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CountrySong -> Wealth, Work, and Freedom (3/31/2008 6:54:36 AM)

Wealth is defined as being able to maintain (not necessarily increase) your lifestyle without having to work.

The majority of marital problems have some root in money. Is it any different in the BDSM community?

I'm interested in hearing from subs or slaves especially 24/7 or TPE subs and slaves about how they deal with the financial side of this lifestyle and if money has any influence on the choices you make. For example:
  • Do you plan to work to support yourself or is it important that your Dom(me) can support you?
  • Before you relocate do you check out the financial situation?
  • If you relocate what financial guarantees would you seek?
  • Do you turn over all the money and money decisions to your Dom(me)? (Which by the way I think is nuts.)
  • Have you ever told someone that you would work outside the home but secretly desired to not have to?
  • All things being mostly equal would you choose someone with wealth over someone without wealth?
  • Are yo a spender or a saver? Do you plan to change your money style to be with your Dom(me)?
  • If you are considering having kids does that influence you financial choices with a Dom(me) and how?
  • Would you be willing or interested in working for your Dom(me) like in "The Secretary" or would you prefer to keep your income sources seperate?
  • Have you and your Dom(me) put together a financial plan - wills, trusts, life insurance, health insurance, etc?
  • do you want financial freedom?

Basically how does money fit into your lifestyle choices?

I know I plan on helping my one become a millionairess when I find her and I have the knowledge to do that. I also beleive it is important for her safety and the safety of our family.

I have read some stuff about finances in the forums that make no sense to me so I want to get more input. For instance "Slaves" who support their Dom(me) and let them make all financial choices then when they get let go have nothing! Ouch! Even for the Dom(me)s who would not do that what about sudden death? do people actually plan for this stuff in this lifestyle or do the just wing it?
Thanks for your input.



xxblushesxx -> RE: Wealth, Work, and Freedom (3/31/2008 7:06:49 AM)

All things being equal...you mean if I met two doms and they were both equally...(insert desireable qualities here)...and I was equally attracted to each of them?
Uhm...yeah, why wouldn't I choose the one with more money then?
All things being 'mostly' equal, I would choose the person who made me happiest.
Money is only unimportant to people who have it.
That being said, I've been in love with a poor man, and wouldn't have traded him for the world. (erm...until he cheated on me. AND we were married.)

At this time, I just go to school, and help with what needs to be done around the house. Perhaps after I graduate, I can contribute more to the household; but we enjoy a rather comfortable lifestyle even with just His income.



OmegaG -> RE: Wealth, Work, and Freedom (3/31/2008 7:24:24 AM)

m'Lord and I had a discussion about money this weekend as I am relocating, leaving a well paying job and moving to a more econimically depressed area.  This means that I will have to think more about money then I do now, that I may have to be more careful with a budget and implement cost-savings plans that I don't have to think about now.

One thing became clear in our discussion, for him money is power (which is probably why he saves better then I do) and he wants that power and works to achieve it.  To me money is a requirement for survival and a tool for enjoyment of life. 

We've talked about short term financial goals and long term and depending on the goal, the action plan is different depening on the time line.  I also expect that as the relationship evolves that the goals and actions will evolve with it.

  • Do you plan to work to support yourself or is it important that your Dom(me) can support you? in the short term for sure I will be supporting myself, in the long term, we'll see
  • Before you relocate do you check out the financial situation? yes
  • If you relocate what financial guarantees would you seek? none from him
  • Do you turn over all the money and money decisions to your Dom(me)? (Which by the way I think is nuts.) If his strength in finances is better then mine, why would it be nuts to utilize that strength?
  • Have you ever told someone that you would work outside the home but secretly desired to not have to? No
  • All things being mostly equal would you choose someone with wealth over someone without wealth? Not even a possible scenario
  • Are yo a spender or a saver? Do you plan to change your money style to be with your Dom(me)? I am mostly a spender and yes, I have to change my money style
  • If you are considering having kids does that influence you financial choices with a Dom(me) and how? In my case, I have all the kids I'm ever going to have
  • Would you be willing or interested in working for your Dom(me) like in "The Secretary" or would you prefer to keep your income sources seperate? Taking away the sexual fantasy-- if he had a career where I could enhance it by supporting him, why wouldn't I?
  • Have you and your Dom(me) put together a financial plan - wills, trusts, life insurance, health insurance, etc? not yet
  • do you want financial freedom? I've been financially comfortable and lost my job to have to struggle to make ends meet to get back on my feet again.  While I'm not opposed to being independently wealthy, I don't require it.



