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Eager78 -> Not Sure where I fit (4/3/2008 12:06:32 PM)
Iam from a family that would never understand this but I cant keep denying myself. Iam 30 years old and wish to find a woman twice my age to be with. In the lifestyle or not I would be satisfied and feel like I was fullfilling a desire that I have had since a was a small boy. I guess my question is how might I find someone. I have been in the lifestyle for 7 yrs and never been owned.

thetammyjo -> RE: Not Sure where I fit (4/3/2008 12:15:26 PM)
The first response from me is a question and an general observation. First, how specific is this desire? I mean, do you really mean you want a woman exactly twice your age? Here's the observation: The more specific our interests and kinks are, the less chances there are for us to find what we are looking for. The more open you can be to finding a greater variety of partners, the more people will fit into those criteria. The more limited your list of what you are looking for or the more specific that list, the less people will fit into those categories. So, try a self-reflection exercise. Write down what you have been fantasizing about and then try to pull out what is really essential to those fantasies. Is it really a woman twice your age or merely an older woman? Is it really connected BDSM or primarily to an age difference? Are you looking for a fantasy to be fulfilled or a long-term dynamic? Is this desire from a healthy place, a positive place, does it make you feel good? How much of these interests come from your childhood and from porn? How realistic are your expectations? Ask yourself questions like this. When you understand yourself more you'll have a better chance of being able to communicate with potential partners and thus increase the chances of success.

Pyrrsefanie -> RE: Not Sure where I fit (4/3/2008 12:29:16 PM)
Better start soon, otherwise the only ones twice your age will be bordering on necro.

MistressVnus -> RE: Not Sure where I fit (4/3/2008 12:35:16 PM)
quote: Better start soon, otherwise the only ones twice your age will be bordering on necro. Pffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffff. I just spit water all over the screen. Perhaps that's what he wants. Some old lady with money who is going to croak right after they get married. In that case, try match.com and go for the geriatric section.

ShaktiSama -> RE: Not Sure where I fit (4/3/2008 1:13:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Pyrrsefanie Better start soon, otherwise the only ones twice your age will be bordering on necro. Oh, easy to joke now! When you get to be an evil old hag yourself, you might just enjoy sinking your talons into a toothsome young buck of 30. [;)] I say go for it, OP! Reach for that dream, shine on you crazy diamond. [:D] Nothing wrong with an older domme, if I do say so myself. And I think posts like this are important, because quite honestly I get sick of people who take the attitude that dominant women should check out at 40 and stop wanting or expecting the sex, service and sadism they liked when they were youngun's.

hopelesslyInvo -> RE: Not Sure where I fit (4/3/2008 1:20:37 PM)
i don't think i would completely limit who i would date just based on age, but for some reason i feel so much more comfortable with someone who is older than me.

atursvcMaam -> RE: Not Sure where I fit (4/3/2008 1:44:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Pyrrsefanie Better start soon, otherwise the only ones twice your age will be bordering on necro. Yikes, not only is my computer all covered with coffee, i did the math and realized that i should probably look for a woman half my age. Было бы хорошо, если бы Она также говорила на русском языке. On the other hand old age and wisdom (or was that treachery) will beat youthful enthusiasm every time.

moldedurway -> RE: Not Sure where I fit (4/3/2008 2:57:26 PM)
Exactly as i argee with ShaktiSama about time everyone considers that age is not a defination on to base things ..always be open ..id say ...

Pyrrsefanie -> RE: Not Sure where I fit (4/3/2008 3:04:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: atursvcMaam Было бы хорошо, если бы Она также говорила на русском языке. I giggled. [:D] Good luck with that one. Although y'know, we Ukrainian women are WAY better than Russians.

atursvcMaam -> RE: Not Sure where I fit (4/3/2008 3:50:36 PM)
No doubt about Ukrainian Women, Ma'am. Thanks for the giggle. in hopes to the OP, i learned Russian when the whole area was considered the Soviet Union (i was old then, too), and i am not quite dead yet.

PsyVamp -> RE: Not Sure where I fit (4/3/2008 5:51:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ShaktiSama And I think posts like this are important, because quite honestly I get sick of people who take the attitude that dominant women should check out at 40 and stop wanting or expecting the sex, service and sadism they liked when they were youngun's. Dang, point me to the geezer's room ...lol. Oh, and btw- I enjoy all of it more now that I just hit the other side of 40. OP, if you know what you want, go for it. It may take a while though, like TheTammyJo said, the more you limit yourself, the more difficult it becomes to find what you want. Lady Jag

petpete -> RE: Not Sure where I fit (4/3/2008 10:37:49 PM)
i will have to go with Pyrrs's answer... i don't think for what you looking for you can wait any longer unless you start varying your age group... Good luck anyway..

