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RE: Collared or Owned? - 4/3/2008 2:37:21 AM

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As someone put it... it depends on who you're talking to.

As i was taught, there's a different between wearing a collar and BEING collared. Just as there's a different between being a submissive and being a slave, or the difference between serving someone and belonging (or being owned) by someone. There's a difference between BDSM and D/s, and there's a difference between calling someone Sir or Master. Even pain isn't the same as being harmed. There's a difference between everything if you really think about. You basically have to have a sit down with who ever you're involved with and match ideas and definitions, do a bit of scrambling around and shuffling before you're ever really on the same page.

me personally... i'm an owned kytten. i'm not collared, though i have many collars from my Owner. i'm a pet. i'm not exactly a submissive, nor am i a slave. You'd have to get to know me, and probably talk to me for hours before you'd understand. But the gist of it is... i was taught once collared, forever collared, and basically my Master has left this world. Even gone, i still feel the love i had for him, and still feel that irreplacable surrender i felt being collared by him. Of course, the loss of him tore me apart and changed me. It's hard to go back to the way things were, and i no longer want a Master. What i want and need is what i have... my dear Owner. i belong, but i maintain my free will... well, some of the time. *giggle*

**Ok, so it's after 3am and i'm suffering from insomnia induced sleep deprivation. A few editted and unscrambled words were called for!**

< Message edited by TwistedLeather -- 4/3/2008 2:39:49 AM >

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RE: Collared or Owned? - 4/3/2008 4:30:23 AM

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Is there a difference betweent being collared and being owned?

It has the same meaning in my relationship.

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RE: Collared or Owned? - 4/3/2008 4:36:25 AM

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For me its simple: Master owned me when he asked me if I trusted him before he tied me up and dripped wax on me and I said yes. He collared my heart when the trust I gave him wasn't broken. The external collar came when I begged for an outward sign of our committment to each other.

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RE: Collared or Owned? - 4/3/2008 4:37:59 AM

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Mmmm lets see. To me a slave is owned. A submissive is my partner with me being the boss.

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RE: Collared or Owned? - 4/3/2008 6:37:14 AM

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In the past I would have said that one is a symbol of the other. I feel differently now.

I was collared in the past, I lived up to the contract that we agreed to, and I served to the very best of my ability. I prided myself on excellent service and attention to detail, I had the protocols down pat. I did what I was expected to do, and did it well.

But now, in hind sight, I can't say I was truly owned. I did what I did out of my own commitment to my decision to serve and was motivated by my own ethics , and pride. I accepted many things I didn't care for, but my reason for not balking was more because of that commitment to my title as slave.

Now I am owned. ( No collar) The difference is that my motivation is based on my feelings for and about him. I wasn't looking for this, not even sure I wanted it, and I certainly have struggled with trying to wrap my mind around it. It's not a decision I made or a contract I agreed to, it's something I just can't seem to help or fight. The depth of what I feel for and with him is a bit scary, but I have absolute faith in him. It's simply out of my hands and firmly in his.

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RE: Collared or Owned? - 4/3/2008 6:40:36 AM

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ORIGINAL: AutumnWolf

Is there a difference betweent being collared and being owned?

For some there is, for some there isn't.

I've been owned for awhile now but I'm not collared.

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RE: Collared or Owned? - 4/3/2008 7:34:16 AM

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For me, being owned is a state of mind. It's the thoughts and emotions that He evokes in me, and how I respond to those thoughts and feelings...... and therefore, how I respond to Him.

My collar is a symbol of our committment to each other and to our relationship...... and a symbol of our love.

And it has fleur de lis' on it and is a symbol of His love of the New Orleans Saints.

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RE: Collared or Owned? - 4/3/2008 12:41:00 PM

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i was collared before i was owned. i accepted his collar as his claim on me and my deserve to serve him. ownership came much later.
as previously stated, it is all individual.

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RE: Collared or Owned? - 4/3/2008 12:44:40 PM

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Is there a difference betweent being collared and being owned?

Only if you want there to be.

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RE: Collared or Owned? - 4/3/2008 2:44:52 PM

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I have heard (not from here, but other place's, and chat rooms). That the submissive, or slave is in control, and if that is true, then who is the collared or own one? Somthing to think about. lol

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RE: Collared or Owned? - 4/3/2008 3:18:27 PM

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ORIGINAL: slaveintraning

I have heard (not from here, but other place's, and chat rooms). That the submissive, or slave is in control, and if that is true, then who is the collared or own one? Somthing to think about. lol

Control is an illusion on both ends of the leash.

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RE: Collared or Owned? - 4/3/2008 4:07:17 PM

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ORIGINAL: Domin8tingUrDrmz

A collar is a symbol. Ownership is a state of being.

Amen to that!

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RE: Collared or Owned? - 4/4/2008 11:46:02 AM

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I was a sub who went to slave with last Master. I didn't want to be a slave but it was either that or letting Him go and I couldn't. I was "under consideration" for a while before I was "collared". The collaring meant I signed a contract and was owned at that point. The collaring was private between myself and Master. I received a collar of jewelry that I wore all the time. So my collar meant that I was owned. Obviously, I am not longer with my last Master. Collaring and ownership are individual.

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