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RedAnhedonia -> Types of Doms (4/6/2008 8:28:58 AM)
I have been reading a lot of different posts and threads about many different topics. I have also been talking with many different types of people. I have a question ... What are the different types of Doms?? I have talked to guys who consider themselves, Masters, Daddy Doms .... and being new ... I just want to make sure I have an idea of what is out there ... basically so I don't look foolish. Thanks any help would be totally awesome!!

SteelofUtah -> RE: Types of Doms (4/6/2008 8:36:26 AM)
LOL I hate to say it but asking that question here isn't going to get you closer to an answer because everyone has thier own opinion. But a VERY Basic and CONTESTED Beliefe is as Follows Dom = Dominant Master = Can be another Term for a Dom or a Term for Leather Folk Leather Folk = People who Practice M/s style relationships and defer to protocol and rules of engagement. Daddy = A Dominant over a little girl Not always Age Play sometimes a difficult to explain union (Ask Little Pita) Sir = Can be someone you are owned by or someone who is teaching you or someone you just respect a lot. And even that list is going to be WAY off for someone else. I can only offer you how I see the terms and even the way I put it doesn't always fit How I see each of those terms. I know that probably didn't help Steel

RedAnhedonia -> RE: Types of Doms (4/6/2008 8:43:22 AM)
Seriously ... laugh all you want. I am. I understand that much of it has to do with interpretation, and opinion, I just feel like I need a dictionary for BDSM, do they make one?? I have been so curious most of my life, but too afraid of my own deviant thoughts to really look into it. Now that I have had the courage to face myself and my inner most desires, I want to know what to call them. But seriously, thank you.

KnightofMists -> RE: Types of Doms (4/6/2008 8:47:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedAnhedonia What are the different types of Doms?? There is as many different types as there are Dominant. Instead of trying to group this one into that group and that one into this group ... why not try treating each one as an individual person who have both positive and negative qualities. It is not important to consider what type of Dominant you want.... but more importantly consider what qualities of a person you want/need and don't want/need.

metamorpha -> RE: Types of Doms (4/6/2008 8:54:13 AM)
As a general rule of thumb Daddy Doms tend to be gentler with their subs, less sadistic, and showing more signs of tenderness such as having their "gurl" sit on their lap. (This is only a generality since every Dom is different.) If you have a fair idea of what you are looking for you can ask specifically for that when making contact. These preferences may include whether you want to be sexually involved, whether you want to do service activities, whether you want any type of pain or punishment, whether you want to follow a lot of protocol, how often you want to be involved, whether you want to be polyamorous, and anything else that you may feel truly fulfills you. After all, even though it is the sub's job to please the Dom, if the sub isn't fulfilled she will quickly tire of the situation and leave.

RedAnhedonia -> RE: Types of Doms (4/6/2008 8:55:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KnightofMists quote: ORIGINAL: RedAnhedonia What are the different types of Doms?? It is not important to consider what type of Dominant you want.... but more importantly consider what qualities of a person you want/need and don't want/need. I more or less am looking for vocabulary list .. If someone were to say I am a "trapezius bubblegum spatula Dom" I want to know what that is ... I mean quite literally that could mean he wants to smear bubble gum on my shoulders while beating me with a spatula ... I'm not sure I'm down with all that. The gum might get in my beautiful long red hair ... and that would be a tragedy.

Floggings4You -> RE: Types of Doms (4/6/2008 8:58:50 AM)
I don't use the term 'Master' often, or lightly. I don't think the title 'Master' is something One can (or should) bestow upon Themselves. It's a title best given by One's submissives or slaves--or, better, by other Doms. I've met two Men who I respectfully call 'Masters', both of whom have been active in the lifestyle for decades. Both have live-in slaves, host frequent parties in their homes, and are exceedingly skilled at what They do--in their knowledge of both Dominance itself, as well as having a thorough understading of lots of various toys and techniques.

TethersEnd -> RE: Types of Doms (4/6/2008 9:01:00 AM)
please remember too that someone's chosen identification does NOT always mean that is what they will be to you. just as they choose what they like or want to be your perception of them and their behavior is unique to you.

RedAnhedonia -> RE: Types of Doms (4/6/2008 9:12:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TethersEnd please remember too that someone's chosen identification does NOT always mean that is what they will be to you. just as they choose what they like or want to be your perception of them and their behavior is unique to you. Ahhh I think that is probably true. Thank you.

KatyLied -> RE: Types of Doms (4/6/2008 9:13:58 AM)
Anyone can call themself a dominant or master. What matters is the relationship dynamic, not how people label themselves.

