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RE: Self-Bondage and Domination - 4/4/2008 10:05:35 PM

HandSolo

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...and far more recently than that, Micheal Hutchens. I've read that auto-erotic asphyxia fatalities are stupendously under-reported, and could account for a couple thousand deaths a year.

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RE: Self-Bondage and Domination - 4/5/2008 12:46:00 AM

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MissVnus,seeing that BDSM is all about trust and giving of one's self,i find it hard to trust myself at even attempting self-bondage let alone a Domina although obviously,she would know alot more about it than myself and in time i would trust completely before meeting for a session or signing a contract to be in service.

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RE: Self-Bondage and Domination - 4/5/2008 5:28:00 AM

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quote:

I wanted to try self-domination once, but then I ordered myself not to.

Hahahahahahaha!! And, I can't help it....I just realized they have added even MORE new smilies!!! And, this topic would certainly gut the grade for a certain show....so here goes......

TOOOOOOOOOOOOO FUNNY
Thank you Admin for all the new smilies!!

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RE: Self-Bondage and Domination - 4/5/2008 5:30:02 AM

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,i find it hard to trust myself at even attempting self-bondage

That's all I want to hear. It just isn't a good thing.

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RE: Self-Bondage and Domination - 4/5/2008 5:34:31 AM

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An orange, a shopping bag, a pair of stockings and some electric wire: what could POSSIBLY go wrong?

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RE: Self-Bondage and Domination - 4/5/2008 5:48:27 AM

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One question...do female submissives also partake in self-bondage? While reading thru this topis only male subs were mentioned. Just curiosity. ~shrugs~
Oh, and OMG...i did NOT need to see that poor man, even if he got what he deserved..maybe...ugh...shuddering...gagging too much to think about it.

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RE: Self-Bondage and Domination - 4/5/2008 5:53:27 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: subconscious1

One question...do female submissives also partake in self-bondage? While reading thru this topis only male subs were mentioned. Just curiosity. ~shrugs~
Oh, and OMG...i did NOT need to see that poor man, even if he got what he deserved..maybe...ugh...shuddering...gagging too much to think about it.

Does masturbating with clothespins afixed count?

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RE: Self-Bondage and Domination - 4/5/2008 5:57:09 AM

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LOL, probably not, but sounds like a pretty cool idea! Why didn't i think of that?!?!?!?!

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RE: Self-Bondage and Domination - 4/5/2008 6:02:26 AM

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This is far from a "funny" topic but I cannot help it.....just reading the messes that you put yourself in, HandSolo, makes me laugh.

And understand, I am absolutely not laughing "at" you. In fact I applaud the fact that you're "right out there" with it. Great educational value.

But still......

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RE: Self-Bondage and Domination - 4/5/2008 6:19:44 AM

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quote:

do female submissives also partake in self-bondage? While reading thru this topis only male subs were mentioned. Just curiosity. ~shrugs~

Great questions. And, only the ladies can really answer that for you.

But, in my experience, it has mostly been men. I DO know of a female or two who will paddle themselves from time to time. (Remember the scene from "The Secretary?") But that's about the extent of my knowledge regarding females. Which is NOT to say some don't. I've just not had any first hand knowledge of any.

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RE: Self-Bondage and Domination - 4/5/2008 6:27:54 AM

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In fact I applaud the fact that you're "right out there" with it. Great educational value.

I'm glad he had the guts to put it out there as well. Might save someone's life.
I'm also hoping it will pull a few more out of the shadows who are lurking and COULD contribute in the same manner.
I KNOW they are out there. It is more common than many realize.

And, edgepassion, I understand where you're humor is coming from. Any "ooooppss" can be a good *chuckle* after the fact, as long as no one was injured. But geeeesh....these types of "ooooppps" have a little too much of a possible "OMG" factor to them, for me.

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RE: Self-Bondage and Domination - 4/5/2008 2:12:44 PM

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First i think it is scary thing to do , on the otherhand i do not feel that the sub who does self domination gets the same feeling of being dominated by another person .

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RE: Self-Bondage and Domination - 4/5/2008 2:29:15 PM

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Like I said: erections make me retarded.

