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i hope i do not get in trouble for posting here.. - 4/2/2008 11:48:40 PM

lubegirl

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i understand my place and do not which to disrespect MY MASTER or any of the Dom MASTERS by asking this question..
as a slave i undersatns that my MASTERS pleasure is my pleasure and what i desire is not of importance. i love my MASTER with all my heart and soul and live to PLEASE,SERVE and OBEY him and i never want HIM to be disappointed. Sometimes when he is aggressive and rough and spits or pisses all over me it takes me right over the edge and i crave more.,because HE reminds me that i am beneath and that HE is my superior.
i love it when he uses me as his personal footstool or makes me repeat and do things that are degrading.
It is my way of showing him that yes i love him and will do anything to please HIM...and only HIM.
So with all of that being said i try very hard at pushing myself to be obedient..but sometimes like right now for example i am supposed to be in bed asleep..but i am not!
instead i am fantasizing about him punishing me.
Is that wrong? for a slave to misbehave to in order to get punished?
i do not want o lose him or anger him by not being obedient..i just love to see that look in his eyes when he puts me right under his feet where i belong.

running back to bed....i do not want a lashing!
lubegirl

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RE: i hope i do not get in trouble for posting here.. - 4/3/2008 2:02:52 AM

TwistedLeather

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Wait, i'm confused... you're acting out to get punished, then you turn around and say you're heading to bed cause you don't want a lashing? Sounds like a sammy to me!

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RE: i hope i do not get in trouble for posting here.. - 4/3/2008 2:32:11 AM

Focus50

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quote:

ORIGINAL: lubegirl

Is that wrong? for a slave to misbehave to in order to get punished?

Most might say it is (theoretically) wrong for a sub/slave to act out for attention; indeed, that it's (gasp) topping from the bottom...!!!

But me, I tend to look at the one who's supposed to be in charge and on top of their relationship dynamic - us 'D' types.... At the risk of shamelessly generalising, I concluded years ago that the average submissive type is an attention junky, that it's a normal part of the greater submissive "package".... So while a good lil submissive girl "shouldn't" act out for personal attention, I see it more that the one *meant* to be in control shouldn't allow it. Personally, the second I get the feeling I'm being manipulated or coersed into taking charge, the girl is heading for some serious alone time.

I don't see your actions of acting out for personal attention as being "wrong". I suspect it's more of a case that your Master has been "napping at the wheel"....

Focus.

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RE: i hope i do not get in trouble for posting here.. - 4/3/2008 4:21:21 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: lubegirl

Is that wrong? for a slave to misbehave to in order to get punished?

If a girl of Mine where doing so then I would be rather disapointed with her attempts at manipulating Me.... believe Me there would be a punishment, but not one that would be enjoyed nor that would scratch that itch.

If she craves a beating she may beg for that indulgance. If she misbehaves then it is a breach of discipline and will be dealt with... that includes the possibility of DISMISSAL if the brattish behaviour continued.

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RE: i hope i do not get in trouble for posting here.. - 4/3/2008 4:29:37 AM

DiurnalVampire

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quote:

ORIGINAL: lubegirl
Is that wrong? for a slave to misbehave to in order to get punished?

In a word yes. If you deliberately disobey in order to get punished, its wrong. If it werent wrong, it wouldnt be disobedience. If my boys ever did that they would learn quickly that they id not enjoy all punishments. Keep in mind if your Master does find you you act up to get punishments you enjoy, there are a host of much less desireable ones for attention seeking SAMs. Corner time, being ignored, service without physical contact, writing lines... Not nearly as appealing as beatings, eh? And if your goal is to make your Master happy, not behaving is a bad way to do so. I am just guessing but he probably prefers obedience and sadistic discipline on his terms to disobedience and punishment on yours.

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RE: i hope i do not get in trouble for posting here.. - 4/3/2008 4:58:46 AM

wisteriaV

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If you can not communicate your needs to your Dom/Master then there is an issue you need to resolve and fast. Without honest communication this and any type of relationship is doomed. Is it wrong you asked OP? In my view yes it is wrong. Something like that would not only get Master upset with me but I would be severely punished. Master collared a woman not a child.

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RE: i hope i do not get in trouble for posting here.. - 4/3/2008 5:04:30 AM

camille65

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If you need or are craving a beating, why don't you just tell him instead of acting out? I've always found that it is much easier in the end, to go tell him that I need XXX instead of trying to manipulate the situation.

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RE: i hope i do not get in trouble for posting here.. - 4/3/2008 5:26:49 AM

Justme696

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thank you for sharing your fantasy.
(at least that sounds it to me)

you are out of bed without allowance..and you want punishment. So tell him you are out of bed....and the rpob is solved.

