Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

Sex after prostate surgery...


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Master >> Sex after prostate surgery... Page: [1]
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
Sex after prostate surgery... - 3/30/2008 11:20:01 PM   
petitespitfire64


Posts: 182
Joined: 10/4/2007
Status: offline 		A Dominant male friend just has his prostate removed because it was cancerous. The nerve bundles were preserved.
I don't want to ask him about his sexual function right now... so...can any of you relate any experience you might have with sex after prostate removal? Do you still have relatively normal erections? Do you ejaculate? Are your orgasms as good as they were prior to surgery?
I've done a bit of net research on the subject, but want to hear this from real live people.
Thanks bunches!


_____________________________

**Daneene**
"The right thing to do isn't always the popular thing to do"
Profile   Post #: 1
RE: Sex after prostate surgery... - 3/31/2008 5:33:26 AM   
slaveluci


Posts: 4294
Joined: 3/2/2007
From: Little Rock, AR
Status: offline 		I'm not sure about after removal, but I do know that even with some prostate problems/medications, it can cause changes.  For instance, I know one man who was still able to orgasm but no semen came out.  It was somehow redirected into his bladder instead.  He said everything still felt just as intense, there was just no mess.  No problems with arousal, erections, or anything like that though................luci

_____________________________

To choose a good book, look in an inquisitor’s prohibited list. ~John Aikin

(in reply to petitespitfire64)
Profile   Post #: 2
RE: Sex after prostate surgery... - 3/31/2008 3:14:39 PM   
petitespitfire64


Posts: 182
Joined: 10/4/2007
Status: offline 		Boy..isn't it GREAT that NO dominants on the site EVER had any prostate issues? Guess none of them have any balls either. *eye roll*

_____________________________

**Daneene**
"The right thing to do isn't always the popular thing to do"

(in reply to slaveluci)
Profile   Post #: 3
RE: Sex after prostate surgery... - 3/31/2008 3:24:16 PM   
SteelofUtah


Posts: 5307
Joined: 10/2/2007
From: St George Utah
Status: offline 		I'm 27 and my Prostate is still in tact I wish I could help but I cannot relate to the issue.

I would say you may want to find a Prostate Removal Support Board and look for a Wives supposrt section and ask this question there I feel you will get an answer faster and there are MANY Prostate removal Support Boards.

Steel

_____________________________

Just Steel
Resident Therapeutic Metallurgist
The Steel Warm-Up © ™
For the Uber Posters
Thanks for the Grammatical support : ) ~ Term

(in reply to petitespitfire64)
Profile   Post #: 4
RE: Sex after prostate surgery... - 3/31/2008 3:41:53 PM   
CalifChick


Posts: 10717
Joined: 10/28/2007
From: California
Status: offline 		Okay, I'm a "real live people".  I know several people who went thru it. But I'm not really sure what their experiences have to do with your friend's experience. You're not going to find any more here than you probably have already found elsewhere on the net.

The nerve bundles were preserved. Doesn't mean they are going to function correctly immediately; they may or may not resume functioning at some point in time.

relate any experience you might have with sex after prostate removal? For some people it works the same as before; for some people it never works correctly again and for still others it is a gray area in the middle.

Do you still have relatively normal erections? As above, for some yes, for some no, for some it would be closer to a semi-erection.

Do you ejaculate?  For some yes, for some no.
 
Are your orgasms as good as they were prior to surgery? For some yes, for some no, for some they are just different than before.

Cali

_____________________________

AKA "The Undisputed Goddess of Sarcasm", "Big Bad Cali" and "Yum Bum". Advisor to the Subbie Mafia, founding member of the W.A.C. and the Judgmental Bitches Brigade, member of the Clan of the Scarlet O'Hair-a's and Team Troll

(in reply to petitespitfire64)
Profile   Post #: 5
RE: Sex after prostate surgery... - 3/31/2008 3:56:56 PM   
ThundersCry


Posts: 892
Status: offline 		I have known two men well that have had their prostates removed...
 
Both, used different ways to achieve *hard ons* afterwards...one used a pecker pump...one used injections...The one using the injections has made more than one trip to the emergency room because his woody would not go away...YiKeS! What most men dream of apparently becomes a nightmare at some point!
 
I was always curious myself what happened afterwards...I MAY know them very well <one being an older brother> however...I never had the guts to ask them if they could achieve orgasm. My thinking was no, because thats where the semen is produced...Its a guy deal...so personal.
 
