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Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 7:33:00 AM   
submyt


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Status: offline 		I had the experience of a Dom sending me an email telling me not to DARE look at his profile unless I was going to send an email.  He followed with specific orders, then said "Understand?".  I wrote back in a friendly style, suggesting that he may want to consider following protocol, and not tell submissives that were not his own what to do.  This, of course, was the beginning of the demise of the conversation.  He spat back insults about my qualifications and whether I was worth his time.  I rebuttaled in kind, stating he has no idea what my qualifications are, or the extent of my knowledge.  I should not have, but also made a statement about his lack of social skills. Now he has threatened to "spread the word" throughout the D/s community.  I have blocked him, but he has simply written under another name.  Any suggestions, besides telling me I'm an idiot, would be most helpful. 
Thanks!
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RE: Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 7:37:00 AM   
Phin


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Status: offline 		keep blocking, and ignoring him. he is just looking for a fight, or an easy lay. dont give him either and he will go away.

the Ds comunity is too big for him to spread the word, and most people that hear shit like that ignore it.

doms dont have the right to push you around unless you give it to them

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RE: Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 7:38:35 AM   
colouredin


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Status: offline 		Yeha just ignore him, hell get bored and move on to his next person, it sucks I know, some people are idiots

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RE: Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 7:40:13 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: submyt

I had the experience of a Dom sending me an email telling me not to DARE look at his profile unless I was going to send an email.  He followed with specific orders, then said "Understand?".  I wrote back in a friendly style, suggesting that he may want to consider following protocol, and not tell submissives that were not his own what to do.  This, of course, was the beginning of the demise of the conversation.  He spat back insults about my qualifications and whether I was worth his time.  I rebuttaled in kind, stating he has no idea what my qualifications are, or the extent of my knowledge.  I should not have, but also made a statement about his lack of social skills. Now he has threatened to "spread the word" throughout the D/s community.  I have blocked him, but he has simply written under another name.  Any suggestions, besides telling me I'm an idiot, would be most helpful. 
Thanks!


Send him a letter telling him he's a dumbass, a shit-heel, and a pimple on the ass of humanity.
 
Or, ignore him.
 
He's going to "spread the word"? Who's going to believe him, or care? If he's such a knucklehead, do you really think he has a vast audience, waiting to hear from  him?

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RE: Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 7:41:39 AM   
MontrealPhoenix


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Status: offline 		He sounds like a first class a**hole to me. Geez, i perv profiles all the time, it doesn't mean i'm going to leave a message. I have been called on it, but in a friendly, teasing manner and i usually end up chatting with that person simply because of the tone of their message. Actually, i've done the same thing, but the message i send tends to be of the "haha caught ya peeking" variety.

He really needs to learn some social skills. I doubt very much that he's going to find himself a subbie/slave as things stand. I think you're right, to start off with a set of orders is not the way to go as you are under no obligation to submit to someone who isn't your dom. I suggest that if he keeps this up that you report him for abuse, there is no need for you to put up with this.

Phoenix

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RE: Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 7:41:53 AM   
SirRober


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Status: offline 		I agree with all of the above...

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RE: Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 7:42:22 AM   
submyt


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Status: offline 		Thanks, Phin...that is what i was thinking...as far as his threat was concerned

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RE: Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 7:42:44 AM   
Gemini1766


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Status: offline 		I like to let them know what "immature, confidence lacking, noise making, narcisstic, anal sphincter, wannabe's" they are when I come across people like that. Easy to "be" anything online. That attitude just says, "humiliate me, please."

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RE: Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 7:43:26 AM   
TethersEnd


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Status: offline 		The best thing you can do is Ignore.  BUT..... if you feel a SAM attack on the horizon then stick out your claws and bat him around some.  Eventually he'll block You!  .............  Idiots breed, dont collect them.  

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RE: Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 7:44:58 AM   
lauren0221


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Status: offline 		This kind of behavior really makes me wonder. It can't be working for him? What is the upside to being an ass?

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RE: Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 7:45:09 AM   
padrepugno


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Status: offline 		It's probably the first time anyone's ever looked at his profile. He probably got excited. Don't get me wrong. He's still a douche, but this makes him an even more pathetic douche

- Padre

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RE: Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 7:45:30 AM   
Gemini1766


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Status: offline 		Oh and it is not a situation of you not being worth his time, something tells me you are.
It on the other hand is not worth your precious time. There's a whole ocean of possibilities out there for you. You'll find someone as much worth your time as you are theirs.


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RE: Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 7:48:30 AM   
submyt


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Status: offline 		You guys are awesome...and hilarious.  yeah, i know..how many profiles have ya looked at because you were perving pictures???? anyway, i digress.  pimple on teh ass of humanity, that is my favorite comment, insane :)

will def report him if i hear from him again after blocking him on two accounts.

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RE: Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 7:49:29 AM   
Real_Trouble


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Status: offline 		If he "spread the word" to me that you were not a spineless moron, I would consider this to be a compliment, not a detriment.

Don't worry, not all of us would be stupid enough to believe highly biased stories without considering the real issue at hand; besides, to echo others, the community is too big to "spread the word" effectively.  He sounds like a moron - treat him like one.


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RE: Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 7:52:36 AM   
Gemini1766


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Status: offline 		He needs a full blown case of dysentery. He's spewing from one end, so might as well make it both. And then you wouldn't be able to tell one end from the other at all.


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RE: Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 7:54:28 AM   
sirsholly


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Status: offline 		my guess is he does not know too many others in the D/s community. Pimples on the ass of humanity (or...zit on my ass, for short) are not tolorated well.


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RE: Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 7:54:39 AM   
basheera


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Status: offline 		Thank you submyt for bringing this up. I have been receiving so many e-mails and have gotten to a point that I don't want to speak to anyone. People e-mail you and when you read it they act like you are owned to them, have no interest in really getting to know you, and they insult you. I have been here a short period of time and really wonder what is wrong so many here. There are some Doms and even Dommes who demand things from you but refuse to give anything in return. I am not two years old...I am a grown woman.

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RE: Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 7:56:18 AM   
Phin


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Gemini1766

He needs a full blown case of dysentery. He's spewing from one end, so might as well make it both. And then you wouldn't be able to tell one end from the other at all.


to quote a very irritating comic, thats funny right there I dont care who you are.

myT, I perv profiles for many reasons, to perv pics is one of them. I also perved you because I wanted to know...

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RE: Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 7:57:33 AM   
krikket


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Status: offline 		On the very rare times that i don't just ignore, i tend to write them back, i'll either tell them exactly what i think of their methods, or really "hit below the belt" and tell them what a "funny man" they are.  Somehow that seems to really insult them -- amazing, lol.

Cheers,
jiminni

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RE: Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 7:59:36 AM   
Gemini1766


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Status: offline 		I perv'd her, too. And I cmailed her, nicely. :) She's lovely. I love the red hair and she has a pretty face. And a sense of humor! What's not to like?

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