LadyHathor -> RE: Wealth, Work, and Freedom (3/31/2008 7:33:35 AM)

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Wealth is defined as being able to maintain (not necessarily increase) your lifestyle without having to work.


Don't agree--that to Me is financial security--and of it means not having to work, then Bill Gates, Warren Buffet and John Warren are the only ones participating in this lifestyle.  Wealth to Me means internal qualities.
 
quote:

The majority of marital problems have some root in money. Is it any different in the BDSM community?



agree, no it isnt any different because you are people in real life and those same people and problems exist when you become WIITWD--I find that some fools think they can ignore or get others to take on the responsibility if debt in tje name of D/s
 
  • Do you plan to work to support yourself or is it important that your Dom(me) can support you?  Everyone in My world has to work and I bring home a damn good income.
  • Before you relocate do you check out the financial situation? I will check references and credit history as I am not a golden ticket and do not want to assume another's debt.
  • Do you turn over all the money and money decisions to your Dom(me)? (Which by the way I think is nuts.)  I will decire what decisions are made in the name of the "house" or on My behalf, I will not have someone using My good name for bad means.
  • All things being mostly equal would you choose someone with wealth over someone without wealth? I would hope that a good submissive knows the difference here.
  • Would you be willing or interested in working for your Dom(me) like in "The Secretary" or would you prefer to keep your income sources seperate?  Everyone needs to comtribute, but I do not supply inconsequentials.
  • Have you and your Dom(me) put together a financial plan - wills, trusts, life insurance, health insurance, etc? You might view this thread----http://www.collarchat.com/m_1684151/mpage_1/key_insurance/tm.htm#1684151

 



tahlly -> RE: Wealth, Work, and Freedom (3/31/2008 7:35:30 AM)


I can not, nor would I wish to; speak for others; so please do not take my words to mean that this is a universal way of doing things.

I am owned property. My owner determines my monetary worth and wealth. My owner determines whether or not I am to contribute to the household in a monetary fashion.

Before I was collared, I worked full time. Now, it is just a hobby. My owner stated that he did not want me working full time or part time; he wanted me to be available when he wanted me. To that end, it was decided by him that he would pay all financial bills; utilities, food, shelter, insurance.

He also saw my need for some alone space time to time. Because of this, he allows me to continue in my chosen career; but only as a hobby and only as long as it does not interfere with my service to him.

I make quite a bit of money from my hobby J . My owner allows me to keep this money as my own; to do with as I wish. He has no influence over it at all.

However, if there is a pressing need of something, he will often come to me and ask that I pay for it; something that I am more than happy to do at any time.



SimplyMichael -> RE: Wealth, Work, and Freedom (3/31/2008 8:18:19 AM)

Most maritial problems and the same goes for bdsm problems is that people don't actually communicate with each other about what is really going on.  They don't allow themselves to be vulnerable nor do they ask the hard questions that sometimes need to be asked.  They live in a giant Kubiki play, all shadows and lies rather than genuinely opening up to their partner/s.

It isn't money that causes problems (it is a symptom 9 times out of 10) of other problems.  Not working hard, being too afraid to leave a job, spending too freely, not being responsible, worrying more about what other's think of you than your partner, etc.

Hell, most people aren't even honest with themselvess and many don't even realize how much they lie to themselves.  Till you get past that point,  you can't even communicate with your partner.



OmegaG -> RE: Wealth, Work, and Freedom (3/31/2008 8:21:26 AM)

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

Most maritial problems and the same goes for bdsm problems is that people don't actually communicate with each other about what is really going on.  They don't allow themselves to be vulnerable nor do they ask the hard questions that sometimes need to be asked.  They live in a giant Kubiki play, all shadows and lies rather than genuinely opening up to their partner/s.

It isn't money that causes problems (it is a symptom 9 times out of 10) of other problems.  Not working hard, being too afraid to leave a job, spending too freely, not being responsible, worrying more about what other's think of you than your partner, etc.

Hell, most people aren't even honest with themselvess and many don't even realize how much they lie to themselves.  Till you get past that point,  you can't even communicate with your partner.


Where is the standing ovation smiley?  These are words that we can all learn from.  Thank you.



Dnomyar -> RE: Wealth, Work, and Freedom (3/31/2008 8:49:47 AM)

The first thing I do when someone ask me to relocate is to check the job market in that area. It is not in my nature to be a kept person. I perfer a submissive work also. Altho there are a few on here that don't need to.



subtee -> RE: Wealth, Work, and Freedom (3/31/2008 8:58:30 AM)

Sweet Dnomyar, is that you??? Great pic!

quote:

I perfer a submissive work also. Altho there are a few on here that don't need to.