I have kinda watched all day for responses as well =L=
 
Both said and stated it took a very understanding partner afterwards...
 
Hopefully some here, have SOME kind of information, if NOT...I will ask a doc next time I see one <grins>
 
Good question...thx
 
 

(in reply to CalifChick)
Profile   Post #: 6
RE: Sex after prostate surgery... - 4/1/2008 9:09:28 PM   
petitespitfire64


Posts: 182
Joined: 10/4/2007
Status: offline 		Thanks Cali, Steel, luci and Thunder...you guys rock!

_____________________________

**Daneene**
"The right thing to do isn't always the popular thing to do"

(in reply to ThundersCry)
Profile   Post #: 7
RE: Sex after prostate surgery... - 4/2/2008 2:32:40 AM   
CelticPrince


Posts: 3613
Joined: 4/15/2005
Status: offline
quote:

Boy..isn't it GREAT that NO dominants on the site EVER had any prostate issues? Guess none of them have any balls either. *eye roll*


spitfire,

consider the odds of replies to this one prior to getting sarcastig.

1st, the number of "D"s that contribute mto the boards on a ratio is about 20% of the total
then filter out the age brakets that would rarely be subjected to prostrate removal.
now the potential for experiential replies is in the dumpster.

If it ever happens to me I will send yo a recap but I work hard keeping it healthy.

CP

(in reply to petitespitfire64)
Profile   Post #: 8
RE: Sex after prostate surgery... - 4/2/2008 2:52:50 AM   
eyesopened


Posts: 2798
Joined: 6/12/2006
From: Tampa, FL
Status: offline 		Yanno the times when ya think "too much information"?  Well that happened many years ago when my father has his prostate removed.  My mother was telling me that it was actually an 'improvement' from her view of things because everything worked as it did before except there wasn't any wet spot to sleep in....
Now here's an opportunity to relate that information to another. 

As many have said, it's going to vary from individual to individual.

_____________________________

Proudly owned by InkedMaster. He is the one i obey, serve, honor and love.

No one is honored for what they've received. Honor is the reward for what has been given.

(in reply to petitespitfire64)
Profile   Post #: 9
RE: Sex after prostate surgery... - 4/2/2008 4:28:49 PM   
angelbluewingsz


Posts: 324
Joined: 10/10/2004
Status: offline 		When dating an man who had been through this prior to me meeting him I can't say what it was like before but he did have some problems getting and then maintaining an erection. I can't say if it was because he was 67 or if it was the surgery though . i do believe that everyone is different though no two experiences the same.

(in reply to eyesopened)
Profile   Post #: 10
RE: Sex after prostate surgery... - 4/2/2008 4:45:09 PM   
BOUNTYHUNTER


Posts: 9259
Joined: 2/5/2004
Status: offline 		I will be 61 in August and still have an erection when needed smiles,A friend my age has had the surgery and tells me at times it the same old pecker and at times it fails to snap to attention..Another neighbor of mine, a young 50 had the same surgery and reports that it doesn't work maybe on a rare occasions....I am of the age to give us sex to save my life hell yeah,I would have it in a heart beat ,what sane person wouldn't...I know if we ever came to this bridge Diane would be the same warm loving partner as always and expect most spouses would as well...

_____________________________

US going to hell in a hand basket/

(in reply to angelbluewingsz)
Profile   Post #: 11
RE: Sex after prostate surgery... - 4/2/2008 4:51:33 PM   
kiwisub12


Posts: 4742
Joined: 1/11/2006
Status: offline 		work in a urology surgery  - asked one of the doctors this question , and he said ....   it depends.   You can't tell until everything heals up.   and males can orgasm without ejaculating. Apparently, these are two seperate physiological functions.  He explained it to me , but i wasn't llistening too well, and the anatomy was a bit over my head.

(in reply to BOUNTYHUNTER)
Profile   Post #: 12
RE: Sex after prostate surgery... - 4/2/2008 4:54:13 PM   
kiwisub12


Posts: 4742
Joined: 1/11/2006
Status: offline 		I forgot to say - if the male is impotent, and wishes, there is a penile prosthesis that allows him to dictate his own erections. Just like if there is urinary incontinence after prostate surgery there is a prosthesis that can fix that.  I have seen some men with incontinence worse than any womans.  Think they wait until it is absolutely unbearable before they do anything about it.