Pyrrsefanie -> RE: Not Sure where I fit (4/3/2008 10:39:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PsyVamp Oh, and btw- I enjoy all of it more now that I just hit the other side of 40. I can only hope that when I'm 40 I'm still fucking like a rabbit. And maybe have an army of cute cabana boys to clean my pool. [:D]

MistressVnus -> RE: Not Sure where I fit (4/3/2008 10:42:05 PM)
quote: [And I think posts like this are important, because quite honestly I get sick of people who take the attitude that dominant women should check out at 40 and stop wanting or expecting the sex, service and sadism they liked when they were youngun's. /quote] Oh, yes!! I agree wholeheartedly. What exculdes me from all the excitement about this post is that it isn't sex, sadism, or service he speaks about seeking.!! Sounds more like a "mommy" thing or just the "older woman" fetish.

MistressOfGa -> RE: Not Sure where I fit (4/4/2008 12:37:57 AM)
quote: I can only hope that when I'm 40 I'm still fucking like a rabbit There is really no reason that you shouldnt be fucking like crazy at the age of 50, 60 or 70 for that matter. I am more sexual at 50 than I was at 40. It also helps to have a very hot young man who rocks your world :) MoGa

chezzy52 -> RE: Not Sure where I fit (4/4/2008 2:20:01 AM)
Pyrsefanie,whether you were joking or not..i am offended.Thirty years ago when i was 25 and the folks were riding me to find a nice girl,the answer was i had all the time in the world.Well i grabbed a kleenex and blew my nose and voila..i am 55.Yes it goes by that fast.So you enjoy yourself while you can and when you can and above all,respect your elders cause 30 years from now when you are making your 35,375th posting here some young whipper snapper will be saying the same thing to you.Life does have a way of biting you in the rump..or...IIWII.

MsStarlett -> RE: Not Sure where I fit (4/4/2008 5:17:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa There is really no reason that you shouldnt be fucking like crazy at the age of 50, 60 or 70 for that matter. I am more sexual at 50 than I was at 40. It also helps to have a very hot young man who rocks your world :) MoGa AMEN Sister! I think I'm a lot better now that I'm passed 45. When I was a teen to twenty's, I spent far to much time denying what I really wanted and molding myself into whatever a man wanted me to be. In my thirties, I tried to hide my sexuality completely and be the wife, mother, business person that 'society' told me I should be. Because, well, we all know that the American Society - or at least the media - screams at us constantly that if you are a female over 30 years of age and/or over 115 lbs - you should roll over and die or become 'just a mom' or maybe a public service worker because no one will ever find you sexually attractive! If you missed that little window between 18 and 25 to be hot, to frelling bad! Last year, when I was examining my life, I realized that 45 was only HALF my expected life span. I sure as hell didn't want my life to start sliding down hill from where I was... So I got my fat happy ass in a gym and started building my body back up. With physical strength, my mental, emotional and sexual 'power' returned. It's never to late to start over. I plan on being the Hottest Mama at the Old folks home!

Madame4a -> RE: Not Sure where I fit (4/4/2008 5:52:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa quote: I can only hope that when I'm 40 I'm still fucking like a rabbit There is really no reason that you shouldnt be fucking like crazy at the age of 50, 60 or 70 for that matter. I am more sexual at 50 than I was at 40. It also helps to have a very hot young man who rocks your world :) MoGa oh.. wow.. now I'm actually looking forward to 50! I'm not sure its possible for me to be more sexual than I am now.. wooo hoo!

MaamJay -> RE: Not Sure where I fit (4/4/2008 5:57:29 AM)
Well I am 51, Master is 36 and the sub I am talking to is 34 ... so what's the big deal? To the OP: It's eminently feasible ... don't be too specific about wanting exactly twice your age simply to keep the gene pool a bit more open ... not that I expect to be hanging up My flogger and strap on when I hit 60! Just expect to take some time finding the RIGHT Domme ... like everyone else has to! Maam Jay aka violet[A]

Dnomyar -> RE: Not Sure where I fit (4/4/2008 8:06:17 AM)
OP you need to meet my brother. All of the women he has dated has been way up in age. Older than me even. At first we thought it was wierd but it is his thing so more power to him. For all of you younger women out there don't worry your sex drive will not deminish with age. If you think is is contact me. Grins.

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