How come?



Mercnbeth -> RE: Wealth, Work, and Freedom (3/31/2008 9:44:55 AM)

quote:

Do you plan to work to support yourself or is it important that your Dom(me) can support you?


this slave did not seek out someone to support her financially.  she was willing to earn income, if that is what HE desired.  however, a career of earning income was not high on this slave's personal priority list prior to becoming His slave.  it was, and is, His decision.  if He wished to stay home and pimp this slave out for $$$ or His pleasure, that would be all good, too.  this slave signed up to serve Master, how HE sees fit.  what is important to this slave is that HE makes that decision.

quote:

Before you relocate do you check out the financial situation?


as in, independent credit check, background check, lemme-see-your-tax-return-from-last-year, sort of thing?  No.
Did we discuss how things would be handled financially, once this slave relocated?  Yes.

quote:

If you relocate what financial guarantees would you seek?


this slave relocated without financial guarantees, unless you count shelter, food, clothing and necessary medications as "financial guarantees".

quote:

Do you turn over all the money and money decisions to your Dom(me)? (Which by the way I think is nuts.)


upon becoming His slave, all assets were turned over to Him.  this slave does not earn income...He makes ALL the financial decisions, and this slave trusts Him completely.
 
quote:

Have you ever told someone that you would work outside the home but secretly desired to not have to?


yes, but not in the context of an M/s relationship.  it was when the wee ones were little and this slave didn't want to leave them in daycare.
 
quote:

All things being mostly equal would you choose someone with wealth over someone without wealth?


this slave would choose someone who doesn't measure their worth by $$$.

quote:

Are yo a spender or a saver? Do you plan to change your money style to be with your Dom(me)?


this slave spends what she is allowed to, by those in authority over her.  it has been that way since she was a wee one, so she doesn't know any other "money style".
 
quote:

If you are considering having kids does that influence you financial choices with a Dom(me) and how?


n/a...physically incapable of breeding, and unless the breeder wanted to fork over the hefty sum necessary for extracting eggs and a surrogate, she was not interested in bringing any more into the world.
 
quote:

Would you be willing or interested in working for your Dom(me) like in "The Secretary" or would you prefer to keep your income sources separate?


this slave DOES do work for Master, but she isn't an office slave---this slave does whatever work He assigns her to do at His home.

quote:

Have you and your Dom(me) put together a financial plan - wills, trusts, life insurance, health insurance, etc?


He has, and went so far as to marry this slave for the financial and legal protections married couples can enjoy.
 
quote:

do you want financial freedom?


this slave isn't interested in having anything separate and apart from Master---including finances.  However, if for some reason He changed His mind and desired this slave to earn income and keep it separate from Him, she would.



Poetryinpain -> RE: Wealth, Work, and Freedom (3/31/2008 9:53:51 AM)

I am just re-entering the job market after several years of disability. I am bored silly sitting at home (even with the entertainment of these boards [grin]). If I find a job that I enjoy, I would not willingly give it up to be someone's slave/submissive/lover/wife/whatever. I might consider using my skills and talents to assist him in his work or business, although I don't know if that's always a wise thing to do.

I am past the age of childbearing, so that is not an issue.

I have supported myself for my entire adult life. I wouldn't expect someone else to take over just because he loves me (at least I would hope he loves me). I used to joke that I wanted a man who could support me in the style to which I would like to become accustomed, but that was just a joke. I just want to be sure he can support himself, because I sure as heck am not going to support him.

I would not turn my money over to him to totally control. I would certainly contribute to household expenses on a negotiated basis (50-50, or percentage based on income, etc.). If we were not married, I would maintain my own insurance. If we were married, then insurance, including beneficiary status, would be a thing to investigate and negotiate.