(in reply to kiwisub12)
Profile   Post #: 13
RE: Sex after prostate surgery... - 4/3/2008 3:52:47 AM   
Areflectionofyou


Posts: 258
Joined: 4/4/2006
Status: offline 		after removal a man becomes impotent

(in reply to petitespitfire64)
Profile   Post #: 14
RE: Sex after prostate surgery... - 4/3/2008 4:00:51 AM   
MissSCD


Posts: 1185
Joined: 3/10/2007
Status: offline 		This is a question that only his dr can answer.  It could be like a woman having a hystrectomy.   I had mine last year, and could care less about having sexual intercourse.   I am much happier.   Any surgery like that causes your hormones to decline.  My dr, said I could within a couple of weeks of surgery.
 
Regards, MissSCD

(in reply to petitespitfire64)
Profile   Post #: 15
RE: Sex after prostate surgery... - 4/5/2008 8:51:59 PM   
SeaDogret


Posts: 50
Joined: 2/17/2008
Status: offline 		Ok, I seem to be the oldest one around , am 70 and am a cancer prostate survivor. I had radiation treatment, 42 of them, was interesting, in answer to your question, have talked to many men who have the surgery, some can function afterwards, have erections, however do not ejaculate since there is no fluid produced, in my case am a fully functional male, I have good erections except I produce about a third of what I did before radiation, also I had vasectomy many years ago, so my fluid is clear. Back to erection question, it is a yes and no thing, Mental state comes in to play too, each individual is different. BTW my sub is 32 and very happy.

(in reply to MissSCD)
Profile   Post #: 16
RE: Sex after prostate surgery... - 4/6/2008 3:29:04 AM   
Maya2001


Posts: 1656
Joined: 8/22/2007
From: Woodstock ONT,CANADA
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: MissSCD

This is a question that only his dr can answer.  It could be like a woman having a hystrectomy.   I had mine last year, and could care less about having sexual intercourse.   I am much happier.   Any surgery like that causes your hormones to decline.  My dr, said I could within a couple of weeks of surgery.
 
Regards, MissSCD


But just like with men the results vary , for some women sex can become even more enjoyable after a hysterectomy, and less hormones do not necessarily equal less desire.  Results vary from person to person and mental attitude also plays a strong roles in women as well.  Once problems where discovered I was to abstain   until after recovery from surgery  had a 3 month wait prior and 2 months recovery before finally given the okay....  lets say I came charging out of the starting  gate wanting to make up for lost time 


_____________________________

Lead me not into temptation - I can find the way myself

(in reply to MissSCD)
Profile   Post #: 17
RE: Sex after prostate surgery... - 4/7/2008 1:59:30 AM   
CelticPrince


Posts: 3613
Joined: 4/15/2005
Status: offline
quote:

after removal a man becomes impotent


reflection,

That is not universally true!

CP

(in reply to Areflectionofyou)
Profile   Post #: 18
RE: Sex after prostate surgery... - 4/7/2008 2:10:59 AM   
BOUNTYHUNTER


Posts: 9259
Joined: 2/5/2004
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: SeaDogret

Ok, I seem to be the oldest one around , am 70 and am a cancer prostate survivor. I had radiation treatment, 42 of them, was interesting, in answer to your question, have talked to many men who have the surgery, some can function afterwards, have erections, however do not ejaculate since there is no fluid produced, in my case am a fully functional male, I have good erections except I produce about a third of what I did before radiation, also I had vasectomy many years ago, so my fluid is clear. Back to erection question, it is a yes and no thing, Mental state comes in to play too, each individual is different. BTW my sub is 32 and very happy.


Most men as they grow older have a decrees in  fluid.I have noticed over the last few years the amount I ejaculate has decressed..With the penis implant that allows you to pump to achieve an erection is great in my book and if the need ever arose around here that would be the route I would take...

_____________________________

US going to hell in a hand basket/

(in reply to SeaDogret)
Profile   Post #: 19
RE: Sex after prostate surgery... - 4/8/2008 10:19:37 PM   
antipode


Posts: 1787
Joined: 4/19/2004
Status: offline 		With respect to your friend, you won't get any answers here that apply to him.

(in reply to petitespitfire64)
Profile   Post #: 20
Page:   [1]
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Master >> Sex after prostate surgery... Page: [1]
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.094