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RE: How do you? - 4/3/2008 7:54:03 PM

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(okay sorry...you can have the dorks...I'll take the dross~~~~tee hee)

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RE: How do you? - 4/3/2008 7:56:35 PM

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more dorks for me wooohooo....

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RE: How do you? - 4/3/2008 7:58:05 PM

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*ahem*
i saw him first!

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RE: How do you? - 4/3/2008 7:59:53 PM

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RE: How do you? - 4/3/2008 8:18:45 PM

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what the heck is 40rock???

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RE: How do you? - 4/3/2008 8:35:09 PM

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If your a Dom in a relationship with a woman who says she is a submissive and she begins to top from the bottom, how would you change it so she couldn't do so, or stop her?

He'd talk to me about it. One person's topping from the bottom is another person's trying to make sure their needs are met.

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RE: How do you? - 4/4/2008 2:39:04 AM

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sheeesh...i hate it when a sub baits a dom. Has to be a real bottom feeder to do that...imho. First she lures him in, shows alot of interest in his pole, etc. If i was the op i would toss her back. He might be floundering for a bit, feeling like a fish out of water, but there are plenty of fish in the sea.

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RE: How do you? - 4/4/2008 2:45:56 AM

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OMG! Stop pushing your "barra" before Mundi! I can see I'll have to put you all back in your "plaice" ...

Because we're all full to the bream (pronounced brim) with fish jokes! Send for the sturgeon!

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RE: How do you? - 4/4/2008 2:48:15 AM

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OMG! Stop pushing your "barra" before Mundi! I can see I'll have to put you all back in your "plaice" ...

Because we're all full to the bream (pronounced brim) with fish jokes! Send for the sturgeon!

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RE: How do you? - 4/4/2008 3:54:10 AM

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Ohh my Cod this thread just cracked me up.

to the OP
I trout this is a one-sided issue..
and so perhaps ask yourself if someone is in control, other than your submissive ...

if shes topping you ...someones letting her do it.

perhaps it could be as shrimp-le as asking her about it and talking it all out. She could be floudering for answers in her mind too..

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RE: How do you? - 4/4/2008 5:25:15 AM

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If your a Dom in a relationship with a woman who says she is a submissive and she begins to top from the bottom, how would you change it so she couldn't do so, or stop her?

As easy as it would be to chum the waters for all these pun sharks and sting rays, I am going to try and inject a serious answer here.

You don't give us much to go on regarding how she is TFTB or how long you have been together so we can only offer general advice.

If she is saying things like you need to undo my left hand now, check the hand. She may not be topping but trying to let you know that the circulation is restricted.

If she is saying something like a little lower, harder, you hit like a girl..then you are not reaching her. Her pain tolerance may be higher than you are anticipating and she is trying to let you know.

If she is saying, Stop I can't handle that, then the opposit may be true. For whatever reason, she can't handle what is being done right then.

BDSM is a learning experience. Each and every Sub and SAM is different and what works for one isn't going to work for another. Without input from them, how in the heck are you to know? Heck WE are different from ourselves from day to day, somedays I could laugh in the eye of the Marquise DeSade others a clamp is too much. If I don't let Master know, he can't answer BOTH our needs and one of us is going to build resentment (depends on who gets left out of the pleasure circuit).

Stop and consider that what she is doing is not topping but communicating and listen. Consider when she is saying something, what is going on and then decide how to handle it. Just sticking a gag in her mouth may shut her up, but it may also shut out the input you need and ultimately the relationship.

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RE: How do you? - 4/4/2008 5:26:58 AM

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sheeesh...i hate it when a sub baits a dom. Has to be a real bottom feeder to do that...imho. First she lures him in, shows alot of interest in his pole, etc. If i was the op i would toss her back. He might be floundering for a bit, feeling like a fish out of water, but there are plenty of fish in the sea.

holly in dire need of coffee

Officially I love you :P that made me laugh so so so much.

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RE: How do you? - 4/4/2008 8:05:33 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sirsholly

sheeesh...i hate it when a sub baits a dom. Has to be a real bottom feeder to do that...imho. First she lures him in, shows alot of interest in his pole, etc. If i was the op i would toss her back. He might be floundering for a bit, feeling like a fish out of water, but there are plenty of fish in the sea.

holly in dire need of coffee

LMAO!!!!! Great advice!
To the OP: Try a new "line"

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RE: How do you? - 4/4/2008 8:12:42 AM

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hmmm.... smack em upside the head with a large rotting fish?? that might do the trick ; )

Either that, or wrap her in cling film, stand her in the corner of the room and proceed to throw endless amounts of kippers at her.

It works for me.

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RE: How do you? - 4/4/2008 8:22:01 AM

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Your all swimming upstream if you expect the OP to clear the murky waters of his post.

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RE: How do you? - 4/4/2008 8:27:06 AM

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Perhaps this device would help :

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RE: How do you? - 4/4/2008 8:37:03 AM

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For the OP -- More information would be useful

For the rest of you --
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uAJA4Ur7Xy8

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RE: How do you? - 4/4/2008 8:41:22 AM

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And they think I was wrong/heartless to divorce 6 women at this age!! LOL. Cut her loose and she will crawl back to you.

6?? holy carp.

hmmm wait, did they get to keep the house and get alimony?? if so can I be divorce #7?

lmao

Actually i can't say anything bad about that, my dad has had 8 wives, but the last 7 were only common law. Divorce and marriage is just too damn expensive if you are going to trade out spouses every 7 years. (his words not mine) hehe

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RE: How do you? - 4/4/2008 9:14:55 AM

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*grins evilly for starting the fish thread*

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RE: How do you? - 4/4/2008 9:37:41 AM

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i think i better hit the pike........

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