I think I have managed to cover most of your questions, or at least hint at my position on them. Thank you for asking them. I find that coming at topics from different angles helps me solidify my own perceptions and feelings, as well as seeing what others think and feel about them.

pip




TreasureKY -> RE: Wealth, Work, and Freedom (3/31/2008 10:37:19 AM)

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ORIGINAL: CountrySong
  • Do you plan to work to support yourself or is it important that your Dom(me) can support you?
I can and do support myself.  What is important to me is that my dom can support himself... which he does very well, thank you.   [;)]

Whether I continue to support myself is up to him.

quote:

ORIGINAL: CountrySong
  • Before you relocate do you check out the financial situation?
My financial situation was little affected by my move.  I did not take any unusual steps to check into his financial situation as it was not planned for me to rely on his support.

quote:

ORIGINAL: CountrySong
  • If you relocate what financial guarantees would you seek?
I sought none for the same reason as above... I was not relocating to be supported by him.

quote:

ORIGINAL: CountrySong
  • Do you turn over all the money and money decisions to your Dom(me)?
No.  I do seek his advice occasionally, but he has not required control over my income and resources.

quote:

ORIGINAL: CountrySong
  • Have you ever told someone that you would work outside the home but secretly desired to not have to?
I have always worked outside the home but there have been times when I wished not to, such as when my children were little.  It wasn't a secret at the time. 

It would be nice to have the freedom to spend more time and energy on those pursuits which would enrich both FirmhandKY and myself, but that decision rests with him.  Again, it is no secret.

quote:

ORIGINAL: CountrySong
  • All things being mostly equal would you choose someone with wealth over someone without wealth?
A moot question as my choice has been made.

quote:

ORIGINAL: CountrySong
  • Are yo a spender or a saver? Do you plan to change your money style to be with your Dom(me)?
I both spend and save, though I don't save quite as much as I should.  Firm has requested that I try to save more and I do the best that I can without making any sacrifices.  Of course, should Firm decide to take responsibility for my support, my style would change to reflect his wishes.

quote:

ORIGINAL: CountrySong
  • If you are considering having kids does that influence you financial choices with a Dom(me) and how?
No children in our future, but current and expected responsibilities and obligations did factor into my decision.

quote:

ORIGINAL: CountrySong
  • Would you be willing or interested in working for your Dom(me) like in "The Secretary" or would you prefer to keep your income sources seperate?
I currently assist Firm in any manner that I am able.  I am always interested and willing to do more, but it is up to him.

quote:

ORIGINAL: CountrySong
  • Have you and your Dom(me) put together a financial plan - wills, trusts, life insurance, health insurance, etc?
No.  We are not married nor are our finances mingled enough at this time to address those issues.

quote:

ORIGINAL: CountrySong
  • do you want financial freedom?
Who doesn't?  [:D]

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ORIGINAL: CountrySong

Basically how does money fit into your lifestyle choices?


It's important to life in general... regardless of lifestyle choice.



kiwisub12 -> RE: Wealth, Work, and Freedom (3/31/2008 2:36:06 PM)

I moved into my Sirs house (we live in the same area). He pays all bills and food for us. Because of prior responsibilities I contribute little to this, monetary wise. Once I am out of debt - in a couple of years we shall revisit this issue. Since we are both getting older, it may be a matter of investing for retirement. I would like to not work as much but poor financial choices a few years ago negate this (damn credit cards!- devils work they are).  My fault, and now I am paying the price.

If I were to relocate, I would want some assurances that if things didn't work out there would be funds available to allow me to get back to where I lived originally - if I wanted to.

And hell yes - if there were two doms, and things were equal, I would go with the rich one! Do I look stupid? But, in general, money isn't a big issue, unless there isn't enough.

My Sir made the commitment to me that we were not going to argue about money, that he had seen too many relationships go down the toilet because of fighting. Interestingly, my financial acumen is better now than when I met him. My bills get paid on time, and sometimes I actually have a little money at the end of the month. Though I have to watch my ebay habit - can get into severe trouble there! lol.



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Wealth, Work, and Freedom (3/31/2008 7:09:27 PM)

Most people wing through almost everything.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_1372728/mpage_1/key_finances/tm.htm#1373040
Money in 24/7 or TPE

http://www.collarchat.com/m_1154105/mpage_1/key_finances/tm.htm#1154773
finances?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_860729/mpage_2/key_finances/tm.htm#860915
handling slaves money?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_73308/mpage_1/key_money/tm.htm#73308
Where does money come into it?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_85402/mpage_1/key_money/tm.htm#85402
Money Matters

http://www.collarchat.com/m_86294/mpage_1/key_money/tm.htm#86294
The control of money

http://www.collarchat.com/m_140655/mpage_1/key_money/tm.htm#140655
Money and sexism in bdsm

http://www.collarchat.com/m_276420/mpage_1/key_money/tm.htm#276420
financial decisions

http://www.collarchat.com/m_472811/mpage_1/key_money/tm.htm#472811
In the beginning, money issues



petdave -> RE: Wealth, Work, and Freedom (3/31/2008 8:30:45 PM)

Well, a lot of your questions seem to assume that you're not currently in a relationship, or at least that a submissive is prone to bouncing around the country from Dom to Domme with all their belongings in tow...