RedAnhedonia -> RE: Types of Doms (4/6/2008 9:14:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: metamorpha As a general rule of thumb Daddy Doms tend to be gentler with their subs, less sadistic, and showing more signs of tenderness such as having their "gurl" sit on their lap. (This is only a generality since every Dom is different.) If you have a fair idea of what you are looking for you can ask specifically for that when making contact. These preferences may include whether you want to be sexually involved, whether you want to do service activities, whether you want any type of pain or punishment, whether you want to follow a lot of protocol, how often you want to be involved, whether you want to be polyamorous, and anything else that you may feel truly fulfills you. After all, even though it is the sub's job to please the Dom, if the sub isn't fulfilled she will quickly tire of the situation and leave. I want it all!! lol

Daddysredhead -> RE: Types of Doms (4/6/2008 9:48:37 AM)
You have gotten terrific responses here. I think that the general consensus is correct. As many types of people there are, are as many types of Dom/sub relationships. You need to think about what you expect from a relationship and then find the person that most closely matches your "wish list." Once you have matched and agree on that level, the rest will be easier to tackle as you grow to know that person. ps - Def. keep the bubble gum out of your hair! We redheads don't look all that great with pink blobs smattered in our tresses. [;)]

RedAnhedonia -> RE: Types of Doms (4/6/2008 9:50:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Daddysredhead You have gotten terrific responses here. I think that the general consensus is correct. As many types of people there are, are as many types of Dom/sub relationships. You need to think about what you expect from a relationship and then find the person that most closely matches your "wish list." Once you have matched and agree on that level, the rest will be easier to tackle as you grow to know that person. ps - Def. keep the bubble gum out of your hair! We redheads don't look all that great with pink blobs smattered in our tresses. [;)] Thank you so much!!!

subbieforHisuse -> RE: Types of Doms (4/6/2008 10:32:24 AM)
i agree with Daddysredhead! I would only add that to truly KNOW the type of Dom that 'fits' you, you will only KNOW through 'experience'. Don't get me wrong here, i am in NO way suggesting you go through 10 Doms in 1 year. That 'fit' will make itself known to you as you get to know more Doms in the lifestyle (real life NOT cyber). i met my present Dom 4 years ago. 'Daddy' (yes, he is a 'Daddy Dom') was my first experience (in real life) in this lifestyle. At that time He had experienced about 8 yrs of the lifestyle and i was new to BDSM and was trying to 'find out who i was'. After 3 1/2 yrs of experiencing and getting to know other Doms, i finally figured out exactly 'WHO' i needed as my Dom and i came back to 'Daddy' 6 months ago and we have been together since (24/7). Take your time, RedAnhedonia.....

CalifChick -> RE: Types of Doms (4/6/2008 10:51:13 AM)
If someone discusses an activity using a term you've never heard before, you can check it here. So for example, if someone says, "I live for bastinado", you can look it up and then respond with, "I'm sorry to tell you that I lost both feet in a car accident." Cali

Level -> RE: Types of Doms (4/6/2008 10:56:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Daddysredhead ps - Def. keep the bubble gum out of your hair! We redheads don't look all that great with pink blobs smattered in our tresses. [;)] **thinks of what color blobs would* look good in a woman's hair*** [8\|]

Gemini1766 -> RE: Types of Doms (4/6/2008 11:06:49 AM)
Lots of great input here, and the overriding and recurring theme is "there is no set in stone meaning, it is up to the individual." Best way to deal with it is to speak with the Dom/me and communicate with her/him to find out what kind of person/Dom/me they are and see if they are a match for you that way. Titles mean nothing, it is the person that matters. Good luck on your search, Gem

Daddysredhead -> RE: Types of Doms (4/6/2008 11:07:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Level quote: ORIGINAL: Daddysredhead ps - Def. keep the bubble gum out of your hair! We redheads don't look all that great with pink blobs smattered in our tresses. [;)] **thinks of what color blobs would* look good in a woman's hair*** [8\|] Levelicious, you are such a card!!! giggles all over the place [:D]

RedAnhedonia -> RE: Types of Doms (4/6/2008 11:17:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CalifChick If someone discusses an activity using a term you've never heard before, you can check it here. So for example, if someone says, "I live for bastinado", you can look it up and then respond with, "I'm sorry to tell you that I lost both feet in a car accident." Cali WOW I am learning a lot today!! I have enjoy : Acomoclitic Acucullophilia - though I have never been with any other type. Algophilia Allopellia Asphyxiaphilia Basoexia Coprolalia Hypophilia Iantronudia Menophilist - ummm yeah ... the mate to this is what I would consider myself Odaxelangnia Zelophilia All new words YAY !! I love vocabulary! Thank you Cali!!

MrThorns -> RE: Types of Doms (4/6/2008 11:38:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedAnhedonia I have been reading a lot of different posts and threads about many different topics. I have also been talking with many different types of people. I have a question ... What are the different types of Doms?? I have talked to guys who consider themselves, Masters, Daddy Doms .... and being new ... I just want to make sure I have an idea of what is out there ... basically so I don't look foolish. Thanks any help would be totally awesome!! Not sure if this is going to help, but there is a nearly infinite number of combinations of dominant-styles and personalities, as there is an infinite number of submissive styles and personalities. Personally, I am a sensually-Sadistic-toy-oriented-polyamorous-Leather-loving-Daddy-Dom-Master to my pet and all around Evil Rat Fuck.. with Kung-Fu grip. Hope that helps.. ~Thorns

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