Which reminds me, in the more cautionary vein this thread is intended to serve: I joined Mensa immediately out of high school to fluff up my resume. My IQ tested at 150. I have an unusually high capacity for handiwork and innovation. I hold two indendentantly sought patents .Each of the mishaps occurred after weeks of research, multiple dry-runs or partial ties, and hours of deliberation. The latter disasters were planned based on knowledge gleaned from my earlier, overwhelmingly safely accomplished sessions. Yet the most dangerous failure was the last one, fueled by a dropped nail and a little impatience. It is incredibly difficult to bind one's self such that one can not wiggle free prior to a preplanned release, and not be permenantly imprisoned or injured by the bondage, and the stakes are very high.

I don't mind sharing these tales with the imaginary people that inhabit the Internet. They are probably a needed service, considering that most self-bondage horror stories on the web have a "...and then my next door neighbor's teenaged daughter came in the room! She laughed at my plight, and immediately called the rest of her cheerleading squad..." or some similar crap.

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RE: Self-Bondage and Domination - 4/5/2008 4:35:10 PM

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I don't mind sharing these tales with the imaginary people that inhabit the Internet.

HandSolo....feetslave..near the end of the thread had a good point of wonderment. What does one get out of self-bondage to begin with? How can it be as fun as letting someone else have the control. Is it the risk factor, in and of itself, that makes it exciting? Or, is it done out of some sort of shame and not wanting to tell anyone of your desires? Or, is it done out of necessity because you haven't found someone else?
Just WHAT propels someone to take those risks?
Since you're the only admitted one here (thank goodness for you...you are saving a life and don't even know it) only you are really qualified to answer that question.

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RE: Self-Bondage and Domination - 4/5/2008 4:37:41 PM

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First i think it is scary thing to do , on the otherhand i do not feel that the sub who does self domination gets the same feeling of being dominated by another person .

It's my hunch it's done out of necissity to have an intense need fulfilled. And/or, it's the risk factor, in and of itself. However, since I don't participate in this, I really can't answer. SO, I've posed the question to HandSolo. We'll have to see what his take is. I'm curious myself. Good question....or thought provoking wonder.

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RE: Self-Bondage and Domination - 4/5/2008 5:43:26 PM

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Yeah, pretty much, it's just a substitute for actual play, since I've never located a play partner. In my case, my "submissiveness" is more about being challenged without my direct control than it is about setting myself up as subservient to another. I'm sure the thrill would pale in comparison to the most tame play with a Domme, but I sometimes wonder if in a way, there is more intensity in self-bondage. Once I've committed myself, and completed the bondage, there is no safeword, no negotiation, no mercy, no second thoughts. I can wait it out, or escape.

But more on-topic, it's the only way I can simulate the will of another person. If I play with pain by myself, I will always yeild at some point, and completely at my whim. While the exploration of the sensations can be entertaining and instructive, the fully voluntary nature of auto-masochism undermines the effect I seek. Also, by its nature, there is a strictly enforced delay of gratification...

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RE: Self-Bondage and Domination - 4/5/2008 7:35:15 PM

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I enjoy the fact that each failed attempt ends with "No more of that." At Hand is smart enough to learn from his mistakes. I would hate for him to become a Darwin Award Winner.

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RE: Self-Bondage and Domination - 4/5/2008 9:24:22 PM

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Once I've committed myself, and completed the bondage, there is no safeword, no negotiation, no mercy, no second thoughts. I can wait it out, or escape. But more on-topic, it's the only way I can simulate the will of another person.

My ideas were close. But this puts it in a much clearer light. Thanks for the explanation.

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RE: Self-Bondage and Domination - 3/19/2010 2:16:00 AM

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Im a girl that enjoys self bondage. but ii don't seem to have the same kind of kinks as the people who've commented before. when I try something, I like to put myself in some potential risk of being seen. it isn't generally a question of if I can get out, but rather if I can get out before im discovered. it does limit the life threatening aspect I think, however it comes with dangers of its own. lol. I had always thought it was a relatively common practice among females into bondage, I guess not lol. I have tried self bondage in one way or another since childhood, I don't really know why. actually I signed up here to find suggestions and new ideas. that's been a pretty epic failure so far. im really enthralled with lhaving to work for my own escape.

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RE: Self-Bondage and Domination - 3/19/2010 8:10:08 AM

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