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RE: How to react - 10/17/2005 4:29:22 PM

IwiltakeU

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I find that with subs or slaves as well they want a stronge domme and then get up set when you send them a chat invite or message. I think a real person on will at least say this not working or follow up with they say they intened to do. Keep seeking out the real ones and don't allow the fakers get you done. Mistress Nancy

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RE: How to react - 10/17/2005 4:46:02 PM

realsumissive

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I'm hoping that a strong domme will accept my invitation to chat.

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RE: How to react - 10/17/2005 6:44:07 PM

Fawne

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While I'm not a fan of the cyber world, I think there are some people who can form firm attachments to people they have not met. Losing in that kind of relationship can really hurt.

yes. no one should weigh or judge any relationship and quality of communication.

Sincere thanks for teaching ,
fawne

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RE: How to react - 10/18/2005 5:22:16 AM

ruhdwulf

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As many have said here before me, this is one of the risks of online communication and online relationships. That said, I think it was incredibly rude. To me it is evidence of a poor Dom. Of someone, no matter what the complications, unsure of themselves.

As for what to do? Let go. Hanging onto it give this person power over you. Granted, you want that, but not in this way. Because there is no human being there.

Why would you want an answer, a dialog, an explanation from him? It would be meaningless. He needs to find the answers and the explanations in himself and it's not your job to do that for him.

Best of luck.

kind regards,
Ruhdwulf ^..^

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RE: How to react - 10/18/2005 10:58:10 AM

wolfinside

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Six years ago I found myself newly single after many years.

When I started dating I used the web of course. I was very diligent about answering every email from women etc.

But I noticed that I did not receive the same courtesy.

In time I realized that when people ignore your phone calls, emails etc it is the "universal signal for disinterest".

So now when I get ignored in this way, I don't take it personally, I just move on.

People just don't want confrontation.

I still make sure I let people know what's going on if I am done with a relationship, but I no longer expect the same courtesy.

Wolf

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Re: How to react - 10/23/2005 9:06:57 AM

addcted2it

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ORIGINAL: ropesubby39

Hi:

The situation took place about 2 months ago, i was talking to this Dom, He seemed very nice and same kinks as mine. One day we were talking and He said *i will talk to you tonight*. Well, believe it or not, i waited that night til the *wee hours*. He never said something that could have make me think that there was nothing to go on. Before anyone tells me that maybe he was busy and didnt have time.......i would say 2 months is long. What sadden me is that i saw Him on another site we both go to and NO i wasnt spying on Him since i do have friends on that site. I never messaged him cause i gathered that He was a coward to not even bother to say bye.

So my question is how would you deal with that? Or am I just too sensitive? (ok that's two questions)

ropesubby

Hi, ropesubby:

I wish that I had a nickel for everyone who stood me up!

In order to save yourself from the anguish of having to experience this over and over again, you must learn not to blame yourself for something that you might have said to put him off, or to second-guess a person's motivation for not following through on a promise.

When a person does not honor a commitment early on, it raises a red flag with me. Also, some people promise to do things that they may or may not intend to follow through with. It could be a case of a well-intentioned promise that was made in error by him.

In any event, and when dealing with people in general, you must learn not to take these disappointments too seriously or they will destroy you. People in your life will come and go, but if you let that fact derail you from your dream you are doing a great disservice to yourself. Good luck!

-phil

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