Personally, i don't turn over financial control. She doesn't want it.

i've never made any secret of the fact that i hate having to work for a living, and would much rather be a male housewife. If you're working, then any submission to your partner comes second to your submission to your boss. My household "to-do" list is over 150 items, and i get home from work too tired to even look at it.

All things being equal, i think anyone would choose a partner with wealth over a partner without... but all things are never equal. We are all special special snowflakes.

i'm a spender (actually, i'm something of a money bulimic; i hoard, then purge), so we've organized our household finances around our different outlooks... i pay a lot of the month-to-month bills, while she does most of the saving, and pays the large low-frequency bills like car insurance. Works out pretty well.

i would definitely work for her if that were an option. i have a lot more respect for her than the clowns that are running my current employer into the ground.

The contingencies are taken care of- insurance, etc. We're responsible adults, or at least play the role.

i don't really care about financial freedom except that i need my hobbies. i work because i need it to make money, but i only care about money because it buys me a house and food and stuff to play with. Since in my case we've been married for four years and together for 13, own a house together, etc., our financial fortunes are pretty linked. If something happened, i'd miss her a lot more than i'd miss the money/stuff.

All things considered, you could probably say that i wing it... but i wing just about everything. Usually turns out ok [8D]



hisannabelle -> RE: Wealth, Work, and Freedom (3/31/2008 8:57:15 PM)

greetings country song,

our situation is pretty fluid neither of has much in the way of assets, wealth, posseession, etc. and we'd like to keep it that way. for the moment we have  separate bank accounts. eventually hopefully over the next couple of years, we'll be living together and payint gother on a mortgage for a house we bought. he has some investments and retirement stuff that i won't know much about for awhile, and i had a small savings to get me through college, most of which has been spent. we both work
  • Do you plan to work to support yourself or is it important that your Dom(me) can support you? it's imoprtnat to me that i'm capable of supporting myself. if we were well off enough, together, for him to support me, and it pleased him, i might do it. but for the main part i'm cofortable with the status quo.
  • Before you relocate do you check out the financial situation?  absolutely,.
  • If you relocate what financial guarantees would you seek?roundtrip airfaire and possible motel fees if things don't work out.
  • Do you turn over all the money and money decisions to your Dom(me)? (Which by the way I think is nuts.) yes, basically. for the immediate future i get to choose how i manage my money, but he often makes suggestions and keeps supervision of the whole affair, iwth the full knowledge that he can take as much control as he wants
  • Have you ever told someone that you would work outside the home but secretly desired to not have to? no
  • All things being mostly equal would you choose someone with wealth over someone without wealth? depends on theiir level of education
  • Are yo a spender or a saver? Do you plan to change your money style to be with your Dom(me)? i'm a spender...i have to work on being a saver/minimalist to fit int with my master.
  • If you are considering having kids does that influence you financial choices with a Dom(me) and how? not so far.
  • Would you be willing or interested in working for your Dom(me) like in "The Secretary" or would you prefer to keep your income sources seperate? i have worked for my dom (yes, like in "the secretary") and it was really enjoyable. hopefully we will continue to work together.
  • Have you and your Dom(me) put together a financial plan - wills, trusts, life insurance, health insurance, etc? no. we both have separate life insurance and he has a will. i know i need to develop a will even if its's just the most basic stuff.
  • do you want financial freedom? no. i do want it in the sense that i don't want to have debt, or to have bill collectors calling...i want to have a little bit of extra  money to be able to do fun stuff. but i don't what the freedom over my finnaces...i feel must better wtih himj in charge of the finnaces.

respectfully,
annabelle.



katie978 -> RE: Wealth, Work, and Freedom (3/31/2008 9:15:43 PM)

    When I was raised, I never learned that it wasn't alright to talk about how much someone makes, or how much money they have. As such, I would never consider moving in with someone without solid knowledge of how much they made and could afford, what bills they'd be coming in with, how much the expected to contribute to the household. The feminist in my couldn't really imagine living in a situation where the man paid for everything-perhaps because I've seen too many situations where that became a bargaining chip in arguements.

   I frankly couldn't imagine moving in with a Dom that didn't expect me to work. Perhaps that's because most 20-year-olds aren't wealthy enough to support themselves, nevermind someone else. In any living-together situation, I'd expect to be expected to evenly contribute to the household.

