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Daddyslilpookie -> Need some advice (4/4/2008 7:47:40 PM)
I have a question for all Masters and Mistresses and slaves, my question is my Master says we can only play once a month for now, I think that is too little he says we have to be fair to my parents and our daughter because we live with them. When we play they take our daughter off so we can have private time. It is very expensive to live here and we are saving money to put down for a desposit to get out and get our own place. I am obeying Him like a good slave should. Once amonth is better than nothing at all[&o]. are there others out there in this situation like us? who gets little playtime?

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: Need some advice (4/4/2008 7:55:04 PM)
Always be grateful for what you have...for as with any facet of life, there are others who have it worse...and of course there are others who have it better too!!...Just remember..you are safe in your Masters arms every day and night...how bad can that really be?...Tempting

Sirandlil1 -> RE: Need some advice (4/4/2008 8:05:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Daddyslilpookie I am obeying Him like a good slave should but it is so hard. and where does it say that you should only obey when it is easy??????? [sm=banghead.gif]

msterfixer -> RE: Need some advice (4/4/2008 8:12:41 PM)
whine, whine, whine

CalifChick -> RE: Need some advice (4/4/2008 8:16:05 PM)
When my older daughter was little, my mom lived with us. To cut back her "alone time" with her granddaughter to once a month would have been punishing my MOM. I hope your parents don't feel the same way. Cali

PanthersMom -> RE: Need some advice (4/4/2008 8:35:37 PM)
sometimes you must sacrifice to get through difficult times. this is one of them. it could be worse, you could be like so many military families, seperated for long periods of time and not knowing if you'll see each other again. this seems like a small price to pay for living in harmony with your family. PM

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Need some advice (4/4/2008 8:52:25 PM)
You are collectively making the choice that sacrificing now to save money is better for you than spending money for a lesser place independently (where you'd still have to hire a babysitter or get family to sit). AND that choice is also putting you in the position of asking for help and having the parents share their home once again with their grown child- IMO a huge favor. Don't blow it. Sure it sucks, but it could be loads worse. You make one choice and it has consequences.

littlebitxxx -> RE: Need some advice (4/4/2008 8:55:11 PM)
Sometimes it really sucks when life gets in the way of planning stuff. Once a month is better than nothing and someday it will get better.

YourhandMyAss -> RE: Need some advice (4/4/2008 8:58:00 PM)
Why can't you simply play quieter and play while she is asleep. quote: ORIGINAL: Daddyslilpookie I have a question for all Masters and Mistresses and slaves, my question is my Master says we can only play once a month for now, I think that is too little he says we have to be fair to my parents and our daughter because we live with them. When we play they take our daughter off so we can have private time. It is very expensive to live here and we are saving money to put down for a desposit to get out and get our own place. I am obeying Him like a good slave should. Once amonth is better than nothing at all[&o]. are there others out there in this situation like us? who gets little playtime?

SteelofUtah -> RE: Need some advice (4/5/2008 7:50:23 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: YourhandMyAss Why can't you simply play quieter and play while she is asleep HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA... Okay TELL ME That was a joke. I could BALL gag the girl Duct tape it closed and STILL she could wake the dead. Okay that was good YHMA. I needed that this morning Steel

ownedgirlie -> RE: Need some advice (4/5/2008 7:57:19 AM)
"Be thankful for what you got." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QHQJi6lfm6Q

Fitznicely -> RE: Need some advice (4/5/2008 8:46:39 AM)
We're in the same kinda boat. Our little ones are such light sleepers, any good stroke would bring them running. What we do is dump them on their grandparents and rent a hotel for the night, appx once a month. This has the added advantage of not having adolescent paraphernalia all over the place to put you off. It's hard, but it'll get better sooner or later. In the meantime, there's a whole raft of little secret things you can do...just be inventive [:)]

ophelialocke -> RE: Need some advice (4/5/2008 8:50:56 AM)
My situation is very similar, including how often we are able to play. Once a month is better n nuffin, but it still is very rough for both of us. Like littlebitxxx said, someday it will get better. That is all I can suggest as well. It sounds like you are building a great life together. Try to find ways to deeply appreciate the time you do have rather than lament the time you don't. [:)]

DesFIP -> RE: Need some advice (4/5/2008 10:34:01 AM)
Assuming you're not sharing a room with your um, play either after everyone else has retired or early in the morning. Not full play sessions obviously but a little bit just to hold you through. Your parents know you're having sex. Spanking is noisy, clamps are not. Restraints aren't but whips are. Lock the door, put on a cd to cover any ambient sound, be gagged. Get a white noise machine as well as the cd. Layer the sound and it will be harder for them to identify any one sound. Plus you can apologise for having a movie on too loud if they ask about a scream.

colouredin -> RE: Need some advice (4/5/2008 1:42:42 PM)
At the end of the day the kids wellbeing does have to come first, this is an informed decisions and sure it sucks but at the same time it kinda makes sense. Though people can offer advice of playing quietly and whatnot if this is his decision my guess would be that he wont shift on it, its not personal reasons its due to other people that it may affect unfairly. People may sound harsh when they say be greatful for that but I do agree, some people dont veen get to see each other for months. You are saving money so it isn't forever just grin and bear it. If it starts really affecting your relationship then reassess the situation but for now I say just go with it.

Tantriqu -> RE: Need some advice (4/5/2008 2:06:14 PM)
I agree with including more quiet play, plus more cuddles and vanilla orgasms. I had a long-distance relationship, and for a month in Europe I shared a room with him at his aunt's place. The room we were ushered into rather pointedly had two single beds. I keep what's behind closed doors private and none of his friends or family knew he was sub, but after one inadvertently loud night, we returned the next evening to see the beds pushed together! you never know . . .

Daddyslilpookie -> RE: Need some advice (4/5/2008 6:56:57 PM)
I would like to thank you all for your responses, they are greatly appreciated. Master and I got to play today as planned[:)]. My parents took the little one out shopping. Master sent me straight to subspace[sm=tongue.gif] . My ass is bright red and stingy and has welts on it and hurts to sit lol. Anyways I realize that playing once a month is better than nothing at all. I could have it alot worse like some of you had said that he could be away at war ect. that would be horribly awful. Master says it will get better we just have to be patient. Plus I think what he did today will hold me over for awhile[;)]

SimplyMichael -> RE: Need some advice (4/5/2008 7:01:50 PM)
Oh what I would give for the luxury of having my partner lay down with me every night. I am finishing up school and we won't be able to live together for another year. We only get to SEE each other once a month. That doesn't mean you aren't right for you but plenty have it FAR worse. Also, cudos to you two for making the sacrifice to save and build up equity.

mstrj69 -> RE: Need some advice (4/5/2008 7:59:52 PM)
You did not mention the little one's age, whether or not you have asked your parents if they want to take her more often as you do not want to keep them from having time with her. Also not mentioned were your master's parents (or siblings of either of you) and where they lived and do they want to have some time with your daughter? And sure to have some extra play time with your master, you might have to give up some extra free time of your own and spend it with him instead. As your daughter gets older she is going to want to spend time with her friends so naturally there is going to be more free time to play.

Daddyslilpookie -> RE: Need some advice (4/5/2008 8:16:39 PM)
Our daughter is 5 almost 6. My parents have no problem taking her once in awhile. My master doesn't have contact with his parents. Master also works long days for he is a manager of a surf company and only gets one day a week off and that day we spend together. As for my free time I really don't have any Master gives me chores, clean, laundry, run errands my slave duties to do when he is at work. When I do get free time I usually read a book or come on the message boards if Master lets me.

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