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ORIGINAL: notnewnotexp

For one thing, I have yet to understand what the difference is between being a "dominant man" and being a great big baby!  I mean, what else do you call someone who always has to have his way?  Domme's have to have their own way as well.  It's part of being the Dominant.

There is so much talk on here about how a man should be strong, and that the only way he can be strong is to dominate a woman, to have her under his power.  Like in all the years and years before.  But, with evolution, isn't it possible that now the strong men are the ones who don't need to have a woman under their control?  That they can feel strong and manly with a woman who they feel is equal to them?  And maybe the so-called dominant men are going the way of the neanderthal because in the overall scheme of time, nature has figured out that it doesn't work very well and is moving on.  Are you reading the same forum I am?

I also think it is so self-serving of people on here who are always saying, "We are so much better than vanilla people. Vanilla people could NEVER understand the deepness that we feel in a D/s relationship..."  I've always thought that was a load of crap.  I know plenty of people in vanilla relationships who are very happy and have deep and fulfilling lives.  Once again, are you reading the same forum I am?  When I see coments about Vanilla people not understanding something it's usually related to the fact that they don't understand WIITWD

I know that I will have lots of fuming people wanting to tell me where I can go.  But I am actually looking for well-thought-out, rational answers.
I'm not fuming, I just think you're full of it.  Your profile says you joined to learn and to participate in the forums, but this is only your 3rd post in a year.  The forum IS  NOT the men who send you irritating obnoxious e-mails.

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ORIGINAL: notnewnotexp

What is the difference? After exploring what I was thinking could be for me, I am beginning to determine that a "dominant" guy is probably not what I am looking for.  For one thing, I have yet to understand what the difference is between being a "dominant man" and being a great big baby!  I mean, what else do you call someone who always has to have his way? There is so much talk on here about how a man should be strong, and that the only way he can be strong is to dominate a woman, to have her under his power.  Like in all the years and years before.  But, with evolution, isn't it possible that now the strong men are the ones who don't need to have a woman under their control?  That they can feel strong and manly with a woman who they feel is equal to them?  And maybe the so-called dominant men are going the way of the neanderthal because in the overall scheme of time, nature has figured out that it doesn't work very well and is moving on. I also think it is so self-serving of people on here who are always saying, "We are so much better than vanilla people. Vanilla people could NEVER understand the deepness that we feel in a D/s relationship..."  I've always thought that was a load of crap.  I know plenty of people in vanilla relationships who are very happy and have deep and fulfilling lives. I know that I will have lots of fuming people wanting to tell me where I can go.  But I am actually looking for well-thought-out, rational answers. Thank you for your time.

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ORIGINAL: Lynnxz

*Dives for cover*