suppose the issue is about what's a person to do faced with a sort of catch-22 situation? Yes, I know all about the repeat emails...I've gotten those too...if the OP was talking about this sort of situation, your point would be well-taken. And from what I read in his post, he seems to realize that the person had reasons...again, he's just trying to make sense out of it...I again ask, is it wrong to ask the question out loud? Apparently, you believe it is. Sad. But you know what, keep deleting since it serves you so well, it seems. Peace. Out. MNN

MissMagnolia -> RE: Reasons to DELETE UNREAD? (3/30/2008 10:40:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressNoName It's amazing to me how many people have posted but have not managed to address the OP's original question. As I understand it, PrimeVector was talking about FIRST TIME contact ONLY and he's said that a couple of times...and he's talking about a scenario where he has taken MUCH time to compose a thoughtful, respectful letter only to get it deleted not once, but twice unread...and his nickname is not 9inchcock or slave2yourpussy or any other outrageous name some folks have come up with...Nor is he challenging anyones' RIGHT to do with their inbox as they please...he's simply wanting to understand why folks do this, hopefully, so he can learn from the experience. The only thing I've read so far that comes close to a viable explanation is the filter feature...which I had forgotten about because I don't use it anymore...and that would explain why some emails get deleted unread. But 3 pages of comments along the lines of, "I delete any potentially rude emails esp if their screennames are overly suggestive" and "it's my inbox, I'll delete if I want to..." How does that address the man's legitimate question? MNN His questions have been answered as far as they can be. The responses are all legitimate. I checked the OP's profile and gained some idea of who he is from his profile. I would have little interest in conversing with a men from the US, as I live in Australia. He indicates that he is interested in politics. I find politics as boring as bat shit. He hates female supremacy, what if the sub he contacts finds it beautiful? He hates horror movies, I adore them. Etc., etc. My point is if a sub reads his profile, or that of anyone who emails them, BEFORE opening the email, they may well think that they have fuck all in common with this man and find it easier to delete the email than have to send an explanation of why they are refusing. Some subs have very low self esteem and would find it hard to even write a refusal to a Dom. I'm not saying it's ideal to delete messages unread, but until you know the psychological profile and the life of every single sub on here, you can't possible know why some subs do this. There's a whole lot of things that people don't include in their profile, and if they want to delete emails unread, bloody good luck to them. To the OP: Don't despair. This question often comes up and yes, it does happen. It isn't anything about you in particular, it's just the way the net is.

HerLord -> RE: Reasons to DELETE UNREAD? (3/31/2008 2:44:07 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CalifChick No, you're really not. Not the way you're thinking. You don't have to have a visible profile on the other side. Cali You're right as usual... But I NEVER said anything about the REQUIRED profile being visable. You ARE required to have one, visible or not.

parttimehotty -> RE: Reasons to DELETE UNREAD? (3/31/2008 6:21:13 AM)
Speaking only for myself, i've been nothing BUT clear in my profile reg what i was looking for (when i was looking), yet if you view my journal entries, you'll note the jerk off's that replied to me...and those were just the one's that i posted! People don't bother to read my profile to see what i'm REALLY looking for, why should i waste my time reading their feeble messages? Now i'm just online to participate in the Message Board and state as much in my profile, yet i still receive messages from the "Dom" who thinks he's the ONE or that i'll "keep him in mind" if this relationship fails. Duly noted that my profile is set in "Crypt" that you can decipher if you're really interested. Another "trick" of mine when i was searching, however it's written in PLAIN English that i'm NOT looking at this time......Good luck in your search. :)))))

Aileen1968 -> RE: Reasons to DELETE UNREAD? (3/31/2008 7:57:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HerLord quote: ORIGINAL: CalifChick No, you're really not. Not the way you're thinking. You don't have to have a visible profile on the other side. Cali You're right as usual... But I NEVER said anything about the REQUIRED profile being visable. You ARE required to have one, visible or not. I'm not sure about that. I deleted my original profile on the other side...Aileen68 and I'm pretty sure that it's still here on this side. Let me go see if I can still post with it.