< Message edited by Justme696 -- 4/3/2008 5:27:56 AM >

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RE: i hope i do not get in trouble for posting here.. - 4/3/2008 5:56:36 AM

epiphany

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In my relationship (the disclaimer), this just would backfire on me in a very unpleasant way.

My owner expets me to live up to the relationship type I signed on for, that of M/s. As his slave, I am expected to obey. I am expected to do my best to fulfil whatever he has set before me. I am expoected to be honest and open.

If I didn't follow through, there needs to be a valid reason. If he felt for one instant that I was trying to manipulate him, I would be sitting alone and without contact with him for a good long time, plenty of time to think about it. He would consider it deception and dishonesty

I can tell him what I'm thinking, feeling and what I'm craving. We have a strong healthy relationship, we can talk to each other about anything. I can absolutely tell him how hot certain things make me. We have talked about the things that really give me those yummy "I'm his" feelings. I have no reason to trick him or be dishonest with him. He will give me enough of what I want / need because I am important to him. It might not be on my schedule, or everytime I get an itch, but it will be enough.

Frankly, he would be hurt if I did this. It's more than topping fom the bottom. It would speak to my dedication to what I promised him, my ethics in the relationship, and my faith in him to meet my needs.

epiphany

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RE: i hope i do not get in trouble for posting here.. - 4/3/2008 6:58:19 AM

kyraofMists

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quote:

ORIGINAL: lubegirl
as a slave i undersatns that my MASTERS pleasure is my pleasure and what i desire is not of importance.

That is not about being "a slave"; it is about being your master's slave. In my relationship as his slave what I desire is important to him and he has little use for the "your pleasure is my pleasure" mindset. He does not require us to be pleased just because he is pleased.

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instead i am fantasizing about him punishing me.
Is that wrong? for a slave to misbehave to in order to get punished?

Well, I can't speak for other M/s relationships, but in this house if a slave willfully misbehaves they are no longer a slave and if a slave acts out to get attention, they will get the exact opposite of what they are looking for. That type of manipulative behavior has zero tolerance in our house. If I wish for him to engage in SM with me, all I have to do is ask and then he will decide if we will play.

Knight's Kyra

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RE: i hope i do not get in trouble for posting here.. - 4/3/2008 7:03:35 AM

colouredin

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If thats what works for you two then no it isnt wrong, its your relationship, you get to make up the rules, I dunno why you dont just ask him though and i really dont understand the silliness that came accross in this post. If you feel bad doing it then dont do it.

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RE: i hope i do not get in trouble for posting here.. - 4/3/2008 7:17:18 AM

sunshinemiss

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*sniffs the air...

I smell an attention seeker.

*thinks about that axiom I was taught alllllllllllllll those years ago... good girls get spankings, bad girls get ignored.

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RE: i hope i do not get in trouble for posting here.. - 4/3/2008 7:18:25 AM

lubegirl

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I don't see your actions of acting out for personal attention as being "wrong". I suspect it's more of a case that your Master has been "napping at the wheel"....

thank you SIR FOCUS,
My MASTER has not been napping at the wheel HE is why i am HIS crazy in-love face down ass up bitch..i love him with all my heart and soul and he knows exactly how to handle me and keep me on my toes, when i am in his presence i drop to my knees face down ass up and crawl very very low for him.i know my place and do not ever want to disrespect HIM in anyway. i value him more than myself and will spend the rest of my life doing everything i possibly can to keep him amused. i need him more than he will ever need me. i strongly believe he is MY ONE TRUE MASTER. know one can make me submit and dance the way HE does.
i was wrong for being out of bed last night after he told me to go to sleep, trying to manipulate him for my own sadistic pleasure us wrong. HE is just so sexy when he gets angry and is forceful and i love it.
i was wrong for putting my pleasure before his command to go to bed...but he did give me permission to play with HIS pussy before i go to sleep and my mind began to wander and rememeber how cruel he can also be at times.
i would never want to upset him and be punished by being ignored.
If you can not communicate your needs to your Dom/Master then there is an issue you need to resolve and fast. Without honest communication this and any type of relationship is doomed. Is it wrong you asked OP? In my view yes it is wrong. Something like that would not only get Master upset with me but I would be severely punished. Master collared a woman not a child.

wisteria V , with all due respect..i am very sorry that you would be severely punished if you were to come out and post something like this. i mean no disrespect to my MASTER, my MASTER is STRICT , POWERFUL ..but also very loving and HE understands that i am a puppy. i am in training.
if HE were to punish me for this i may not be so crazy inlove with him. i will do anything for my MASTER..ANYTHING.
and He has power over me, a very tight grip.
i am a strong woman that has given another human complete control over my very being, and not only in a sexual way. i am committed to HIM in every aspect of my life.-
if we were having problems with communication we would not be as we are...we are sizzling hot and moving in a rapid speed and somethings are not as much fun as others but i will learn to love them because they please MASTER.
and i am his happy face down ass up bitch...i know my place.

