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HerLord -> RE: hi, my name is chelle, and i am a flirt... (3/31/2008 5:37:46 PM)
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ORIGINAL: chellekitty
just for clarification...though completely irrelevant to the topic, because this is a bdsm message board, not a 12 step program message board...the conversation went something like this...hi, how's it going? alright, bummed out i will be missing the fight tonight...oh, why's that? my room mates are watching the all-star basket ball thing [continue to talk about sports and possible alternatives, outside of going to sports bars and strip clubs - there was one that he went to regularly that was both that had the fight on, to get to watch the fight, and avoiding replacing drugs with gambling for 20 or so minutes, decided that he just wants things the way he wanted them or nothing at all, as addicts are apt to do and move on to something else...strip clubs...] you know they say you should not have sex for the first year? i could not do without sex...well i did the whole meetings, meditation and masturbation thing, wore out a lot of batteries, occasionally had meaningless sex but it didn't do anything for me, but anyway, i am going back in, good luck with getting to watch your fight and staying out of strip clubs...and that is what i was following up on...
so, yes, if to give advice on staying out of relationships, strip clubs, and going other places and hanging out with other people and doing other things that lead back to the lifestyles and activies that brought us to the rooms is disrespect, please, disrespect me....
take care
chelle
ps. i never said i was in or at a meeting, i just said i knew him through a 12 step program...we do do things together other than meetings....oh and btw, it is NA, not that it matters, but just so you have your facts straight when you talk about me...*eyeroll*
Chelle... I took care to not be too offensive to your side on this because I have seen some of your other posts and regard you as at minimum Mostly intellegent. You stated in the OP that your Master or Lord, I forget wich word you used, commented to you on your flirting. If He noticed, So did dude at meeting/function. N/A, A/A, the steps are the same, and so are the policies. You, by flirting with some one in the Program, still put someone elses welfare on the line. Not to mention you also put yours at risk. I was not as concerned with this at first because I figured, it was after all, YOUR welfare, and YOUR decision to do with it as you choose. However, Dude had no recourse. This place you were, was sposed to be a safe place for him. Your apparently unwittingly flirtatiousnous, put him in a bad position. I hope you had the clarity to have your man check on him to be sure you aren't responsible for Dude turning in any of those O'so-precious sobriety chips/coins. Well of course not, but I damn sure woulda.
So Chelle, I was trying not to be cruel, Did it work on either post?
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