Aileen68 -> RE: Reasons to DELETE UNREAD? (3/31/2008 7:58:29 AM)
Yup...you can have a profile on this side without a profile on the other.

Missokyst -> RE: Reasons to DELETE UNREAD? (3/31/2008 9:24:44 AM)
Did I say anything about it not being a first time email? I don't believe I did. What I did say was that many of us DO get bombarded by so much that we just don't want to read it. I don't care if it is first, ninth, what ever. He is a victim of people's choice to answer or not. And those people may not care that he spent 9 hours on his email, or 30 seconds. Unread it is all the same thing. First, second, what ever. There is no way to tell how long, how much effort, ect a person takes if you don't read it. Unless you are psychic. I am saying it is their choice for whatever reason not to read. He asked why. I answered. Because they chose to delete. That is as much sense out of it as I could muster. LOL what I can't understand is why people don't get that. Kyst quote: ORIGINAL: MistressNoName FIRST TIME ONLY emails send to someone...Yes, I know all about the repeat emails...I've gotten those too...if the OP was talking about this sort of situation, your point would be well-taken. trying to make sense out of it...

MistressNoName -> RE: Reasons to DELETE UNREAD? (3/31/2008 12:28:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Missokyst Did I say anything about it not being a first time email? I don't believe I did. What I did say was that many of us DO get bombarded by so much that we just don't want to read it. I don't care if it is first, ninth, what ever. He is a victim of people's choice to answer or not. And those people may not care that he spent 9 hours on his email, or 30 seconds. Unread it is all the same thing. First, second, what ever. There is no way to tell how long, how much effort, ect a person takes if you don't read it. Unless you are psychic. I am saying it is their choice for whatever reason not to read. He asked why. I answered. Because they chose to delete. That is as much sense out of it as I could muster. LOL what I can't understand is why people don't get that. Kyst quote: ORIGINAL: MistressNoName FIRST TIME ONLY emails send to someone...Yes, I know all about the repeat emails...I've gotten those too...if the OP was talking about this sort of situation, your point would be well-taken. trying to make sense out of it... AMEN...

SL4V3M4YB3 -> RE: Reasons to DELETE UNREAD? (3/31/2008 12:41:41 PM)
I don’t generally don’t delete emails unread because I don’t get enough emails to sift through. I can understand people that do it when the person gets loads of emails and therefore they’d like to eliminate those that are obviously not a match. When I was looking for a job the thing that I can remember from that time is the statement: ‘If you don’t hear back from us in two weeks consider your application unsuccessful.’ Nothing wrong with that as a method of saving precious time, so why do people expect something different when they are dealing with a person with far less resources than a corporation with plenty?

AbusesTwinks -> RE: Reasons to DELETE UNREAD? (3/31/2008 2:31:43 PM)
My guess is simply you are not attractive enough for them. It only happened once to me and I was bullshit! All my message said was 'great smile' which I didn't even expect a reply. Anyway I seem to get most of them opened but it's like pulling teeth to get a response. It ain't easy being 47 in the gay world!

domiguy -> RE: Reasons to DELETE UNREAD? (3/30/2010 6:51:26 PM)
I delete without reading all of the time. Nothing dramatizes the big F.U. like sending the message that your words are not worthy of reading. I regret that I have only one cock and life to give for my cuntry....I just don't got the time it takes to answer all of my mail. Whores.

brainiacsub -> RE: Reasons to DELETE UNREAD? (3/30/2010 6:53:10 PM)
Then you missed the gash pics I sent. Your loss...

Smutmonger -> RE: Reasons to DELETE UNREAD? (3/30/2010 6:53:19 PM)
They looked at your profile and thought you must be a twit?

Jeffff -> RE: Reasons to DELETE UNREAD? (3/30/2010 6:59:14 PM)
I do it because it pisses people off.

thornhappy -> RE: Reasons to DELETE UNREAD? (3/30/2010 7:00:12 PM)
Domi, dude, the thread's 2 years old!

VideoAdminZeta -> RE: Reasons to DELETE UNREAD? (3/30/2010 7:03:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: thornhappy Domi, dude, the thread's 2 years old! ... and locked.

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