Thank you SirRavenmuse, my MASTER is so much smarter than me and most men i know, manipulating him would be similar to trying to get him off of me when he is raping me. It is impossible.

i was very aroused last night as i am today and just wondered how slaves are treated when they misbehave in order to get punished, that is all forgive me Lords if i was out of line and most importantly please forgive me MASTER if you read this and are disappointed SIR. i am just a puppy and i promise to get better.

at YOUR feet SIR face down ass up,
kissing YOUR feet.
slave

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RE: i hope i do not get in trouble for posting here.. - 4/3/2008 8:00:56 AM

domahpet

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*coughcoughcough*
this is a late April Fools joke, right?
right?
please???

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RE: i hope i do not get in trouble for posting here.. - 4/3/2008 9:12:18 AM

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You need more of his attention and you aren't able to get it except by disobeying. That's a problem in the relationship and you need to sit down and talk openly with him about it. Because otherwise you'll keep being disobedient if that's the only way you can get your needs met.

Oh and that "only his desires matter" crap? B.S., you're seeing for yourself that it doesn't work, that you are acting out to get what you need. Either you're both happy in the relationship or it won't last.

Learn to communicate.

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RE: i hope i do not get in trouble for posting here.. - 4/3/2008 9:49:46 AM

ownedgirlie

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quote:

ORIGINAL: lubegirl
i will do anything for my MASTER..ANYTHING.

You do see the irony here, yes? You will do anything except stay in bed?

You will do anything except obey when you want your own desires met?

Think about it.

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RE: i hope i do not get in trouble for posting here.. - 4/3/2008 9:50:43 AM

charlotteS

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One of my biggest fantasies initially was of being punished. It was a hard thing for me to figure out because I knew I wanted to be pleasing and didn't want to act out to be punished but I also couldn't stop fantasizing about it. I have come to realize that what it is I love about being punished is the reminder of my place, the tangible and complete knowledge of his control over me. If I want a beating I can certainly ask for one and do sometimes but I always found that advice to sit funny with me because it wasn't the beating I wanted when I craved being punished. I am a bit of a masochist but it is not the pain I enjoy when being punished. It is that look in his eyes as you described, his power and strength, my helplessness. I am finding now that there are others ways to feel his authority over me without having to be punished. I don't really enjoy the times that he has to correct me but I still enjoy the fact that he can and does.

So I would say that if it is the beating you are craving then by all means, learn to ask for it instead of acting out. If it is that sense of control over you then perhaps you can talk to him and see if he can't find a way to help you feel that in those times you crave without having to act out. Unless he enjoys the acting out for punishment dynamic in which case please carry on.

charlotte

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RE: i hope i do not get in trouble for posting here.. - 4/3/2008 9:50:47 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

quote:

ORIGINAL: lubegirl
i will do anything for my MASTER..ANYTHING.

You do see the irony here, yes? You will do anything except stay in bed?

You will do anything except obey when you want your own desires met?

Think about it.

Some girls have an obedience fetish-catch 22.

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RE: i hope i do not get in trouble for posting here.. - 4/3/2008 10:01:04 AM

YoungWolf

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Heya yes I am a bit new here. For the punishment part, Umm if I were you, I'd stop with trying to get attention that way. My Master would not put up with that for a second. Thats just a release wish. My Master is very unique with a Dark sence of humor but does NOT put up with brat slaves. Be open with your Master and speak when he says you can speak. Before you know it, your plans for punishment will not be what you want.

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RE: i hope i do not get in trouble for posting here.. - 4/3/2008 10:15:04 AM

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What charlotte said!

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ORIGINAL: charlotteS

One of my biggest fantasies initially was of being punished. It was a hard thing for me to figure out because I knew I wanted to be pleasing and didn't want to act out to be punished but I also couldn't stop fantasizing about it. I have come to realize that what it is I love about being punished is the reminder of my place, the tangible and complete knowledge of his control over me. If I want a beating I can certainly ask for one and do sometimes but I always found that advice to sit funny with me because it wasn't the beating I wanted when I craved being punished. I am a bit of a masochist but it is not the pain I enjoy when being punished. It is that look in his eyes as you described, his power and strength, my helplessness. I am finding now that there are others ways to feel his authority over me without having to be punished. I don't really enjoy the times that he has to correct me but I still enjoy the fact that he can and does.

So I would say that if it is the beating you are craving then by all means, learn to ask for it instead of acting out. If it is that sense of control over you then perhaps you can talk to him and see if he can't find a way to help you feel that in those times you crave without having to act out. Unless he enjoys the acting out for punishment dynamic in which case please carry on.

charlotte

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