   I might turn over some money decisions (just because I'm a terrible budgeter), but if I were in a bad situation, I would want to be sure I had an "escape fund"-something I heard mentioned in a different CM post. Basically, enough money to move out and start a life alone.



Lynnxz -> RE: Wealth, Work, and Freedom (3/31/2008 10:25:02 PM)

Wealth is defined as being able to maintain (not necessarily increase) your lifestyle without having to work.

The majority of marital problems have some root in money. Is it any different in the BDSM community?

I'm interested in hearing from subs or slaves especially 24/7 or TPE subs and slaves about how they deal with the financial side of this lifestyle and if money has any influence on the choices you make. For example:
  • Do you plan to work to support yourself or is it important that your Dom(me) can support you?  If I wasn't able to work, I'd feel bad for leeching first of all, then I'd probably go crazy from boredom, stuck at home all day by myself.

  • Before you relocate do you check out the financial situation? Yes
  • If you relocate what financial guarantees would you seek? If the relationship failed, I would not want to be left in the gutter, unable to buy a house, unable to support myself
  • Do you turn over all the money and money decisions to your Dom(me)? (Which by the way I think is nuts.) Probably not
  • Have you ever told someone that you would work outside the home but secretly desired to not have to? Like I said.. I'd probably go nuts haha
  • All things being mostly equal would you choose someone with wealth over someone without wealth? I suppose, if that choice ever came up?
  • Are yo a spender or a saver? Do you plan to change your money style to be with your Dom(me)?  I am a horrible spender, its difficult for me to budget. I could greatly benefit if I had someone to help me control that. (Do you REALLY need a $150 dollar pair of suspension cuffs hun?)
  • If you are considering having kids does that influence you financial choices with a Dom(me) and how?  Children are a hard limit for me :)
  • Would you be willing or interested in working for your Dom(me) like in "The Secretary" or would you prefer to keep your income sources seperate?  That would be a lot of fun I think... I'm actually considering being an office assistant for mine right now. ^_^
  • Have you and your Dom(me) put together a financial plan - wills, trusts, life insurance, health insurance, etc?  No.... but now that I think about it.. I REALLY need health insurance.
  • do you want financial freedom?  Yes.





Daddyslilpookie -> RE: Wealth, Work, and Freedom (4/1/2008 9:30:26 AM)

My Master works, I stay home take care of the house and our child that is a job in itself[;)]



Wildfleurs -> RE: Wealth, Work, and Freedom (4/1/2008 9:39:15 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: CountrySong

Wealth is defined as being able to maintain (not necessarily increase) your lifestyle without having to work.

The majority of marital problems have some root in money. Is it any different in the BDSM community?



I can say for us money is not really the source of any disagreements we ever have.

quote:


  • Do you plan to work to support yourself or is it important that your Dom(me) can support you?


I like being financially self-sufficient.  I'm also driven career wise and have advanced degrees that I and my parents invested into me - I think it would be a waste for me to not work (unless I were ill or far along in a pregnancy).

quote:


  • If you relocate what financial guarantees would you seek?


I'm in a relationship, but I don't think I would expect any financial guarantees if I relocated.  But I also think that it would make sense to relocate into a short term lease in an apartment separate from the person.  From what I understand relocation is difficult enough without throwing finances and a mixed household into things.

quote:


  • Do you turn over all the money and money decisions to your Dom(me)? (Which by the way I think is nuts.)


No but I would if he wanted - he's as good at managing money (if not better) than I am.

quote:


  • Have you ever told someone that you would work outside the home but secretly desired to not have to?


Nope.

quote:


  • All things being mostly equal would you choose someone with wealth over someone without wealth?


Yes.

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  • Are yo a spender or a saver? Do you plan to change your money style to be with your Dom(me)?


Both - although I guess I'd fall more into the spender category.  I wouldn't mind having to change to even more saving to be with my owner.

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  • If you are considering having kids does that influence you financial choices with a Dom(me) and how?


Except for an increased focus on savings and building assets, not really.

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  • Would you be willing or interested in working for your Dom(me) like in "The Secretary" or would you prefer to keep your income sources seperate?


Both my owner and I are creatures that thrive when we have space - I think we'd both go nuts if we worked together!

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  • Have you and your Dom(me) put together a financial plan - wills, trusts, life insurance, health insurance, etc?


No - our health insurance is separate but I do want to tackle advanced directives and wills this summer not just for him and I but also my immediate family.

C~



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